She says her grandma hooked them up.....And i'm kinda worried
2006-12-07 17:19:03 · 8 answers · asked by lil_moon_shine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You are right to be worried. First off the boy is in fact an adult, and your friend is in fact and legally a child. It is clearly a bad idea to have a relationship between an adult and a child. If the relationship becomes sexual he could end up in jail for statutory rape. I find it hard to believe that her grandmother would be so irresponsible to condone such a relationship.
But there is not much you can do. Your friend probably thinks it's cool to be dating an 18 year old, and if he is immature it may seem like a good match to them both.
2006-12-07 17:30:15 · answer #1 · answered by ZCT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope. it's exciting to her, but the guy has serious, serious issues if he's 18 and dating a 14 year old. she'll get hurt, you're a good friend to be worried. and she has a horrible grandmother if that's true, which means she may have a not so good mom, which may mean she has insecurity issues, which may be the reason she's with an 18 year old boy. i'm totally over-analyzing. but it's not good. she's not ready for a real relationship, and ironically, this boy isn't either obviously.
2006-12-08 01:23:04 · answer #2 · answered by corinne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right- you should be worried. I doubt the relationship is going anywhere where Grandma thinks it is. At this age and stage, that is a huge age gap that could lead to dangerous consequences, especially if this is your friend's first time in a relationship. Try to make sure she isn't spending too much time with him, 'cause you don't know what the heck she's doing with all that time with him- or that, she isn't overly defensive if you bring up the matter of you and him.
2006-12-08 01:25:24 · answer #3 · answered by cecikuna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Granma's still live way back in the days where charming young men take beautiful maidens to court... But sadly, the world is full of sexual predators.. in very form... esp a 18yr old horny guy... but then again im being too general... he mite be a good guy with true intentions... but just tell ur friend to keep ur distance, find out who he really is and then get into any comfort zone with him...
2006-12-08 01:23:15 · answer #4 · answered by Meooww 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. 14 is a minor, 18 is consider and adult. I would say, it's not safe for either one of them.......especially him!
2006-12-08 01:28:37 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that is not safe......and he's going to get in trouble sooner or later by her being so young and impressionable. That may have been acceptable in the old days, but these days it's not. She needs to dump him........
2006-12-08 01:24:06 · answer #6 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not really. They're both live in two different environments i bet, like at school and it's going to cause their relationship to crash sooner or later
2006-12-08 01:24:37 · answer #7 · answered by chowychowder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is so long as they dont do nothing like have sex..cuz then that can cause problems...plus if the parents are okay with it..then its all good in the neighborhood
2006-12-08 01:21:10 · answer #8 · answered by a divine dream 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋