I don't know if I pregnant yet but people are telling me to get money form him. I don't want to do that to him. I still love him alot but he dose even now that I might be pregnant. I dont want him to worry about be. Plus he is 400 miles away. I don't want him to worry because last time we thought I was pregnant he was so worry about me going back home he wanted me to stay there. I just don't know what to do can you please help. {asap}
2006-12-07 16:08:15 · 38 answers · asked by katie h 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Please don't breed.
2006-12-07 22:49:18 · answer #1 · answered by evil_nykki 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find out if your pregnant first, then worry!
If you are, then the father has a right to know. You dont want him to worry? Hello honey, he didn't mind having a bit of fun, now it's time to own up to responsibility!! Help make the baby, help support the baby. Someone here had a good idea though: if you dont want money from him, ask him if could pay for nappies, food, milk etc, that way it's still helping you with the baby and takes a little bit of the financial burden off you.
Good Luck!
2006-12-08 01:38:33 · answer #2 · answered by melfromhell001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, find out for sure if you are even pregnant.
If you are, then call him and tell him. He has a right to know, and a right to make decisions.
If not, please for the love of the gods, use a condom next time!
Tell your friends to shut up - the pregnancy is between you and him, not them and everyone else. it will depend greatly on what you decide to do about the pregnancy. If you abort, there is no child to support. If you give the child up for adoption, the same happens. If you live together or marry, he's already supporting the kids right there.
Child support is to help you fill the needs of the child - housing, clothing, food, medical, schooling, etc. IT is NOT for you, it in NOT for revenge.
If he decides he wants custody of the child, then, yes, you may end up paying support to him for that baby. Regardless of where the child lives, you are each responsible for half that child's care.
IN the meantime, calm down!
2006-12-07 16:43:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out if you're pregnant first. Then, if you are, not only should you go for child support when the time is right--which is after the child is born--but you should also seek his help in paying the hospital bill for the birth. He had the fun, right? Plus--you might not be pregnant (which would be lucky for you right now), so wait until you know for sure!
2006-12-07 19:24:14 · answer #4 · answered by Mudcat007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this isn't a planned pregnancy, then you need to be more careful! This is the second time you've had a scare? didn't you learn anything the first time. I wouldn't even tell him until you are sure. Why upset him as you say. Your question was do you have to pay him.........I don't think that's what you meant. Should he pay you? In a perfect world he should. If he cares about you he would support you and your child. Do a pregnancy test, when you know for sure you can decide what's best to do. If you aren't then for god sake be more careful in future. I really don't think you're ready for children yet.
2006-12-07 21:53:26 · answer #5 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a test. Call him and tell him you are pregnant. Honey, it's sad. But you are going to get old and ugly and you are going to be supporting this child until you die (not until you're 18 like everyone says.) You will need his support. If you are pregnant and love one another, talk about marriage. But you will definitely need some type of support from him. Period. You might get cancer or some other type of disease and you will need money to support the child while you undergo treatment and /or surgery. If you don't know if you're pregnant, then don't call him and say you think you are, because that is just messing with someone's head and you will go to hell and/or your uterus will prolapse.
2006-12-07 18:48:31 · answer #6 · answered by glowe126 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to learn a little more about contraception if this is your second pregnancy scare as a teen?! You sound very young too. Babies are fun and cute but are also hard work. I have a feeling you want one or else you wouldnt be so careless. Wait til you are older and able to support a child emotionally and financially love. It will be so much more of a pleasant experience all round...think about it: Which would you rather?.....having to tell your bf and parents you are pregnant, knowing it's going to be bad news all round....and you may not have the support of the father....OR.....waiting til you and your future hubby have been trying to get pregnant and you are able to deliver the good news to him that you're going to have a baby...knowing he is going to cry with joy.....NOT cry with fear or resent you for trapping him?????? It's a no-brainer really. PLUS....it will be so much harder to find your future hubby with a child in tow....baggage! Please think carefully about how you are living your life right now....GOOD things come to those who wait. The whole baby experience will be much more enjoyable if it comes along at the right time. I really hope you are not pregnant. Merry Christmas!!! :o) xxx
2006-12-07 16:16:00 · answer #7 · answered by Teine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your question is hard to understand. If you are pregnant, then the father of the baby is responsible and if you don't live together, then he is responsible to pay child support to you the mother. That money is to be used to pay the expenses of raising the baby. You need to find out if you are pregnant before you start worrying about him paying child support. Take a test, if it is negative then you just need to be more careful next time. if it is positive then you need to call him and you two can decide what to do about it together.
2006-12-08 04:10:42 · answer #8 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, before you freak out totally you need to find out for sure if you are pregnant or not. You do not pay the guy child support unless you decide or the courts decide that you cannot take care of the baby and he gets custody. If he loves you and you ARE pregnant and he wants you in his life you can get married and then there will be no order for child support.
2006-12-07 16:15:01 · answer #9 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well firstly you should find out if you're preganant , you could be worrying about nothing. You do not pay the guy you had sex with child support, he is supposed to pay you but that is only if you are no longer together. However I think you're jumping way ahead of yourself here - find out if you are actually pregnant first & then cross that bridge when you come to it. If you are pregnant then it would be advisable to tell your parents as they are older & wiser than you & will be more of a help than you think.
2006-12-07 21:40:21 · answer #10 · answered by EmmaB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think of which you will get money from him good now. in spite of the incontrovertible fact that, as quickly as he toddler is born, you have gotten to get a DNA attempt just to make confident that the youngster is his. then you ought to take him to courtroom to get baby help while he turns 18. Or the courtroom ought to order his parents to pay. It would not remember no remember if that's an unplanned pregnacey or no longer. The courtroom will seem on the information. that isn't for you it fairly is for the toddler. Oh yeah with the aid of the way in case you do this the courtroom will grant him visitation. they're going to do this because of the fact they seem out for the childs rights additionally.
2016-10-05 01:01:29 · answer #11 · answered by geddings 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋