i took an HPT today found out i am pregnant for sure an i'm freaking out stressing out and i don't know how i'm ganna tell my feionce anyone got any good ideas???
2006-12-07 15:27:12 · 28 answers · asked by Stacy ` B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This summer, I got back together with an old girlfriend after 4yrs of not even talking at all. It only took me a week and a half to knock her up. We were totally unprepared for it because, on paper, she was still married. Our worlds turned upside down in a big hurry. Six months later, we have a beautiful place together with her two girls. Things are great and we are very anxiously awaiting the arrival of our son. If you're pregnant with your fiance's child, things SHOULD be much easier on you. What I'm trying to say is that my girlfriend's pregnancy came very unexpectedly and we are doing GREAT. I know you will do good too. Good luck to you!!!
2006-12-07 15:33:38 · answer #1 · answered by DrRocco 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, calm down, I know it's hard but now you have to think about your options. Do you want the baby? You just need to sit down with your fiance and tell him. There is no good way to do it. Are you scared he's not going to support you? Are you just concerned that he's going to react the same way as you? Then you both need to support each other during this time. You don't have to have the baby if you don't want to, no matter what anyone says. (This coming from a mother of 1 with another on the way). It is completely your choice. Just look at this pregnancy from every angle, even pretend it's not you you're talking about. Talk to your fiance in the third person to begin with. e.g my friend is pregnant and she has only just found out and she's freaking out that her fiance is going to......... It's a start and he'll eventually get the picture. I wish you well no matter what your decision.
2006-12-07 15:32:57 · answer #2 · answered by aussiegal 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is obviously unexpected I'm guessing. When I found out I was pregnant with my daughter after we had decided we weren't going to have any because I had 2 and he had 2 already, I was freaking too!!! I just sat in the dark til he got home after cleaning the entire house top to bottom, and when he came in and asked what I was doing I asked him how much he loved me. He said alot, why? I said, "No, How MUCH!" He said "more than life itself, why, WHAT'D YOU DO???" I said "I didn't do anything but WE have something to talk about. I had to go to the doctor today....
All the blood drained out of his face as he said, "you're not?" He didn't speak to me for an hour and then we talked it through and decided it was okay and got really happy. Especially when we found out it was a girl!!! Good luck!
2006-12-07 15:36:24 · answer #3 · answered by lilphill1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I so know what you are going threw. When i found out that i was pregnet with my daughter i was FLIPPING OUT! I mean major! I didnt know what to do. I didnt know how to tell anyone. I felt all alone in the world. But i just waited till he got home sat him down and told him that we needed to talk. We sat there and the whole time i am thinking (he is gona flip out on me). But actually it was the total oppisite. He was happy! He was so excited that he went and told everyone.
So the best thing to do is take him by the hand sit him down and make sure that there is not TV on and no radio on and sit there look him in the eye and tell him that there is something that you need to tell him.
After you tell him, make sure that you tell him that you are scared because beign pregnet is very scarry when its your first child.
If he is trully a man he will so understand and help you threw all of this and he will understand.
Good luck and just take it easy for the rest of your pregnecy!!!!!
2006-12-07 15:36:27 · answer #4 · answered by nickole30 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey you should have thought of the consciences before you had sex. Have you thought about how you are going to raise the child, if you are stressing out now what will you do when the baby comes. Sit youre fiance down and just tell him. Then you go to a dr. and start your prenatal care, because how you take care of yourself now will affect youre baby forever. Dont worry everything will be ok.
2006-12-07 15:33:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell him you have a new roomate .. and its 9 months before he moves in..no im just kidding..
your going to have to tell him sooner or later.. or he is going to notice.. just talk to him calmly.. its the hardest thing to tell someone.. Ive been through it when i had to tell my mom i was pregnant.. the faster you get it out.. the more time you have to prepare.. and if he flips on you..just tell him that you didnt get pregnant by yourself..
He is going to go through a whole range of emotions.. firstly it wont register to him that you are pregnant and he may not believe you..( i know cause i went through it) he will ask how far along you are.. and so on.. it may stress you out even more.. cause he is asking so many questions.. but.. once he comes to realize that there is a baby on the way he will calm down.. just include him in everything.. doctors appointments, ultrasounds, etc etc and once he heres that heart beat of the baby he'll melt.. maybe i dont know..
I didnt get a chance to do that with the father of my baby. since he was in another country..
2006-12-07 15:35:49 · answer #6 · answered by ~BaByGiRl~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well with my first one I was super scared too. He just came into the apartment and there I stood upset and I just blurted it out. His comment was "so why are you upset?" I guess to help you think of ideas we would need to know more details. Like are you happy about being pregnant? Do you think he will be happy? Then maybe some ideas could come!
2006-12-07 15:30:16 · answer #7 · answered by melodi_jean_99 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just talk it over with your fiance. Then you'll both be able to come to a decision as to whether you want to abort NOW (NOT later!) and get pregnant again after you're married or if you want to keep the pregancy now and try to muddle through life half-******. (Sorry about the BAD pun!!!) Ask your fiance if he REALLY wants to go through with this NOW or wait until later.
I know this answer will catch heat from "Pro-lifers" but life in general is NOT as candy-coated and/or cut and dried as 'they' would like for it to be.
GOOD LUCK!!! You NEED it!
2006-12-07 15:35:30 · answer #8 · answered by x_southernbelle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take him some flowers with a pair of baby booties in it.
Take him to dinner and tell him there.
We did this to my ex husband when he was going to be a grandfather and the girls we not married.
It made him stay calm in a packed restaurant.
After he thought about it and was in no danger of throwing a fit, we left and started buying baby things.
2006-12-07 15:32:19 · answer #9 · answered by Here I Am 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a nice lunch or dinner .Have a test packet on the table tell him you have been feeling kind of stressed out .right? well tell him you want him to know at the same time as you and have him hold it while it changes colors . who knows and congratulations I helped you out a little
2006-12-07 15:33:06 · answer #10 · answered by wewamom2503 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋