My boyfriend and i have been together for 4 years. We have been pregnant and lost it, we have planned on getting married a few different times and didn't. My point of telling you this is to let you know that we have been through alot. Now he doesn't like kissing, and i don't understand, i mean, seriously, we only kiss like once every week or two. We never have makeout sessions or anything. He will give me excuses such as : Your breath smells bad, my breath smells bad, your breath tastes like toothpaste, i don't want you to get sick, i don't want to get sick. Just stupid things. I don't understand what is so wrong, i mean he still wants to have sex with me, why won't he kiss me, we never makeout, he just really hurts my feelings, he makes a digusted face when i go in for a kiss, and i am just at my witts end!
2006-12-07 17:13:37 · 15 answers · asked by jashaunte 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
is kissing the only thing that he doesn't do? If he otherwise seems to care for you, enjoys your company, asks how your day was, defends you if someone insults you, is thoughtful, etc etc, then maybe it's ok. If he seems bored and distant and only wants sex, you are missing out.
just my opinion.
2006-12-07 17:20:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not telling you the truth. Whatever it is, he is not being a man about it by telling you the truth even if it's going to hurt your feelings.
Something is turning him off from kissing you especially if he used to do it before. Maybe or maybe not, you have done something that now grosses him out. Maybe he has had a bad experience about something.
Some people won't kiss their mate after the mate has performed oral sex on them. Something is on his mind when he thinks of kissing you. Do you have cold sores? Did you eat something that grossed him out? I'm telling you, he knows the real reason and I can only imagine how this is stressing you out.
I know you want to fix whatever the problem is, but you got to get him to speak up. You're good enough for sex, but not for a kiss?
My feelings are hurt for you! Let me know what answer he finally gives you.
2006-12-08 01:22:03 · answer #2 · answered by Tired of being Mr. Nice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, move on and move out. The romance is over and evidently he does not think anything is left. Stop wasting your time. If he has not cared enough to marry you then that pretty much sums up his commitment to you= 0.
There are lots of men in the world and there are plenty for you. Just make it a clean cut and get him out of your life.
Move in with a girl friend of relative and sort out your life. Go out with friends and have fun.
If he won't kiss you then he doesn't want anything from you.
2006-12-08 01:18:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could be wrong, but I think he is avoiding intimacy. When my husband and I are fighting, I do not want to kiss him. Kissing is an intimate thing to share, it's not like sex where people have a biological need for it. Kissing is optional and for the most part a way of showing love. Just my theory....
2006-12-08 01:58:19 · answer #4 · answered by sunny_tennessee_25 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has a problem. Think about the different ways that he shows affection for you. Ask yourself if kissing infrequently is the only behavior that shows he lacks interest in showing you affection. Sex and infrequent kissing are a poor set of behaviors for showing you affection. Let him know how his behavior (or lack thereof) does not make you feel that he has much affection for you. Let him work on his need to show you affection in better ways and give him feedback about whether he's improving.
2006-12-08 01:25:43 · answer #5 · answered by Piguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's got someone else. Shunned intimacy nearly always points to another love interest. He may still want to have sex, out of physical gratification. Even hookers won't kiss because it seems too intimate. Any change in romantic behavior means there is an outside influence.
2006-12-08 09:50:00 · answer #6 · answered by none 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, I am the same way, for one because he really did have horrible breath but he finally quit smoking and started brushing but I really just don't like kissing.
It is weird and I don't understand the point of having someones nasty tongue in my mouth... maybe he feels the same.
sorry
I hope you just ask him and find out what his deal is.
2006-12-08 01:20:56 · answer #7 · answered by Sunbunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not kissing is a way of staying emotionally detached. he may not even realize it but this is what he is doing. you say you have planned on marriage and never gto there. i think he has a serious commitment issue. you being together 4 years is amazing with this kind of emotinal detachment.
2006-12-08 01:22:20 · answer #8 · answered by jusme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him straight up why he didn't want to kiss you and tell him you don't want an excuse you want the truth.
2006-12-08 01:16:52 · answer #9 · answered by graciepooh30 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has obsessive compulsive disorder and has a strong fear of exchanging germs or other things when you kiss.
2006-12-08 01:15:51 · answer #10 · answered by ßαßε 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋