Do you say something to the person or do you give them the benefit of the doubt and let it go?
2006-12-07 14:55:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It depends on how long you've known the person and the depth of the relationship. If it's someone I care about, I confront them. If it's a casual acquaintance, I avoid them. It's not worth it to bring it up. If it's a boyfriend, I would definitely, without hesitation, confront him if my gut instinct was that he is lying.
2006-12-07 16:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on what you think they are lying about. First off, if it is really bothering you, just tell them. "Hey, I feel like you are not being honest with me about ______? I don't know why but that is the way I feel and I need to know the truth." Usually they will either fess up or keep the lie going but eventually you will catch them in the lie and you will know for sure. Try to believe that people don't do that even though they do just make sure that you are smart enough to catch them if they mess up. There are many signs of lying and looking down and to the right is the first one. If they can't say what ever it is while looking you in the eye, then you have a reason to worry. If they are lying and can look you in the eye the whole time, they are really really good at what they do. Good luck.
2006-12-07 23:07:54 · answer #2 · answered by lilphill1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you 'let it go' ..ca n you really? Sometimes we hold things inside and they eat away at us until it affects just about everything...its like a snowball effect.
Definitely say something, do not accuse... "I have to tell you that I am not sure about the things you told me. I have a strange feeling about it and I need you to help me work it out...." Stuff like that does not put the other person on the defensive and makes a more calm situation where you can discuss. First, you need to figure out whether the person is worth your time, then be honest, and open because that is what you want from them, Right? GOod luck
2006-12-07 23:03:57 · answer #3 · answered by TRE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let it go. Address this issue head on. The way the individual reacts to your questions will let you know right off that they lied or told the truth. Look for aggressiveness, liars become aggressive when asked if they have told the truth.
2006-12-07 22:58:49 · answer #4 · answered by Talkstress 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the person. If there's a history I might say something, although if I think they're pathological (or delusional) I don't even bother since they don't think they lied. If there's no history of dishonesty I'd probably assume the best... that time.
2006-12-07 22:59:38 · answer #5 · answered by Point7Q 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you find out the truth over something said then you let that person know. It makes one feels bad but when exposed it should give one relief.
2006-12-08 00:40:32 · answer #6 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. If I ask the person and they lie again to cover it up and I can see that, I will snoop around till I find out wats goin on lol
2006-12-07 23:01:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to them about it. Don't be argumentative or judge them. Just tell them calmly how you feel and why you feel that way. The best thing you can do is stay calm and rational.
2006-12-07 23:02:29 · answer #8 · answered by LydBaBy21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't tolerate liars, if they are lying you can't say anything cos they just keep on lying. If they can't be honest with you there is know trust. Tell them thay are just a @!#$ liar.
2006-12-07 23:05:15 · answer #9 · answered by bentomsun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I discuss it with them...why worry and stew over it when you can talk about it and find out what's going on?
2006-12-07 22:57:13 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋