My mom says 26 is a good age even though she got married at 23 i dont find it fair.. she says its because i should see the world before i settle down.. im only 18 now and i dont wanna get married yet i just think when i do 23 is a good age... what do u think? HELP!
2006-12-07 17:14:27 · 29 answers · asked by Erin M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
don't worry about what age. life you're life. go travel, experience things. it will just happen, you can't plan it! some amazing guy will come into your life, and sweep you off your feet, and before you know it, you'll be walking down the aisle. it could happen anytime! 6 months from now, or 6 years from now! just live your life the best you can, and work on becoming the best person you can be for your future husband, and yourself and others around you.
2006-12-07 17:20:21 · answer #1 · answered by corinne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is just trying to protect you. When you get older and fall in love and are mature enough to get married then you're at a good age to do so. If you decide to get married at 23 does that mean you'll just marry the guy you're dating at that time? There are differences in maturity between a 23 and a 26 yo even though it's just 3 yrs. But it's silly to argue w/ mom because when you're ready it's your decision.
2006-12-07 21:10:02 · answer #2 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Rules" like this are always suspect. Why not 25 or 27? Statistics show that 63% of first marriages now end in divorce. Something like 70% of second marriages end in divorce. Of those first marriages that "stick", only 10% seem to be happy. Tough odds. So look for ways to stack them in your favor. Biologically, your frontal brain lobes don't mature until sometime around 25 +. So if you get married before then, you're not operating on all cylinders. But that doesn't mean you'll make a mistake. You can marry the wrong guy when you're 26, 36, 46 or whenever. But let's go back to stacking the odds in your favor. Wait as long as you can. Get to know him as well as you can before tying the knot. Live togethr for a while so you can smell his morning breath. Listen to him when he talks. Does he listen to you? Look at the questions people ask on this site. Consider the problems identified here. And if it seems like the right thing to do, then do it and may God have mercy on your soul.
2006-12-07 18:16:57 · answer #3 · answered by judgebill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Age is only part of what should be considered in getting married. Maturity, support, living conditions, love are just a few others that should all be put together in order before making a decision as important as that in your life. She's only thinking of your welfare. Divorce is like an epidemic these days so, try to take the time needed to know the person you get serious about before going through a situation that can take unnecessary years out of your life to find out that it wasn't worth it. I lost 31 yrs to a divorce, so if I would have listened, this would have been time that may have gone in a different direction for the better.
2006-12-07 17:44:55 · answer #4 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like the above answer:)
ANY age you are ready is a good age. That could be 23 or it could be like 90 . I'm 22 and I thought I wanted to get married but it as like any relationship requires a WHOLE BUNCHA effort which personally I don't think I could put in now. Right now I know of some people my age who are married and have1 or 2 kids . I know one that got divorced at 22 and another that got divorced at 25.Most people I know are not married though.
2006-12-07 19:03:09 · answer #5 · answered by primamaria04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get married whenever you are ready to be married.
I wouldn't put such a strict mark on the age I'd get married because how do you know what's going to come up? 23 might be right for some and 26 for others and there are a vast arrray of ages inbetween and outside of those ages that can be appropritate. Just make sure it fits in with your life and don't let it be forced on you.
2006-12-07 17:20:27 · answer #6 · answered by dmxn2k 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't get too stresses over the situation. You are not planning on getting married for 5 years anyway. The most important think is to find the right person and make sure you are in a good relationship. 23 is not too young to marry, but 18 is too young to worry so much.
2006-12-07 17:19:27 · answer #7 · answered by w 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have to say that I agree with your Mom. I was first married at 19 and to this day wish that I had waited until at least mid-twenties. There's so much to life out there and you really should experience things, meet people, see places, etc. before marrying. I mean, if you find love sooner, kudos. But having gotten married a second time at the age of 25 I can say that by then I was much more emotionally and psychologically ready for marriage.
2006-12-07 17:18:38 · answer #8 · answered by MasLoozinIt76 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hey !
im sure ur mom means well !! she thinks u shud b independant .....emotionally and financially ! and she thinks 26 is a decent age to get married cos by 23 u wud hav just finished with ur college and stuff and then u need sometime for urself !!
to see what you want ........i mean hav fun ! travel ......njoi different cuisines !
if ur married its a hugee responisbility (its not a pain ) but the thing is ull hav some obligations....like u hav to b here on so and so date and if u hav a baby or somethign ull find u dont hav any time for ur self !
she wants u to b independant
but most importantly u shud get married when u find the right guy !
dont do it in a hurry !
tc
all the best
2006-12-07 17:37:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get married when you want to. I married my son's father when I was 17 he was 23 and I divorced him when I was 20 he was 26. Not due to me not loving him anymore but due to him putting me through two walls. I am now fixing to turn 22 and i have found a wonderful man. Yes I am giving it some time. but always follow your heart and your instincts. Moms never want their children to enter the grown up world. If you want to get married tomorrow you can she may not agree with it, but i bet she will still love you and be there for you and in time she will be happy for you.
2006-12-07 17:32:30 · answer #10 · answered by kort 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I. as a mom of 2 girls & stepmom of 1 girl, have always said & always will say
" it should be a law that you can't marry before the age of 25"..
listen to youe mom...
.have a life , see a bit of the real world...
marriage is just so different now than the 70's, the 80's, & even the the 90's....it use to be a big " thing ", now it's just " a thing "
I was told before ( & at a early age ).
" It's easier to get in to , than out of " ,
& that's a strong statement..
you have a lifetime for commitment, & marriage these days ?
2006-12-07 17:26:29 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋