Hi, I am a 23 year old girl w/ 2 daughters Kenzie and Ella. They are 2 yrs old and 18 months. I want to go back to school for law and become a lawyer. Is this fair to Kenzie and Ella? Should I wait until they are older? Should I not do this at all and just devote my time to being a full time mother? I really have a passion for law and I'm completely torn. If I do this I wont have as much time for my girls, Is this bad? Urghh... I would really appreciate some third party unbiased advice. Thank You.
2006-12-07 15:45:57 · 12 answers · asked by Ana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Life's to short why not multitask. Its great your thinking about your kids, those r signs of a great parenting. you should find a good daycare they like. Its good for social skills. they will think of it as getting to play with your friends everyday, they will love it. but always remember spend time with them too.
best of luck
2006-12-07 15:59:59 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. I am about to become a mother and have not finished college. Here is what I think and what I plan on doing. If you can, try and get back into the school groove slowly. If there are any online classes you can take first take those. That way it will be at your own pace. If you plan on putting your daughters in daycare then perhaps even with the online classes you can take them to daycare for a couple hours a day while you do your school work to get them used to being there for when you may need to leave them all day for classes. I know plenty of moms who either work or attend school full time. You are not a bad parent for wanting to pursue an education. It can actually set a good example later in life to them that education is important. Hope this helps.
2006-12-08 00:15:07 · answer #2 · answered by gtholyghost 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please go to law school if that is a HUGE dream of yours. You may be doing your girls more good than you think. You will be teaching them that they can do whatever it is that they need to do when they grow up.
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You are absolutely right that you may not have nearly as much time to devote to your girls. But just make sure that every day you give each of them a big hug and a big kiss, and take your time with that. Make sure that the time that you DO have with them is quality time and all will be fine in the end. They will understand someday and be very proud of their mom. Having said that, remember also that being a full-time mom is a dynomite career move, too! Good Luck with your decision!
2006-12-08 00:00:01 · answer #3 · answered by mysterymardi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are still young, and since you've got a lot on your plate there with a 2 yr. old toddler and an 18 month old toddler, I would put off going to law school, and stay home and raise your girls.
If you wait 5 years, then enroll in law school, you'll still only be 28.
These are such important years in your childrens' development. They change so quickly and there are so many wonderful things you would miss if you went to law school now, plus with the work load you'd have going to school, then coming home and tending to your children could be overwhelming. It's your call, but I would think long and hard before going to school at this point in time.
Good luck!
2006-12-07 23:55:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to go to school for law, you face 4 years undergrad PLUS prob 3 yrs of law school. Thats if you go full time. If you have a support system, then I do not see anything wrong with going to school full-time. Thats in the best interest of the future of your family.
2006-12-07 23:48:22 · answer #5 · answered by prudentzeta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u are a young girl if u really want to go school go for it you're kids are litter so u can do it now before is to late.i know is going to be difficult because they need all u attention but u Oslo u are doing a good thing for their future. why dint u tell u men to help u with you're kids if are together or u family.don't waist more time and do what u have to do good luck and i hope u become a good lawyer...
2006-12-07 23:57:57 · answer #6 · answered by *myself* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go to school to better yourself and so that your kids will have a better life. They may be young but as they grow up and realize that you are doing something for yourself then that will make them stronger and they will want to succeed in life. So do it it takes time but it will pay off in the long run.
2006-12-08 00:59:48 · answer #7 · answered by jsxy695 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They would be fine. You would go to school to make a career to give a good life to your daughters. You will still devote all of your extra time to them and they will know you love them. You can be a mother and still go to school.
2006-12-07 23:48:24 · answer #8 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think I would try to start taking some classes now,. Then you might be able to do this and be able to spend time with youre children. Please dont take this the wrong way, Do it while you are young because as you get older it is so much harder going back to school. I really admire you for this.
2006-12-07 23:54:29 · answer #9 · answered by karen v 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the happier you are, the better a mother you will be. if you want to go to school, go to school. you will regret it if you dont. my friend has a 2 year old but she went back to school and is almost done. go for it.
2006-12-08 00:27:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋