During labour. I just read the book "Men and Maternity" and I am wondering from women, if they would generally prefer the father stay away?
2006-12-07 15:33:32 · 22 answers · asked by Mick 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
To be honest I would have to say that having my husband in the delivery room was quite comforting to a degree.
We still talk about our daughters birth every so often and it's something special between the two of us.
There are things that we laugh about when we think back.
My husbands only comment was that he felt so helpless seeing me in so much pain.
But then when asked how bad it hurt, my husband often cuts in and says "Di was in pain, but I didn't feel a thing".
2006-12-07 15:40:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY, not unless the father hasn't been around or is a real jerk. Even then most woman cling to having them in the room to experience it, and to show them what a miracle it is. All I know is that if my sons father wouldn't have been in the room I would have been even more nervous and scared than I was. Having the father there is reassuring, and comforting even if at the time we don't make the guy feel that way! :)
2006-12-07 23:43:19 · answer #2 · answered by lindalbnj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I made my husband be in the room so he would understand just what I was going through. I knew/know him well enough to realize that he would think childbirth was "a breeze" and no big deal if he didn;t see it for himself.
And, some women prefer not ot have him there. It's a choice for the parents-to-be to make together. In the long run, the woman's wishes should have more weight, I think.
2006-12-08 04:32:07 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. Switch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most prefer the father to be there, but some guys are old fashion (I know a few) and they prefer to wait in the waiting room. But a couple needs to have a good relationship for that. woman needs to understand guys point of view.
2006-12-07 23:43:27 · answer #4 · answered by cajun24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what I would want. It really depends on the guy. On the one hand, the right guy could be a great comfort. On the other, you don't want to have to reassure a guy who is pacing the floor and wringing his hands and looking like a deer in the headlights. Or worse, one of those type B personalities who cheerfully tells you to just relax and all will be fine. Besides, if I wimp out and scream, I'd rather not have any witnesses.
2006-12-07 23:40:01 · answer #5 · answered by curiousme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was a little terrified of my pain and felt frustrated that he didn't know what to do for me. This added to my irritation (ha ha...it's VERY easy to become irritated during labour) until I 'gave' him a job. I asked him to stand quietly by the bed and shove a spoonful of icechips into my mouth between contractions. Other than that, I didn't want to hear a peep!
2006-12-07 23:44:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well with my first one i so wanted him i need him there he was very involved with the pregnancy since day 1 (not with him cause he cheated on me )
now i am pregnant again and the baby's father has not been there well we are not even together so i don't want him there if anything i didn't even want him near me that's why are trouble started and we are not together people say is cause of my hormones or the pregnancy that have made me reject him or whatever but he doesn't even try to get close so whats the point anyways sorry for the long story the whole point is see what she feels like what her feelings are and if she would want you there.
2006-12-07 23:42:13 · answer #7 · answered by yamileth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way i see it. It was something we both created together. He should be able to experience every moment of it. Plus i need someone there to curse out for the pain. seriously though, i think it's special to have the father assist with the delivery. It's a moment you can treasure together forever.
2006-12-07 23:41:47 · answer #8 · answered by LoveLeighe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
During my contractions ( I was induced by Pitocin) my husband wanted to get in my face and tell me that everything was okay. I told him to get out of my face and leave me alone at that he can tell me everything is okay when he was forcing a watermelon out of his pee hole. I had to have an emergency c-section and he was in there with me and I am very glad that he was. If he hadn't of been I would have felt like he didn't care. Be prepared for some yelling at you blaming you for the pain if you are in there for a vaginal delivery.
2006-12-07 23:37:17 · answer #9 · answered by Mommy To Be in April 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't imagine not having my Husband in the room. If you are not with the father anymore you might want to consider your mom or sister But I think is is such a miracle that I couldn't not share it with my husband. My dad wasn't in the room with my sister, but was with me. In the end it is up to the couple.
2006-12-08 00:51:34 · answer #10 · answered by krickee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋