Hi, I have a hard time trusting people cause I had already moved from one city to another and the fist experience was very sad. In this first experience I was only 9 years old and the children at school didnt accept me very much cause I was an outsider for them and had a very tough time making friends, I was innocent and trusted with all my hearth but was betrayed over and over. Now I just got married and moved to Houston and I am terrified I wont make true close friends, I am tired of shallow relationships and terrified of unfriendly people.
What suggestions could you give me to make deep connections with people?
2006-12-07 16:27:54 · 5 answers · asked by Alejandra 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hi! I'm a native Houstonian.
Welcome to our city!
I'd suggest joining a church or other religious group of your belief or maybe even join a gym. You can find like minded people in these kinds of places. Another option is to take some community education classes at a local college and make friends.
Houston is such a HUGE city with countless ethnicities and belief systems. You are bound to make a few friends out of a city of millions.
2006-12-07 16:32:09 · answer #1 · answered by real_classy_gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I saw this and had to answer it...I was in the same situation because I too had to live in Houston for a while and we moved VERY suddenly because of hurricane Katrina so that gave me very little time to adjust. Remember the phrase "everything's bigger in Texas"? Truer words have not been spoken. I've lived in New Orleans forever so I am quite used to city life, then I met Houston. I was overwhelmed by Houston and was not expecting alot of things...it's concrete buildings and super big malls but very little else in terms of character and history. Anyway, brace yourself for the people, many are nice but in my case, they thought they were much better than me. Also, I had NEVER seen more self tanner or fake eyelashes and oversized jewelry on anyone...you'll see a TON of that there and since I wasn't accustomed to that, they had trouble accepting me.
Basic lesson learned, if you can't beat 'em, join 'em. I'm from a nice school in a very nice neighborhood who works hard to look nice, but the fact that I did not wear heels to school everyday and 8 lbs of makeup caked on my face might have freaked them out. Good luck!
2006-12-08 00:43:24 · answer #2 · answered by susie q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way for you not to get hurt is to get a thicker skin.
Don't let little things people say or do bother you. People are going to be people, its your job to be a little more cynical and read them better. Only hang out with people that make you feel good, not uncomfortable. If you have to change in order for someone to like you, its not worth the friendship.
I wish you the best of luck!
2006-12-08 00:34:15 · answer #3 · answered by moobiemuffin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself, don't be a fake. You'll develop new friends, but be cautious until you can trust them. You'll be ok........best of luck to you.
2006-12-08 00:51:28 · answer #4 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm confindence problems eh well all u got to is just to say hi then it might all just be able to work out =)
2006-12-08 00:35:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋