how do i kill arrogance within me?

Question

looking for helpful and practical tips. thanks in advance.

well, thanks for the thumbs down.

Answer 1

Firstly by showing humility and compassion with understanding of others feelings.....

Having said that tho nothing wrong with a little attitude either ie:Arrogance BUT you have to learn where n when to use it.

It comes with experience in life's journey's of growing up...♥

Answer 2

By accepting it. It's true. I've accepted many of my faults and have found ways to make fun of them. In people's eyes, it makes you more of a humble person.

Answer 3

Try working in a soup kitchen for several weeks//cleaning up in a half way house for a week// try working in a public pantry for several weeks//-----take the dirty jobs not that PR stuff.

Answer 4

psychedelics, mushrooms or amt preferably. they will allow you to check your ego and look within to find the answers you are seeking.

Answer 5

Go do something that you'll fail at. Failure breeds humility.

Answer 6

I'll start with the easy-to-deal with arrogance types first:

If you're arrogant about having wealth:
1. If your parents gave you a head-start with that then you have nothing to be arrogant about, do you?
2. If you worked hard and achieved it, consider yourself lucky that nothing too devastating to overcome happened to prevent you from building your wealth.

If you're arrogant about having an attractive face:
1. Most people have a good enough face. Its usually a matter of their knowing how to make the most of it and having the money to be able to buy what it takes to make the most of it. If you have the skill it takes to make your face its best be grateful you were given that skill in life. If you have the money to buy what it takes to make yourself your most attractive be grateful for that and think about the above wealth issues in your attempt to deflate your arrogance.

2. If you have the rare, perfectly, knock-out, beautiful face that stays that way no matter what you do or don't do, understand that's a matter of luck; and be grateful for that.

If you're arrogant about your build:
1. If you're young realize that it is very common for young people to have a good build.
2. If you work hard to keep your nice build realize that some people have such stressful situations or less than ideal health status they don't have the energy to exercise; or they may not have the money to join a gym. People in stress who are hard workers and who need to keep going often eat in order to get the energy it takes to keep going. Also, stress causes elevated cortisol levels, which increases appetite. Conversely, some people under stress or in poverty don't have the money or energy to come up the food it would take to add weight if that's what would make them have better builds.
3. If you're arrogant about being slim realize that slim isn't always fit or that slim only goes so far if a person has an ugly face or lousy personality.
4. If you're arrogant because you have great muscles, consider that some people prefer to spend their energies and time on less self-centered efforts.

If you're arrogant because of a good education:
Be grateful you got a mind that was good enough to get a good education, realize that people with minds far superior to yours may have dropped out of school because school wasn't motivating enough for their superior intellect, be grateful you were given the opportunity to get that education.

Realize that students under stressful situations or less than ideal conditions at home or in school may have elevated cortisol levels which cause them to have trouble concentrating. Be grateful you either didn't have that. You may have had stress and difficulties, but, obviously, not to the point where it stopped you from getting your education.

If you're arrogant about being young:
Realize that that you still have so much to learn and that if you're lucky you will someday be old but know so much more than you do right now.

If you're arrogant because you're older:
Realize that being older doesn't necessarily make you have a higher IQ or any right to feeling superior simply because your birthday is earlier than someone else's. Remember how it felt to be young, and remember that you aren't the parent of anyone younger than you no matter how superior acting that way makes you feel.

If you're arrogant because you have exceptional children:
Be grateful you had parents that made you capable of raising exceptional children, and be particularly grateful that your children are healthy (which is really the only thing matters in this life).

Now here's the hard one:

If you're arrogant because you're intelligent:
First, realize that no matter how smart you are there are people smarter (and they may not even seem to be to you). Realize there are many people as smart. Realize there are a whole lot of people very close to being as smart.

Second, be grateful you had parents (or at least a mother) who helped you to become so smart. How smart you are wasn't your doing. It was your mother's (and maybe father's).

Third, realize that intelligence is nice; but there are things like accomplishment, character, morality, etc. that matter just as much and probably more.

The reason I say arrogance because of intelligence is harder to deal with is that intelligent people can get disgusted with a lot of the stupidity around them and out in the world. They can get an attitude and get so sick of being quiet about their disgust they can't keep quiet any longer.

I think if you remember the first few ideas about intelligence, and then try to hide your arrogant attitude as much as possible; then once in a while if you show your arrogance because you think someone is being so stupid or cruel about someone or something else they deserve a little "attitude" - maybe you can forgive yourself and tell yourself you've used your arrogance "for the good".

For all arrogance in general:

Ask yourself what it is that makes you like feeling better than others. Ask if you've become too attached to feeling superior and point out to yourself that having wisdom, understanding, empathy, compassion, and gratitude may make you like yourself better and believe you are a better person for real.

Look around at the world - the one close by and the bigger one. Look at all the illness and suffering and hunger and cruelty. I had a sister-in-law who lost her toddler years ago. After that I've pretty much figured I could be "struck by lightning" if I ever forget what is important in life and why be grateful for all I am and have is so key in keeping the right attitude.

I don't know if you believe in God or not, but if you do (or even if you think there's a chance God exists) consider that it can so often seem as if someone who has allowed himself the "luxury" of being arrogant can seem to be taught some lesson by life. Maybe its just that after a long enough time people's arrogance catches up to them, maybe its Kharma, maybe its something else.

Finally, keep in mind that arrogance often comes with being young and not having lived enough to realize that all those people who look like they didn't do things right may well have done everything right and may, in fact, be suffering the consequences of having done everything right. If you're young you'll find that hard to believe, but some day you'll see what I mean.

Ask what you do for others and what contributions you make to the world on a regular basis. Ask if you use your mind to pursue worthwhile ideas or to think about your own little self. Ask if your life has been so sheltered it may have stopped you from knowing a whole lot of things about life. Ask, on the other hand, if life has been so tough for you that you cannot possibly believe that a nicer life could result in a nicer person.