I was given a gift certificate for a fulll body massage just recently by some friends. It was a local one but in a private home. I have some back pain and was looking forward to some relief as I have not had a massage in many years. My wife was saying I should go and I then booked and made arrangements. When I arrived it seemed like a business but it is run from a home as mentioned. The girl asked me to undress and lie on the table which I did and she performed what seemed a legit massage. After about 20 mins she then reached under me a began massaging my penis. I was very relaxed by this stage and very surprised but did not say anything because...Im a guy. I mean I wanted her to stop but couldn't. In hindsight my friends were playing a joke on me but my wife asked if I enjoyed it. I haven't told her the truth. Should I?? I was shocked, yet surprised but I feel guilty now. Part of me wants to go back.
2006-12-07 16:36:31 · 8 answers · asked by robjoss 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't tell your wife about this ever! You might feel better if you do but you may destroy her and your marriage. Learn from this and if another woman grabs you tell her, "No thanks, I'm married." If you go back then you are just asking for trouble and you will deserve whatever happens to you.
2006-12-07 17:04:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow. Such strong reactions to this question. I suggest keeping things in perspective. You didn't premeditate or plan any wrong doing, there was no intent on your part, and didn't really have sex in any case. Hardly a capital crime, and stretching it to think it is really infidelity. In traditional Chinese massage, there are pressure points in the upper inner thigh and top area of the pubic bone, which are considered normal to massage and help male biological functioning. By American standards, your therapist certainly did the wrong thing, and to do so without even asking constitutes assault.( technically) but a rather pleasant and harmless assault (?) Next time just specify the massage you want, or let your whole body enjoy what most of your body is allowed to enjoy without being over-wrought. Either way, telling your wife may make you feel less burdened, but it is guaranteed to upset her on some level isn't it? and when your wife has the therapist put out of business, or charged, that would be quite a harsh result would it not? when her intent was to cause pleasure albeit misguidedly? Its up to you. They are interesting moral questions. Just keep it all in balance and don't go beating yourself up.
2006-12-10 11:48:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her nothing. Pray to God for forgiveness and a clear conscience. You love your wife and want to do right, that's why you feel guilty. Do not go back ... that's the kind of operation that gets reported and the police do a sting, collecting all the regular clients names. Do not go back ... its also the kind of opperation that may spread STDs. That's not a good gift to bring home. Do not go back unless you want to be on the news in handcuffs with your head downcast, being put in a squad car or at the doctor's office, news broken to you that you have the lifelong gift that keeps on giving. If this was an intended "suprise" from your friends; find new ones.
2006-12-08 01:29:13 · answer #3 · answered by AnswerGuy 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Why didnt you say anything to this massage therapist? They are not suppose to go there and even have to ask for your permission first to touch the buttocks. Do not go back..what will that get you? You already feel guilty..are you on a road of destruction. And hell yes you should tell your wife this..then something will be done about this unethical therapist. There problem solved..you wont go back.
2006-12-08 00:43:05 · answer #4 · answered by Ivory_Flame 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What the F_CK? How come this never happens to me? It's evidently bothering you enough to ask. Hey, it's a massage. So she massaged you. Just don't go back if your conscious is killing you. If it's really bad fess up to the wife just don't tell her that you didn't stop it.
2006-12-08 01:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by jeff b 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have got to be kidding me!! Apparently you are not happily married at all because if you were you would have walked right out of the room and never once considered going back!! You should be very ashamed of yourself and your best bet is to be completely honest with your wife!
2006-12-08 01:08:04 · answer #6 · answered by nkkidw040602 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Answer Guy stole my thunder and worded it much better than I would have done. Don't go back. You're only asking for trouble, which is what shape your marriage sounds like.
2006-12-11 21:57:03 · answer #7 · answered by Lookin' 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are a guy. Exactly. You are NOT a man. A man would have stopped it right then and there and definately told his wife. And to even CONSIDER going back is sick. Think of your wife getting action on the side...does that give you those same fuzzy feelings? Didn't think so. Don't be such a jerk and ask such a ridiculous question.
2006-12-08 00:41:30 · answer #8 · answered by MACmommy 2 · 3⤊ 4⤋