turning 30?

Question

i am turning thirty. i am smoking still. but i feel like i am old. confused. is 30 old/ do most women look old at 30?
i have more questions too.
my husband and i have been together for 12 years married 7 he caught a std he caught genital warts. he broke out with them4 years ago he said the must have caute them before he met me do you believe its true. also i am having a hard time kissing him cause i feel that he has a shitty attitude and he wont forfil my fantisies and he isnt romantic anymore. i dont have warts i didnt catch them. any advice for every thing.

Answer 1

I will be turning 30 soon and I think that it is a time for a change in my life, maybe you should think about changes too! I have only been married for a couple of years, but most of the time it sucks! Why should you be unhappy for the next 30 years??

Answer 2

Has they say age is just a number.30 isn't old. Or at least I don't think so.I am 34 and although I do think about how it was when I was 17. You couldn't pay me to be that young and stupid again.Personally when I turned 34 last month I actually felt good.I feel like I am finally coming into my own.I finally am around the age I have always acted.Mature enough to know better young enough not to care.Has far has looking old it is in your genetic make up the way you age.The only thing you can do to counter act your gene pool is to has cosmetic surgery.I know people who are 16 and have wrinkles and look 40 and then there is my mom who is 76 and looks 56 when she keeps her hair dyed.Myself most people confuse my son for my brother.I hear a lot that I look has if i am only around 19 0r 20. But again it goes back to the gene pool.Has for your hubby I would make him answer some serious questions concerning the wart thing.Figure he is going to blame you. The cheaters always place blame on other people to try to distract from their guilt. And has for your self esteem it may help you to exercise if you don't already I know it always makes me feel better about your turning 30.

Answer 3

As far as turning 30, yes that can be very hard to hit that milestone in life. I know, I turned 30 in August this year. Spent the whole day depressed. lol But truthfully, it doesn't bother me one bit now. I think turning 25 bothered me more for some reason. As for the warts, it's very uncommon not to break out for that many years after exposure. About two-thirds of people with genital warts break out within 3 months to 1 year after exposure to them but in few cases it can take a few years to show up. Gential warts can be removed but there is no guarantee that they will not grow back at one point or that they cannot still be passed during the time of incubation. Please use a condom everytime to protect yourself!!! I would definately talk to him, do more reasearch on gential warts, talk to him about seeing a doctor for treatment, and get to the bottom of how he got them. 12 (or even 8) years would be an extreme amount of incubation time, sorry. You need to decide if this relationship is worth keeping. Do you trust him? Do you think you can get through this and truly forgive? Have you considered counseling to see what the counselor thinks? Good luck and I hope things work out for the best for you.

Answer 4

That man is making you old. I'm 41 looking 28 (a 26 year old is hot after me...I'm enjoying the chase--enough about me...) Although I smoke (which I do plan to quit...) I work out, eat healthy and surround myself amongst positive people doing positive things. You do the math, been together for 12, married for 7 and he broke out 4 years ago... STOP BEING NAIVE!! Don't kiss nor have sex with him, you obviously don't know where "he's been.." Continue to get tested and if you should want sex with him (you must be desperate, I don't care if he's my husband or not) ALWAYS USE PROTECTION especially WITH HIM!!! Girl, I'm never the one to tell a person to get a divorce, yet, your marriage is officially over. Thank God you don't have "warts" and move on with your life. Eventually God will truly bless you with someone whom you can remain monogamous with. DAMN, you think you heard it all, this is too much!

Answer 5

im not a huge drinker but i was so devastated by turning 30 that i partied all weekend, and by the time i sobered up i was okay. and no you dont look old at thirty people still think im in my late 20s im 35, as for your husband, i would ask a doctor about the whole std thing, cause i say he cheated but that 4 years ago and you stayed so its kinda late for that argument. try telling him you need more from him and then give him time to change with you, 12 years is a long time dont give up so soon give him time. he probably will come through for you men just get lazy in relationships and quit trying to make us happy. i completely understand i left my husband when i turned 31,

Answer 6

As far as the warts are concerned I would research it online and see what they say about not breaking out for 4 yrs...I have a hard time believing that. If your not into him...why not leave him?_

Answer 7

30 isn't old. Maybe YOU are old but 30 isn't old. Yes he could have caught (please note the spelling) before he met you because it can take years for someone to have an outbreak of herpes. He could have had the virus for 10-15 years before the first outbreak. I would be willing to bet that the reason your husband has a "shitty" attitude has to do with YOUR attitude towards him. You don't deserve to have your fantasies FULL FILLED (again note the spelling) or for him to be romantic. In order to get something OUT of a marriage you have to put something in...

Answer 8

You have probably already got the warts.. as far as the medical dealing with the subject of warts you need to talk to you gynocologist. or look on the internet... As far as you man fooling around ... go with your gut...