but you can't because it just doesn't work that way... (ex. I'm in a horrible mood. If I go to work today, I'll probably snap someone in half with my mouth if they cross me".
2006-12-07 16:54:48 · 24 answers · asked by answermaker96 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
If you are an adult, you must get a grip, and handle these days like one. I don't want to sound mean, so please don't take my answer that way. I all too well, know what you mean! Work is work, and that is why they call it that. So, on those ugly days, you must stay consious that you are getting paid to do what ever your job is, and do it well. Then, also, KNOW that when the work day is over, it is YOUR choice to be "anti social". Also a pleasure of being an adult!! It gives you something to look forward to when your work day is over, if you relish the idea of being alone etc. I know it is probably not what you want to hear, but, dear, it is a REAL answer, for a REAL question, in the REAL world. This is how I have learned through the years to manage these days. When I was younger, yes, I would actually 'snap'. But, it helped no one, and especially not me! After many mistakes in my own life, I have learned that so much is making a consious choice in life. So, please, instead of snapping. Pick yourself up, brush yourself off, go to work with a smile on your face, maybe knowing that you are very lucky to have a job etc. will also help. But, if someone tries pushing you into doing something after work, JUST SAY NO THANK YOU! I am a bit under the weather, and I just need to have some alone time to recouperate. Anyway, good luck to you, and I hope this helps a bit, anyway! Happy Holidays, and prosperous New Year!
2006-12-07 17:03:07 · answer #1 · answered by cathyjohnjayjantracipaige 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless you have sick time or PTO that you can take, simply leave your bad attitude at the door. Go in with a smile and keep reminding yourself to smile,and eventually your attitude will change. Do something nice for yourself on the way in (favorite cup of Starbucks) or on your break (a piece of chocolate), but DON'T take your personal problems in with you. It's not fair to the other people you work with, and will keep everyone one from getting much accomplished if they have to tip toe around you all day.
If this is a constant thing, and you hate going to work, it's time to look for a new job.
2006-12-07 16:58:18 · answer #2 · answered by searious 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i'm not an adolescent, yet i do not see any damage in it in any respect. there is not some thing incorrect with wanting to stay at residing house and only sit back watch video clips. hi there, I do all of it the time, actually have a toddler, yet nonetheless. i love to stay residing house ninety% of the time, sit down decrease back and relax. also that is a lot more on your price range, lol :D
2016-11-30 07:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ennui sucks doesn't it?
Me, when the mood hits I sit at my desk do some research for my novel while listening to some good angry music.
DigitalGunfire.com has awesome industrial, darkwave and EBM stuff while TormentedRadio has goth rock (sorry to any emo fans. they play REAL music), some punk and the like.
Other times I go and just splash paint on my canvas and letting everything out. Jackson Pollack had the right idea...
Or I let myself drunk enough to sleep but not enough to puke.
edit: Good grief. So many schamltzy, cop out answers here.
I'm expecting a "Turn your frown upside down!" anytime soon.
And look, there's that person who thinks they're a shrink. I remember you and your useless drivel.
2006-12-07 16:58:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
good question! i don't know really, just bite your tongue, (that's not really good advice)
i just remebered a story my sister once told me, she used to volunteer for an animal shelter, and they used to take animals to some kinda foster place for delinquents, for some kinda pet therapy,
well one day one of the kids spoke to her and said something to the effect of, thank you so much for being a nice person. everyone (even the other volunteers) treat them like they were servants or like they had the plague and she made treated them like people,
anyway, the kid said she really brighten up their day and said they were always so happy to hear she was coming ect...
so maybe the point is act in a way that makes others happy to know you're coming (you don'thave to be a barbie doll or anything), but maybe the day you snapp at someone creates a domino effect and some goes home and yells at kids or maybe you're good attitude rubs off and they go home and give their kids a hug...
2006-12-07 17:08:00 · answer #5 · answered by evilmonkeyboy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am married and have 2 yr old daughter. In situations you have described above, i will spend my time playing with my totally innocent daughter. Her smile usually will wipe off my worries.
Before marriage, i used to pamper myself with all the things that will make me happy at the moment - like a good food in a gr8 restaurant, a good DVD, going for a quick ride, etc.
Most importantly i will switch off my mobile phone and reduce the ring volume of landline phone.
2006-12-07 17:09:06 · answer #6 · answered by sridhar_2103 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Reading the Psalms does work quite well. David went through some serious crap when he was writing those. I am a good bit antisocial myself. It only bothers me when i think of the possible future consequences of driving everyone away. Readin Robinson Crusoe right now, that might be a good "anti" antisocial book. :)
2006-12-07 16:59:38 · answer #7 · answered by Kreutznaer 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get to the real root of your mood, deal with that
maybe use The Courage to Heal Workbook - by Laura Davis
2006-12-07 17:04:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You suck it up and put on a happy face. Fake it until you make it. We all have bad days. If we all acted on our feelings people would be smacking each other in the mouth constantly.
Close your eyes and visualize a world of non stop slappers. Maybe you will smile and take an edge off that bad mood of yours.
2006-12-07 17:00:22 · answer #9 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go through with your obligations (because you're a responsible adult), but try to keep to yourself as much as possible. When it's not possible, try to say as little as possible, and treat yourself to something nice afterwards when you've made it the whole day without a catastrophe (or maybe rewarding yourself every couple of hours would help it stick better). You really can get through it, and no, it's not smart to just ignore the world for the day. Get up, get going, and FIGHT IT!
2006-12-07 16:58:53 · answer #10 · answered by A W 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋