My bf or ex bf, whom Im trying to work things out with, still doesn't let me sleep over his house or even go to his house. it's been over 2 months (around the time we broke up) that he doesn't let me go over. It's because I dont' get along with his roommate but i've asked him to tellme what we can do to solve the problem and he never gives me a solution. he just avoids the topic. i'm getting sick of it now, especially since we're trying to get back together, so i asked him about it tonight and he said "why do u have to start trouble". so i kicked him out of my house because he refuses to find a way for me to be able to go over his house.
AM I wrong or right? If he isn't letting me over, i'm starting to feel it's something more than just issues with his roommate and that pisses me off. i've never not been welcome at someones house in my life.....
2006-12-07 17:26:11 · 9 answers · asked by coochie1 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Dump his jerk and find a boyfriend who wants you. This guy is playing some kind of game and when a guy isn't honest you can't ever trust them. Find somebody new.
2006-12-07 17:30:01 · answer #1 · answered by Lynn K 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well first of all put past experiences aside, it all depends on the roomate situation. Does your boyfriend live there rent free? Ok if he pays rent he has the option to have whomever he wants over so there is something else going on I would say. Maybe another girl is seeing your man and her stuff is at his house? Or maybe your boyfriend is just really trying to keep you at a distance. I have had the same experience, if he doesn't want to communicate he doesn't want to be with you. I'd say leave and find someone who deserves your mature efforts.
It doesn't say much about your boyfriend, what if he doesn't get along with one of your friends? If you and the friend care about eachother you'd understand and work it out. I think your boyfriend is just very selfish. You deserve better.
2006-12-08 01:34:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not welcomed in his house, I would stop asking to come over, I would stop seeing him maybe? Maybe the guy does not want to get together with you again? Maybe its time for you to let him go and find yourself a new life a new love? Its no good to try and impose yourself on him, you feel degraded and unhappy, why continue? Get off the broken record, try a new one. Good luck.
2006-12-08 01:30:20 · answer #3 · answered by Josephine 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You did exactly what should've been done. Not to get your head filled with negative stuff but it sounds like to me that there's more than meets the eyes here. I think it's not just the roommate but maybe another girl or something that he doesn't want you to either 1) know about or 2) he doesn't want his roommate to know he's working things out with you because he's got another girl and his roommate knows about it. Just my opinion though.
2006-12-08 01:29:55 · answer #4 · answered by glmyers80 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right for the wrong reasons. You do have many things to work out, but in the end if the other side does nothing all you can do is start "playing the piano by yourself" and find new friends.
2006-12-08 01:37:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably has a girlfriend. Give him up...the roommate thing is a VERY lame excuse. There's ways around that. You and the roommate don't even have to speak to each other! So he's got something to hide.
2006-12-08 01:28:21 · answer #6 · answered by ßαßε 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I dont think he is being sincere with you.Either he is having other women at his place or living with someone else,,& is putting his roommate ahead of you if he doesnt even want to try to talk to him about you coming over as his girl,,then he tells you that you are making trouble,,omg.You are right.End it.
2006-12-08 01:32:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a wild guess, it sounds like his roomate is female and he's keeping you on the side.
2006-12-08 01:31:42 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just get over him
2006-12-08 01:31:22 · answer #9 · answered by starr67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋