me and my friends were hanging out in the school parking lot aftr school.my friends called and they wanted to come but the bad part was that my friends boyfriend was there so i told them not to come they come right when her bf was leaving.Just so you all know he's a very! hott tempered person and is very protective of his gf. So when he left he saw my friends coming later as they left my friend got a phone call from her bf saying that he saw the guys and wanted to know what they were doing ther and who they were so my friend started crying bcuz he was so angry so he asked me and i told them it was my cousins they thout i needed a ride.He told me he knew i was lieing if i told him that they were just some guy friends of mine he would get angry with my friend for being around other guys when hes not ther specially aftr he leaves.I didnt want my friend to get in trouble i wnt to say the truth but im afraid of his reaction Incase n e one armenian is reading this u know how the guys get!
2006-12-07 16:11:39 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Please talk to your friend right now. Having controlling relationships is always damaging, there is absolutely no reason in the world to deal with someone else's mental problems. Your spirit will be crushed, if not your neck. Young people should be carefree, happy, and making their own decisions about where they go, who they see. I find it hard to believe teenagers can't wait to get away from their parents, all the do this and do that, be home at whenever, clean your room blah blah blah.... but yet some jump right into the arms of someone and have such serious relationships. Don't get me wrong, I love being in love, but it has to be a rewarding love. A kind love. Fun, exciting, full of laughter, tingles. Not the "why in the hell are you talking to that person" kind. When people are afraid to tell their mate, or are afraid the person will "hear it somewhere", it really is not love. Think about how you want your life to be, if you want to laugh or cry, grow or shrink down some lonely black hole. And believe me, being with an abuser is a very sad,lonely place. Please help your friend get it through her head she needs to find fun love, carefree, passionate love that is both taken and given. Real men are confident, not jealous. I hope your friend get's off this path real soon or like so many people know, she is going to get hurt, hurt maybe physically or just in her head, It is going to affect her the rest of her life
2006-12-07 16:59:12 · answer #1 · answered by davidswoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone else on here.
Abuse wears many costumes, first verbal, then mind control, then physical control, then slapping, etc Sometimes it culminates in severe sexual abuse and death. It is a snowball effect of violence, it starts small but as it gathers momentum it becomes bigger and more dangerous.
Sit, talk, discuss. Talk to your friend, talk to her parents. I know you may feel you are going behind her back, but if her parents are unaware of the way this boy behaves with their daughter your perspective may be what is needed.
There are many of us, myself included that could have used some intervention at the beginning, before things got out of hand. If he is that controlling over a guy talking to her he has severe issues and she does not need to be around him until he gets more cofidence and decides to treat her as a human being and not an object.
I Hope This Helps, and Good Luck
Amy
2006-12-07 16:41:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend needs to decide what she wants to do if she wants a life or a control freak yelling at her. i played that game once and ended up in an very abusive relationship. my friends and i use to hide from all the time and then things turned horribly bad after awhile. have her look up abusive websites and take their test to see how many questions fit. i wish her the best. and for you just be there for her cause she needs you more than she thinks.
2006-12-07 16:20:29 · answer #3 · answered by tara 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend needs to get out of this relationship immediatly. Take it from someone who's been there and done that. I didn't get out right away and I almost lost my life at the hands of my jealous boyfriend. It's not worth it. There are guys out there that will treat you good.
2006-12-07 16:15:51 · answer #4 · answered by Shelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know what they say "when something goes good, it is bound to go bad" i think that your bf loves u its just that he is maybe having some doubts about himself, if a person has had a bad experience all his life then he gets a bit sceptical if things go well and u can e-mail me if u wanna talk about this i dont mind, i mean at the end of the day we sisters gotta look out for each other. and u just need to reassure him that u love him and that u will always be there for him.
2016-03-28 22:52:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her away from this guy NOW!! Jealousy and control are not love. He's going to 'love' her right into a hospital one day, and that is not a guess it's a fact. Hope I scared you more than he does.
2006-12-07 16:15:48 · answer #6 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-07 16:15:25 · answer #7 · answered by tony f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's way to controlling..your friend needs to get a set of gonads and let him know this... she's not his property...maybe she should turn the table on him and act controlling for a while .tell her to do this....tell her not to be scared to lose him..if he walks then he was not worth it to begin with.
2006-12-07 16:20:36 · answer #8 · answered by melissa m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to me you need to help your friend get out of that things life be for something dose happen to her she should not be treated that Way
2006-12-07 16:40:19 · answer #9 · answered by leahstone67 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋