My ex and father of my 2 oldest children refused to get or help pay for anything for my children. I asked him to pay 1/2 of the daycare bill and he said no... he has to buy christmas presents (not for our kids) He doesn't pay any bills, he lives with his parents... He has a job... I don't understand. We live in Alaska, if there's anyone with any ideas please write back... P.S. He owes almost $7,000.00 in child support.
2006-12-07 16:24:20 · 17 answers · asked by kl7hiw 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would keep taking the lazy bastard to court for modification in child support...eventually they're gonna get sick of him not paying and do something about it!
2006-12-07 16:27:43 · answer #1 · answered by Shelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say hire an attorney and file a motion in court for an enforcement hearing.
Or file a "upward motion" to have your case heard before a judge (in my state the hearing officers are lawyers and they do not have much jurisdiction to enforce much of anything because they can only have the authority to enforce the guidelines of the child support). If he owes half of your childcare expense your support order may have to be increased to include this.
If he has not had a wage garnishment processed that is your safest answer since it is automatic.
You need to document everything. And make sure you keep in contact with the Family court or Probation Department.
In certain states if the support grows to a certain amount they must take action to do something. So it is in your best interest to follow through so you children can receive the support they deserve!
I hope all works out for you.
This process is very time consuming and frustrating but if you do your homework and stay on top of every detail all will work out in the end.
God Bless....
2006-12-08 00:49:02 · answer #2 · answered by ye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you taken him to court? If not, you have to start there. The courts will order child support be paid and since it's a court order, he will be in violation if he doesn't pay. Unfortunately, there is nothing you personally can do outside of court. Withholding visitation can get you into trouble because non-payment of child support is not grounds for withholding visitation rights. Make sure to stay on top of the courts about it as well. They can get pretty lax in this area. My ex owes me over $20,000 in child support and the only time he's served is a mere 24 hours and currently has a bench warrant for failure to appear. It's frustrating but outside of the law, there's nothing we can do legally.
Oh and if you haven't been to court, that money he owes will not be an issue. Reason being is because until child support is established in a court order, he legally doesn't have to pay anything. Deadbeat dads get away with everything I swear. makes me sick! Everytime we go to court, I just end up more mad.
2006-12-08 00:33:57 · answer #3 · answered by MasLoozinIt76 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a link to a website that may help you.
http://www.childsupportrecovery.com/
These people (and many others) are private companies that chase after dead beat parents. They have PI's and attorneys in place. You sign up with them under a contract to give them a contingency fee (usually 1/3) of the support they collect.
If they collect zero, they get zero. I had to do that 'cause the state was no help at all & I had no $$ to pay lawyers to take him to court again & again. The legal system is not made for the working poor!
2006-12-08 03:08:24 · answer #4 · answered by upside down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to court. File for child support. If he receives health insurance from his job there is a possibility of him being responsible for that, too. If he doesn't pay it they will suspend his license after $1000.00. The 7 he owes will have to be paid off along with his weekly or monthly payment. You live in America. America doesn't like dead-beat parents. And there are a lot of them out there. But when you start receiving these payments don't budget them in; you may as well just look at it like its a gift. I can guarantee unless they garnish his wages, which they may, it will be sporadic payments
2006-12-08 00:33:20 · answer #5 · answered by HDGranny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your local child support office. Our local one is in the county courthouse, so if you dont know where yours is, the courthouse is a good place to start. They will be able to help get the ball rolling. Since he has a job, they should be able to get it set up where the child support comes right out of his check. Don't put it off any longer, make this jerk pay for his kids. I don't care what the situation is, any man that won't help raise his own kids, aint no man. Sorry, I couldn't help myself about adding that last statement, but men that wont do their duties as a father is a real pet peeve with me. Good luck
2006-12-08 00:37:48 · answer #6 · answered by roganddeb2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you need to take him back to court, and get these things straightened out as far as that.
here is a place you can look into. it's called
support kids. they will get your money out of that dirty dog. that really is sad, children have fathers. and they do absolutely nothing for.
i have an x he does the same thing. so i filled out papers with this kids support. now i might just get somewhere. if you don't have kids support. then call your court house or child support, and ask them to give you info.
good luck. I'm on your side., Go gett'em girl.
and don't back down or give up.
2006-12-08 00:43:06 · answer #7 · answered by tabatha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are asking if he has to pay for your children that are not his? If that is the case, there is probably little you can do, unless he adopted them when he was with you. If he did not his obligations end with the kids that are his.
All that said, if he owes child support get a lawyer and garnish his wages. If you are poor, the state will help you get one.
2006-12-08 00:28:41 · answer #8 · answered by ZCT 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he has a job, then the federal govt should be able to tap into his tax return. I dont know how it works, but please look into that.
Also he should be paying, by the court taking it directly out of his paycheck. He can refuse all he wants, but the court order from your divorce decree should attach his paycheck. Each month you should be receiving child support payments. Report him to child support services. He needs to be supporting his children until they're emancipated...minimum of 18 years of age. 21, if they attend college.
2006-12-08 00:44:08 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to someone at your local child welfare office. They can assign an attorney to help you get the child support you are owed and most of the times, you do not have to pay.
2006-12-08 00:29:02 · answer #10 · answered by bluedawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a deadbeat dad........get a lawyer, or some type of state agency that can help you and force him legally to pay you child support, even if it means garnishing his wages, or getting his income tax check. It's the best thing for you and your children. Now that he lives with his parents, there is absolutely no excuse for him not to pay. Best of luck to you............
2006-12-08 00:54:45 · answer #11 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋