how can i change the fact that im so introvert?

Question

i am very introvert.and i hate this part of me but i can't help it,im trying to change all the time,but it's no use,any suggestions

Answer 1

hey mate. reckon i can understand where you are coming from cos i am an introvert too, but i'm trying to gradually overcome it cos i feel like my shyness limits the things that i really want to do.

for me, my introversion rooted from fear. i was kinda scared of doing things because i wory too much of what people would think of me or perhaps, say behind my back. but tell you what, fear is unreal. think of f.e.a.r. as "fantasized experience appearing real". mate, it's all in the mind. i mean, we scare ourselves too much by creating negative scenarios in our mind that have not really happened. the sad thing is that our body cant tell the difference between a real event and an imagined one, so we actually feel scared. so i suppose if fear is the reason why you are shy, then man, stop thinking about negative images. easier said than done, i know, but it's worth the try.

i still want to write heaps and share my experiences about this, but thatll be a pain to read. haha. so ye, feel free to email me (check my profile). maybe i can help you cos we're both on the same page dude. goodluck. cheers.

Answer 2

You don't need to change your whole personality! Being an introvert is a fine thing to be in that you take pleasure from being by yourself and think deeply about things.

Try making small changes. If it that's you want more friends or a significant other, try getting involved with one or two interests that you enjoy. Introverts are often great listeners, so play to your strengths. Ask people open-ended questions about themselves. Some great books to read are How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie and Intimate Connections by David Burns.

I wish you all the best. By the way, I am an extrovert, but I'm marrying an introvert. There's a lot of good qualities in introverts, so you definitely don't have to change everything!

Answer 3

There are a few things you can do..all of which come with work that you must be willing to do in order to change. One thing is to force yourself to be social by joining various groups. Make a list of goals of what yo wish you could be more like and begin with simple steps. Are you introverted because you are shy? or do you have a hard time striking up conversation? If you are shy than conversation is all about practice...I would even suggest a class that requires giving speeches or getting up in front of lots of people to push yourself. If you have hard time expressing thoughts or feelings, again practice is the only way to reach progess. If you are more conscious of being introverted perhaps you can think of a person that is totally opposite of you and try to imagine how he or she would act, what would they say?

Answer 4

You mean you are very introverted, i.e. shy? Shut off the computer and go to a club or something. Party like its 1972

Answer 5

Being an introvert or outgoing are both inherited and environmental. Figure out what you are afraid of and develop a plan to overcome that fear.

Answer 6

Well, it can be tough. But with anything you want to do right, it is all about practice. Go out, be around people. Find the very socially successful people, watch how they behave. Read books about developing social skills. It won't come to you immediately, but given time, you will improve.

Answer 7

Go out and try to met people. Get off the computer!!