She was 83, sick in her last few years, loved music, was a teacher and a social worker. Loved Mexican and Hawaiian culture. Left four kids and five grandkids.
I have ideas, but I'd like to hear your ideas, too.
2006-12-07 15:43:36 · 24 answers · asked by MNL_1221 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
Doing what you did with her . . . just without her. It's a way of keeping tradition alive and remembering her as if she was there.
2006-12-07 15:45:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a tree, get an ornament that will always remind you of her when you hang the ornament this Christmas as well as all the ones to come. Place a love box under the tree and put personal messages in there. Save for your family and each Christmas you can read them, and continue to add new ones each year. I call it a Love box, some call it a God Box. I am so sorry you lost her but keep her memory alive in side of you and she will never be out of your mind and heart. Also, prepare the food she loved to eat for your Christmas dinner.
My mother told me right before she died that she would always be with me and I believe that.
2006-12-07 23:48:51 · answer #2 · answered by makeitright 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your Mum was an impressive lady - and one who filled her life to the maximum.
Why don't you have a themed Christmas this year? Try going for a Hawaiian theme perhaps and hang brightly coloured coral ornaments on the tree, leave off any snow and perhaps have a 'summer' Christmas (something I do every year). You could even make a concerted effort to try and exhibit the strengths that were displayed by your Mum (i.e if she had a good sense of humour try and make the day a slight-hearted as possible).
Good luck and Merry Christmas!!!
2006-12-07 23:48:49 · answer #3 · answered by Kble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know whether or not your family is religious, but they have these beautiful ornaments that are called Merry Christmas From Heaven Ornaments. They are available at a bunch of online retailers, Christian bookstores, and you could probably even find them on E-bay. They are really a beautiful tribute to any loved one who has passed away, as it can be hung on the Christmas tree each year.
The message that the ornament revolves around is:
"I love you all dearly
Now don't shed a tear,
I'm spending my Christmas
With Jesus this year."
2006-12-07 23:58:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make plans at Christmas with the family to pick a "tree" out of an Landscape sales catalog...and everyone chip in whatever needs to be to purchase it and have a special day in the spring for everyone to be there to plant it at the School where she taught. Would be a wonderful tribute for the community too. I have a suggestion on the tree. A Weeping Cherry tree is a beautiful tree with full blossoms in the spring. It weeps like a willow, yet you can trim it beautifully...it wouldn't be too much for the school to maintain.
2006-12-07 23:47:58 · answer #5 · answered by chatterella 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A gift of some sort in her name to schools or music lessons to someone who can not afford them. Special decorations that help you remember Christmasses gone by. A gift of a Hawaiian plant or something that grows in Mexico to a public garden, if there is any such thing hardy in your climate. Some stories of your childhood printed for all the kids and grandkids. That is about all I can think of right now.
2006-12-07 23:49:11 · answer #6 · answered by plaplant8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about a Mexi-Hawaiian luau - with people wearing suitable flowers/sarongs, singing suitable songs: Hawaiian love song, Mexican hat dance.
Have each person speak about your Mom, what she meant to each person, how she affected each person, how much you miss her, what she passed on to each of you.
In other words, celebrate her life and legacy in song, costume, ideas, and emotions.
What a lovely idea. Good for you. She obviously did wonderful job mothering you or you would not consider such a meaningful tribute.
2006-12-08 00:08:59 · answer #7 · answered by concernedjean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is enough time (or even if there isn't) send out a note to friends and relatives asking them to send back a note with a memory, story, experience with your mom. You can put together a beautiful scrapbook using these notes, add photos, etc
You will then have something material that you can pull out at family occasions, or anytime for that matter
Sorry about the loss of you mom
2006-12-07 23:51:35 · answer #8 · answered by kimandchris2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think there are many wonderful answers here.
I especially like buying or making a tree ornament, maybe you could photocopy a pic of hercut it out and glue it onto a bright shiny bauble, then seal it and hang it on the tree each year.
You could plant a tree in her honour, a place where you could talk to her when you felt like it.
A donation to charity in her name is a good idea.
You must pick which one you think would have delighted her most.
2006-12-07 23:57:49 · answer #9 · answered by shopper! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother died in May of 1983 and I just lit a bunch of candles and played her favorite songs for about 30 minutes. but then again I ws only nine years when she died. But then again my dad died back in 2002 and the first christmas after he died I made a donation to american cancer society in his honor
2006-12-07 23:47:22 · answer #10 · answered by sumpinblu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could not even begin to relate to your loss. I am truly sorry.
My idea is that you could dig up an old photo of her and you or her and the family or something nice and take it to those people (sometimes they are in the mall) or go professionally and get a painting of that picture. They can come out really nice.
2006-12-07 23:47:01 · answer #11 · answered by JIMMY j 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋