My boyfriend and i celebrated Christmas early this year. He like all the things I got him (a jacket, shoes, cologne, picture frame), but I did not particularly like the gift he gave me. He got me jewelry - a necklace, earrings and a ring that all match; it's very pretty, but the color and the gold chain and such is not something i would have picked out for myself nor something i really like. I feel horrible because he spent a lot of time picking it out, and once he could tell i was dissapointed (which i tried very hard to hide), he said that he spent $200 dollars on it. (we're both in college, so that's a lot of money!) He's very angry at me, and i feel horrible. But i feel like if he spent that much money, it should be something that's going to get a lot of use. Am i being too selfish or picky? I just want to do what's right. He's said we can take it back, but i know that will devastate him, but his feelings are already hurt. I feel horrible.
2006-12-07 17:11:52 · 11 answers · asked by Amelia F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He is probably just disappointed and a bit embarrassed that he didn't get you something you liked. I would tell him how much it means to you and then say something like " girls can be so silly being so particular about what colors look good on us. Maybe we can go shopping together so we can pick the perfect thing for my skin tone." Best to appease him a bit at this point. His intentions were obviously wonderful. Let him know that you want to be able to wear the jewelry all the time and it would be so special if you picked it out together. He is most likely not angry at you but at the way things turned out. It is OK to be picky when it comes to this. You are right that $200 is a lot of money for a college student to spend and it should be on something you will cherish and that he knows makes you happy.
2006-12-07 17:22:53 · answer #1 · answered by Joy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ur not being selfish or picky. Sometimes its hard to hide disappointment.
But u know what I would do? Say no, dont take it back. Its not what u would have picked but it represents his love for u! Wear it proudly and every time u see it think how much he loved u to spend his time picking it out and saving the money for it. Eventually u will start to like it.
I think thats whats right. Because he is already mad and it might mess up a good relationship. He must care about u a whole lot! Just dont look at it as something he messed up. He did get it right in his own way. He bought you a good present that shows how much he loves u. What is more important? Having something u would have picked urself? (I think u can get that anytime; every time u go shopping is something u pick urself) Or is being happy with him and making him proud of his effort more important to u?
I think u know the answer if u agree with this.
2006-12-07 17:30:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well the jig is up about you being unhappy about it so you might as well take his offer and take it back. Explain that you love the idea he was so thoughtful but it just isn't your style and you want to really enjoy what he gets you. Tell him that if he was unhappy with his gift that you would gladly exchange if for something he is more into. But you have to mean that because he might now think too highly of your gift either. If all fails give him a blow j*b and he will be sure to forget the jewelry.
2006-12-07 17:17:52 · answer #3 · answered by l'il mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my boyfriend, the love of my life, gave me anything at all, I loved him so much that I enjoyed receiving anything he took pride in buying for me. I could just picture him out on his own doing this for me. If it were something I would not ever pick for myself I would like it all the more because that is how we get outside of a rut and experience a different taste. The only thing I cannot really get into accepting that is extremely different is food. I think we should always be gracious receivers and not condemn someone's effort we are supposed to love and respect.
2006-12-07 17:24:59 · answer #4 · answered by PZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tuff situation. I know I have had difficulty picking out gifts for my girlfriend. To me, it is the most stressful thing about the holidays. If you do decide to take bach the gift, make sure you do something extra special for your boyfriend so he knows you care about him. Also, if he can get a refund, pick something out that is less expensive so you will not look selfish Next year drop lots of hints early on.
2006-12-07 17:16:31 · answer #5 · answered by w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all do not feel bad.
I have to say that you have a wise boyfriend because jewerly, flowers and chocolates are the type of gift you should make to your girlfriend, some people give pullowers, electronic consumer goods and so on, witch is not apropiate!
If I was you, I would tell him you love him and that you see how much effort he made and I would change it.
2006-12-07 17:15:58 · answer #6 · answered by www.tr-avel.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You suck it up and wear it every once in awhile. I have received gifts that I wasn't particularly crazy about but they always grew on me because I knew he picked them out alone, and with love. I don't know about your boyfriend, but my husband has a hard time making decisions. I know when he gets me stuff that I don't love, to pretend I do because he might not pick out anything again. Yeah, I might not like that either, but he wouldn't have chosen it if he didn't think you would love it. Saying you hate it is like saying he doesn't know you. It's up to you, but I think you'll feel guilty and his feelings will be hurt if you take it back.
2006-12-07 17:15:48 · answer #7 · answered by MARIE 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Apologize to him and tell him you didn't mean to be disappointed.
It's not about how expensive something is. It's how much thought he put into the gifts.
My boyfriend had bought me a shirt one time. I acted like I liked it... but in all honesty, I don't really... But I wear it to make him happy.
2006-12-07 17:16:04 · answer #8 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but some guys have bad taste, thank goodness my man has good taste...he has bought me necklaces, purses, boots, blouses, and really honest he does have good taste..but it is ok not to like it, return it...he will get over it..at least your being honest about not liking it,
2006-12-07 17:17:45 · answer #9 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep it, and make it look like ur like it. wear it occasionally for a few months and then hide it in the back of ur jewelry box.
2006-12-07 17:15:02 · answer #10 · answered by a divine dream 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋