Okay, so about a month ago i found myself giving a friend of mine advice about friends. Apparently her niece was having problems at school with a particular girl in her circle of friends (these girls are only 8 might I add). so i gave my friend advice and told her to tell her niece that she really does have a right to pick her friends, that she doesn't have to be friends with somebody because she feels that she has to. So fastforward to now. This same friend that i gave the advice to has turned out to be not only an extremely jelous person (doesn't like it when i make plans with my other friends, doesn't really like any of my other friends) but she also has a big mouth and repeats everything that i've ever talked to her about to her friends. So what do I do? Taking my own advice would be good. I need to let her go but it's not that easy. So how does one learn to prace what we preach when it seems so painful.
2006-12-07 17:27:06 · 12 answers · asked by thegilchristgirls 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Girl trust me when i say i've been there.
Weed them out slowly. stop answering their calls, don't return their calls, don't go with them anywhere and don;t invite them anywhere. If you happen to bump into her outside start walking really fast and say oh hi dam i gotta run i'm soooo late i'll call you, and never call she'll get the picture. Eventually. No need to be mean. Do it all with a smile on your face.
2006-12-07 17:32:25 · answer #1 · answered by Thebronx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is always easy to give out advice but taking it onto your own hands is so hard at times. You need to put your head up high and be strong. Its your life that we are talking about. do you really need a "friend" who is causing you more trouble than being a friend to you? You should try not hanging out with her much and for now on i would tell her anything, make her more of just a girl you know and less of a friend. You dont need to be mean to her, theres already plenty of mean things going on in this world, a few hateful words would be good. So just stop telling her important things that you dont want others to know, and dont make plans with her. Slowly as the days go by yous will slip further away and wont be such good friends anymore and probably still say hi when walking past one another but not much more. You can foucs more on your true friends who will be there for you and who wont back stab you in the end.
2006-12-08 01:33:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you really want to know how to break off this friendship... and that is probably 20 times harder than breaking up with a boyfriend. I know that I personally had a friend that I wanted to stop being friends with, but I was too scared to tell her. So I took the cowards way out and didn't call her or return her calls. Finally a month later she showed up at my door and I had to tell her what my problem was. It was horrible and humiliating. So my best advice is to get it over with. Once you have the guts to tell her to take a hike it'll be over. More than likely your paths will never cross again, but if they do, be polite and move on.
I wish I had told her right off the bat that I was done with her friendship.
2006-12-08 01:32:41 · answer #3 · answered by Rhysie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rember 8 yr olds are a little different from adults. Normally the reasons to the problems are much more complicated as we get older. But next time you give advic picture yourself in the situation and see what you would do. That's what I do and then I can tell my friends what I would to and then it is their decision whether they do the same or not. Good luck!
2006-12-08 01:37:30 · answer #4 · answered by Elle :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep moving forward with what you know is right and needs to be done. You will know afterward that your bravery is its own reward. You can make new friends by being a friend to people. If friends become unfriendly, its time to shake them off, move on and make new friends. May your future be full of many friends and good friendships. We need not go through life carrying the baggage of unfriendly friends when there are new friends to be made. There are many people out there who need you to be their friend.
2006-12-08 01:36:15 · answer #5 · answered by Piguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all she really isn't a good friend to begin with..if she is stabbing you in the back, get rid of her...you don't need her..why would you want a person like that for a friend anyways...you have to do the right thing...
2006-12-08 01:32:40 · answer #6 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
things definitely are easier said than done. you just gotta do it.........if this is how you feel, i also think that you need to take your own advice as well. it will be better in the long run, and you deserve to respect yourself in this way, since you feel youre getting treated poorly by your "friend." good luck.
2006-12-08 01:30:38 · answer #7 · answered by christina rose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey ! i dont know if you should let go of her !
maybe you could try talking to her ! and be a lil more tight lipped about what you tell her for a while ! maybe you could spend more time with her !
if u think it wont b a bigg deal then u shud try introducing her to ur frnds ! mayb she doesnt hav any frnds expect u and she feels left out and this is her way of saying "i am craving for attension"
she must be dealing with a lot
talk to her
tc
all the best
2006-12-08 01:31:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's hard to distance yourself from friends without hurting their feelings..
Start off slow, when they ask to hang out, say you cant, have to clean. etc.
Eventually they will either ask whats up, or start to make new friends, Keeping you in the loop, but not so much.
2006-12-08 01:34:13 · answer #9 · answered by unklwok 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand. It's easier said than done...
But really trust yourself on your advice. Have some confidence in yourself and know that what you preach is right.
2006-12-08 01:29:25 · answer #10 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋