I recently had a huge falling out with a friend, we both did and said things that are horrible. I am very sorry for this and forgive him but he hasn't returned my calls or attempts to make amends. I know I need to give hoim space to heal, but what is a good way to open the lines of communication, any grand gestures you can suggest?
2006-12-07 16:45:34 · 8 answers · asked by Windrider 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Leave the grand gesture alone and give him time/space to heal. Send him a letter expressing your regret and sorrow at losing the friendship and that you hope he will be able to open his heart enough to allow you to be friends again. Mention that you hope he contacts you if/when he is able to do so. Then let go, let God.
2006-12-07 16:48:58 · answer #1 · answered by searious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point he has shut his end of communication and the more you try to contact him the more he'll ignore you. I know it's hard, but you really need to give him some space so he can gather his thoughts and emotions regarding whatever dispute the two of you had. Just lay back for a minute and hold your tongue - when he's ready he'll contact you. Remember: The phone works both ways!
2006-12-08 00:49:43 · answer #2 · answered by Sasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must give him time. Stop calling him. Wait a month and then just leave a message saying that you really are sorry and miss your friendship. Just call once a month. Some people take longer to heal. Some make a choice to heal and move on.
2006-12-08 00:49:38 · answer #3 · answered by HDGranny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him face to face and ask him to have a beer (or drink or food or whatever) and proceed to deeply apologize.
But yes, give him space first, but not so much that he thinks you do not care either.
He may choose not to forgive. I hope that's not the case b/c you sound like you really care for this person. I hope it all works out.
oh yes, if you guys were really close, do something that will make him smile then ask for the drink and the apology to follow.
Good luck to you!
2006-12-08 00:50:29 · answer #4 · answered by LittleFreedom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sometimes things like this change your relationship. I would let it cool for a bit, especially if you have tried already. I have had huge fights with friends and things don't always go back to the way they were. But that's OK, it teaches you how far you can go with people and how far you should let other people go with you. I hope it works out for you.
2006-12-08 00:51:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just write him an honest letter and don't expect him to take any part of the blame even if he should. if you truly want you friend back do not be accusing in any manner in the letter just let him know that you miss his friendship and when he is ready you want your friend back. then just give him his space. if he is truly a friend he will see your honesty and make amends
2006-12-08 00:49:34 · answer #6 · answered by jusme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sky writing, ad in the local news paper, billboard.
Or you could get something in his favourite magazine.
Or just fall on your sword. Walk up to him and say I'm Sorry.
Takes the bigger person to admit that they are wrong
2006-12-08 00:51:11 · answer #7 · answered by Katie G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him some time to come around and eventually you guys will be good again
xOXO
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2006-12-08 00:49:34 · answer #8 · answered by KatastropheGirl™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋