My step daughter was supposed to come up this weekend with her husband to visit us. He does not drive and so they were going to bring a friend alond that could help daughter out with the driving. The Other girl was also coming up to catch a plane at the airport to go visit her family in a different state.
The trip was canceled and I thought that was the last of it but the husband called me and asked if the "Friend" (who I do not know and have Never met) could still hitch a ride to our area and still spend the night and would I still drive her to the airport to catch an 8am flight. (an hour drive to the airport, getting there two hours befroe the plane takes off That means leaving my house around 4:30 in the morning)
I said I do not feel comfortable with the Idea of a girl (or young woman, I don't know her age) that I DO NOT KNOW spending the night in my home. I have three boys that range from 10 to 18 and I just felt that the whole Idea felt wrong. Now I feel guilty
2006-12-07 15:29:32 · 11 answers · asked by memorris900 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You will be glad you stayed with the first decision for what ever reason you had .our first thoughts are far most important.It was meant that way . You can not be to careful these days.
2006-12-07 15:40:13 · answer #1 · answered by wewamom2503 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't second guess yourself and don't feel guilty. I would've done the same thing. That's a lot to ask of someone you don't even know...spending the night....and then you have to take her to the airport at 4:30 in the morning?? I'd do that for a close relative or friend, but not a stranger. I can't imagine imposing myself on someone like that.
2006-12-08 00:57:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see why you said no and I can see why you feel guilty. This is a really hard one and either way you are going to not feel "right". I think it was kind of unfair of them to put you in this position. No I don't think you were wrong for saying no. You have your own children's safety in mind. That is what a great mother thinks of first.
2006-12-07 23:33:42 · answer #3 · answered by melodi_jean_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You was right for saying no i would have to it's and the past anyways you made the best decision not just for your self but for your family the guilt will ware off soon dont lose your sleep
2006-12-07 23:39:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on how close you are with your stepdaughter. Do you trust her judgment? If I was really close with my stepdaughter, I would trust her to bring a friend home who I haven't met yet, because I would trust her judgement on friends. So if you are close with her, you need to ask yourself, "Would she bring someone into my home that would harm my my three boys, or my family?
Hope this helps....good luck :o)
2006-12-07 23:36:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you were not wrong to say no i think the person was wrong to ask considering she doesnt no you or any uv the family you live with its almost like a stranger coming to ask too huge a faovr for a stranger to exoect of you and your family
2006-12-07 23:45:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel guilty, you have your own responsibilities and the girl who ask...has to be out of her mind. I think its rude of her to invite herself to YOUR home....You did the right thing...
2006-12-07 23:40:01 · answer #7 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were not wrong to say no. that's how you feel. it is your house. you have your reasons why you said no. they cannot make you do what you do not want to do. it really is an inconvenience to do that for a stranger.
2006-12-07 23:36:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not it was the right decision, you judged her without knowing her or even talking to her yourself.
2006-12-07 23:41:25 · answer #9 · answered by sumpinblu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ITs your home and if you do not fell comforable/safe then no it is. I would do the same thing
2006-12-07 23:39:05 · answer #10 · answered by Suvivoru2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋