Mother in law troubles?

Question

My Mother in law is wanting to move in with my husband, my self, and our 4 kids. My mother in law and i do not get along at all she has said some harsh words about me and to me every time she sees me. I need to know if anyone has any clue of how to tell her in the meanest way possible that she can not stay in my house. Without me having to speak to her. Oh and she wants to bring her filthy cat with her my son is allergic to cats and she smokes cigerettes and the "funny ones".

Answer 1

E-mail her this 'You retched biatch, There ain't no way in hell that you are going to move you and your filthy little cat into my house. After the way you treat me and my kids, for all I care you can bunk up with your wrinkled old pothead friends.'

or not!

Answer 2

Did you seriously mean how to tell her in the meanest way possible?? If you did it's simple, tell her to go to hell. lol But seriously, I would talk to your husband. This is his mother and still deserves respect. You need to let him know where you stand on the issue and how adamant you are about her not moving in and how it will affect your CHILD. Your family should come first ALWAYS! If he's not on board and refuses to tell her, then you'll have to deal with it yourself and the only true way to do that is by talking to her. Don't hide or she'll never respect you or take you seriously. I feel for you, my ex-mother in law was a nightmare!!!

Oh and also, make sure to make the point to your husband that what she smokes is ILLEGAL and CAN cause you to lose your child if she's caught and it's in your home!

Answer 3

You need to tell your husband that his mother cannot live with ya'll. He knows the relationship between you guys and he knows his mother doesn't like you or disrespects you. Your life will be miserable and you will never forgive yourself if you let her move in and dictate your marriage and household. You are the QUEEN of your house and there can only be one. Take your house back. Dont have to be mean, let your husband bring her the bad news. If she askes tell her politely as possible that it wouldn't be a good idea for her to move in. Kill her with kindness. Now help her find a place to stay or another relative or sibling. If there was no respect then there will be none now. Think it over!!!

Answer 4

You need to talk to your husband.Reason with him if possible and if not tell him that if he want's to live with him mommy he can rent the two of them an apartment.If he still won't listen tell him that he can't legally allow her to move in without your consent that yours home is both of your not only his and if he moves her in you'll evict her.And remind him that if your child is allergic to cats moving that cat in constitutes child endangerment and you will have him charged and the cat put down.Has far has her smoking goes and this applies to both kinds you tell her straight out she can't smoke at all on your property.If she ever lights up waky weed on your property have her arrested.I know it sound mean but you have got to do what it takes.I have had my brothers busted for smoking weed on my parents property becasuse I caught them lighting up in the front yard while my son was in the house.I also had the officer explain to them that he could have them charged with child endangerment for smoking that crap in my minor sons presence.Also has far has the Mother in law goes I tell you she still isn't has bad has mine.I personally bought a gun a large one and explained not so nicely if she stepped for on my property it constitutes tresspass and I will shoot.I don't recoment you do that but you could file a complaint about the smoking wacky weed and try to have a order put on her to keep her away from your house and kids siting that you are affraid of ;her being near you children while under the influnce of narcotics.And that she endanges your children by posessing it while in their prence.Think her girl get creative.Good Luck.P.S. i am happy to say I have been mother in law free for 8 glourious years now.

Answer 5

No need to be mean, be an adult about it. If she doesn't like you, that's fine, you didn't marry her. Don't give her a good reason not to like you, some people are just misereable people and you can't like people if you don't like yourself.
As far as the marijuana, if she moves in with you and get's busted, you will lose your children, there I would put my foot down. I am the type of person that you can do just about anything to and keep my mouth shut, but where my kids are concerned, no one will hurt them in any way and losing them would hurt them and you. If your husband doesn't stand by your feelings, then let him go live with her.

Answer 6

Make your home UNDESIREABLE. Think of every way possible to discourage this so she chooses to not come there. Tell her about boys & girls scouts meetings at your home 2,3 times a week, the kids have band practice at your house every day, you guys only serve vegetarian meals, a serial killer moved in next door, and that you've joined some fanatical religious group, and you are sponsoring 12 pit bull dogs for the local animal shelter.

If she okays all that then I suggest you move & leave no forwarding information.

Answer 7

I feel sorry for you and your child and your husband. You need to have a long talk with your husband and mention all the reasons this is a bad idea. Can't she stay where she is at. Can another relative or friend take her in. Good Luck.

Answer 8

I know this is not funny but i had to laugh, sorry...
The meanest way LOL I'm sharing this post with my sister LOL
Well i think the meanest way is to have her son, your husband tell her NO. I think coming from him will hurt more that it coming from you...Plus look, you have 6 people already living in a house, she doesn't like you, you don't like her...It will be like to rams butting heads and this will hurt your marriage...Heck i would runaway if she moved in and i don't live there...Good luck!!!!

Answer 9

I am in that situation exactly, but she is already moved in.
Im about to have an anxiety attack, she is verbally abusive when husband not around, if you know there are problems tell your husband unconditionally NO, she is a grown a** woman, and she can make her own way. I am so miserable and at first my husband backed me up but now he sees me as complaining. Its downhill. & so upsetting. DONT DO IT

Answer 10

well talk to ur husband first abt the cats and smoke if he is allergic then he is the one who will say no to his mother. Secondly if she just pop up in ur house then try to avoid her seriously avoid her as much as u can and if she have a little bit of self respect then she will understand the avoidness and then she will just go away.