I overhears my sister saying that she's going to have a baby and she's 17 and is in grade 12.. I don't know what to do cuz she says she's going to keep the baby and raise it when she graduates i know my mom is going to like not let her.. and she says she made me swear that i wouldn't tell my mom cuz i overheard her talking to her boyfriend on the phone.. i really need to tell my mom.. what do i do??
2006-12-07 15:34:06 · 33 answers · asked by sexybabe16 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
thanks for all your amazing answers, my mom found out this morning.. I told my friend and she said that i should tell her, and i talked to my counsellar about it at school, my momwas really upset, she couldn't stop crying.. It's a real wreck house here.. Thanks for all your amazing comments
2006-12-08 09:58:45 · update #1
i can't choose a best answer,so i'd like you guys to vote..thanks
2006-12-08 09:59:32 · update #2
it's none of your business. Let your sister tell your mom...
2006-12-07 15:37:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is sorting this out with her boyfriend, which is good.
Let the two of them first decide what their options are and what the consequences will be.
Ten years ago my folks made me have an abortion.
I told them as soon as i found out i was pregnant.
Since i was living in their home i couldn't exactly not do what they were telling me.
I was so scared and confused.
I married that same boyfriend two years later, and after we were married and had a child we spoke for the first time about how we really felt about the first pregnancy.
It turns out we both really wanted it, but with the folks in between, we each though the other didn't want it.
PLEASE
If you want to help your family.
Support your sister, what ever she decides.
She's going to need a friend, don't break her trust in you.
&
Be there for your mom.
She's going to be upset.
2006-12-07 20:21:58 · answer #2 · answered by Louw D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing would be if you encourage your sister to tell your Mom. I am sure she will when she is ready and it will be obvious that she is pregnant before school is out. She sounds like she knows her mind about this issue. She could use some help with counseling and medical checkups are important to make sure she is healthy. Suggest getting a checkup and see if there are any women's clinics in your area. It would be great if she develops a support system for herself to get through this as smoothly as possible and to educate herself and make the best child possible. She should take a good vitamin and get folic acid.
2006-12-07 16:05:50 · answer #3 · answered by plaplant8 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep your mouth shut....My sister told my mom I was pregnant when I was 18. It took me years to forgive her. Your sister will let your mom know when she is ready. in time she will show and there won't be a choice, unless your mom is blind she will see. You overheard your sister, which means she was having a private conversation that you weren't supposed to overhear. Mind your own business, and let your sister decide what to do on her own in her own time. Your mom knowing now or later makes no difference, your sister is pregnant, what's done is done. Would you want her to blab about something like that to your mom, if you were in her shoes? Your mom will find out when your sister is ready to tell her.
2006-12-07 23:26:41 · answer #4 · answered by mlw6366 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is your sisters issue, and it is not up to you to inform your mother. It is something your sister has to do, once she is ready.
I understand that you concerned and that you want to help her, but telling your mother behind her back is not going to help the situation. At the moment your sister has alot of things to think about, and ultimately whether or not she decides to have this baby it is her descision, not yours or your mothers.
The best thing to do is talk to your sister about it, be a shoulder for her to lean on, and try to remind her that it is important that she lets your mother know. She may find that she is a great source of comfort and support, and that is definitely what she needs right now.
Good Luck
2006-12-07 15:40:30 · answer #5 · answered by yummy_mummy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't tell your mom. it's not your place to tell her. it's your sisters job. have you ever thought she doesn't want to tell her mom because she's afraid your mom will make her get an abortion? and maybe that is not an option to your sister. obviously your sister is going to have to tell her eventually because that's not something that is very easy to hide. let it be leave it to your sister to tell her. your sister has every right to keep her baby and raise it. it's not your mothers place to not let her. your sister is 17 and she can legally (in most states) move out on her own. it's your sisters right as a human being to keep her child.
2006-12-07 16:19:13 · answer #6 · answered by butter_cream1981 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's NOT your place to tell your mom anything, it's your sisters. If you do tell, you will completely loose all trust with your sister and she will never confide in you again about anything. What you DO need to do is be there for your sister and not judge her. Your sister will tell your mom when she feels the time is right.
2006-12-08 09:36:13 · answer #7 · answered by Zodiac_Child 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes your mom should know but its not your responsibility. Your sister is going to have to be responsible and take care of business. You need to be supportive with your sister because this is going to be really hard on her also. Believe me, your mom will find out before you know it and you will never have to be the one to let your sister down.
2006-12-07 15:44:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can keep your promise to your sister because your mom will figure it out....it may not be tomarrow....but ina couple of months she will definitely know...you may want to try and talk to your sister about this and tell her that there are other options. but, if she chooses to keep the baby, then reassure her that her mother will still be there....and the sooner that your mother finds out about the baby, then the sooner she will become accustomed to the idea of being a grandma
2006-12-07 15:39:05 · answer #9 · answered by carina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is old enough to tell your mom herself, after all it is her news. Your mom will find out sooner or later. Your mom cant decide if she keeps the baby or not, only your sister can.
2006-12-07 15:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by ali__ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your mom knowing will be the best idea...your sister is still very young and you need to think about the bigger picture.
Your sister will be mad at you for telling - but think about how mad/hurt/upset your mom would be if something happened and you hadn't told her
2006-12-07 15:37:05 · answer #11 · answered by razor_sharp_redhead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋