delivery room?

Question

how would i go about telling my mother in law i dont want her in the delivery room for the second time?

she never was in there the first time what i ment is how to i tell her a second time i dont want her in there?

Answer 1

simply tell her that it would make you a little uncomfortable, and labor is already stressful enough. seriously, i don't know many people who would want their mother-in-law in there with them. reassure her that she can come in right after the baby is born, but during labor and delivery you want to be able to focus only on getting your baby out.

Answer 2

I wouldn't worry about it to much people almost never have a baby on the due date. If for some odd reason you do just have the doctor help you out. I wanted my mom and my husband to be in the delivery room but I ended up by myself and that was fine too. I hope everything works out and I'm sure your mother-in-law just wants to be a part of her grandchild's birth. That's a good thing. You don't realize it now but she could really help you when the baby is here

Answer 3

My mother-in-law asked me who all is going to be in the room with me. I told her only my husband and doula will. The rooms are small, and the doctor and nurses need to be able to move around, and I also told her that more than two people (other than the medical staff) would be too much for me. Later that night, I talked it over with my husband, and we decided that we will just call everyone when we get home from the hospital, when we've had a chance to get to know our baby and get some rest.

Answer 4

Had this problem myself! I gently put it that my husband and I would like to try something a little different this time as it was going to be our last child (don't know about you) and that we wanted people in the delivery room to be relaxed and quieter than the first time. She seemed to understand... I did have other "excuses" ( we were going to ask her to look after our older child!!) but I think she was ok with it. We did let her be the first one to visit afterwards though!! Good luck!

Answer 5

I would just tell her that you would be more comfortable if there were less people in the room this time around. Or say that you would really like that particular moment to be spent with you and your spouse and after the child is cleaned up and you are ready for visitors she is more then welcome to come and visit.

I never had my inlaws in the room with me. The idea just made me uncomfortable. My mother was in the OR with my first birth, and waited in my room with the second, and made it to the hospital right as we were wheeled into recovery with my 3rd labor.

Answer 6

If the man or woman who went by way of exertions does no longer voice her wants, the mil would no longer understand bigger. I understand that I initially deliberate for my mil to depart the supply room as soon as I went into exertions, nonetheless, via that point I didn't care. Afterwards I requested her to depart to deliver my babe & I a few on my own time... Normally, it relies who's touring. If it is regional peers & household I might say at any place among an hour or 2. If it is persons from out of the town I might say it relies on how lengthy you consider cozy with & could also be longer than simply an hour or 2.

Answer 7

You don't tell her, or you tell her and hurt her feelings. Who knows? You may end up liking her presence there the second time around and help build a stronger relationship in the future. She'd probably understand though if you told her. She may want to be there for you (not her own needs) so if you don't want her there, all is fine.

Answer 8

first, make sure there are no knives, or steep cliffs in the vicinity.

then, ask her about her deliveries, who watched her give birth, how she felt...

and if it's negative, you can relate and explain that you don't want to go through it.

explain that you did not like how things went the first time.


dont explain at all, have your devoted husband plan her trip to the mall that day, rather, tell her you are having a lottery, and then FIX it- dont put her number in the hat.

Answer 9

just tell her. it's your birth. my mother in law was there with out asking during the first one i thought she was going to leave once my legs were spread open but no she stayed right there. it was definitely not very comfortable. i would just tell her as nicely as possible. say something like: 'i understand you were there for (child's name here) birth, but i want it to be a little more private this time. i would really feel more comfortable if it were just (husbands name here) and me in there. i hope you aren't angry or hurt but i would prefer to have a little more privacy this time around" just be as nice as possible. if she can't understand it then that's on here. i had an audience when i had my first child and it was not fun! i had my husband my mother and mother in law to make it worse my sister in law was on the phone with my mother in law while i was pushing and she was giving her a play by play of the birth!! to make things even more awkward my nurse was a woman who i grew up next door to! i had known her since i was in 2nd grade!

Answer 10

Tell her in a nice way that you want it to be a bonding experience for you and your husband.