im 18 and Ive been with my girlfriend for almost 6 months now and dont feel like i love her yet??? is it because we spend too much time together???? we have had our arguements and broken up 3 times and gotten back together but i feel as though if this was the girl im marrying that i would of loved her the first month we were together...???? i believe two people can fall in love in the first week but dont really know???? HELP!!!!! shes a good girlfriend but we have our differences, should we just really end it next time we get into a big arguement or be patient????we both have a lot in common but just dont feel happy 100% of the time, sometimes she really annoys me!!!by the way i dont have a problem getting girls i just want to be with ONE!!! The only thing is , if we do break up, i know i will miss her for awhile , but at the same time i know that TIME will change that. I know im young but i feel as though i've had my fun, kinda. i still look at other women, is that wrong??? she can barely go a day without talking to me when i have to work, what will happen when we go to different colleges??? maybe we should just end it now before we both waste anymore time.But i still want her in my life!!!!!!!!
2006-12-07 14:33:58 · 9 answers · asked by playboy10888 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't know, but it really makes a lot of sense to go to yahoo to help you make life decisions, doesn't it?
2006-12-09 05:31:48 · answer #1 · answered by tycobb99999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, breathe...If you're having doubts about your relationship and as to whether or not you love her, maybe it's time that you move on to someone else. If you spend too much time together, it can be overbearing to a relationship...You need separate lives and friends, so when you get to spend time together, it's better. Whether or not you end things is your call...Not ours...But it sounds like you may have your answer already. No relationship is sunshine and roses 100% of the time; it does take work. It doesn't hurt to look as long as you don't touch while you're in a committed relationship. You probably won't talk as much if you go to different colleges. If you still want her in your life, be her friend if/when you end things.
2006-12-07 14:41:41 · answer #2 · answered by Steph L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT! you started going out and you never loved/liked her? that doesn't make any sense. Why would you have gone out with her in the first place.
I would talk with her. Don't just brush her off. see how she feels and ask her how she thinks the relationship is going. She may feel the same as you and then you guys can have a clean break and still remain friends. I think this is the best approach.
You must have started dating her and stayed with her for some reason. You have to figure out what that reason is and what happened.
You can also both try dating other people and see how it goes. If you are both happier apart but as friends then you have your answer.
2006-12-07 14:40:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you said you are still young. If you don't have feelings for her that way and you 2 have broken up 3 times already then I believe you 2 should talk about going your seperate ways for now. You and her will get over each other in time. Yes it is wrong to be with someone and look at other girls that alone tells me your still looking for someone else. Don't waste your time with one another.
Maybe you 2 can be friends and thats whats meant to be.
If your not happy 100% of the time then move on.
Good luck to both of you
2006-12-07 14:42:30 · answer #4 · answered by Clara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 18, give things some time. You guys need a little space is all, maybe even see other people - you and her both. Time will tell if you really love each other. Maybe going to different colleges would be a good thing for a while, see each other on weekends?
2006-12-08 09:40:30 · answer #5 · answered by brokenheartsyndrome 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if there is no connection then move. You also have to realize then a woman's emotional nature is different then a man's, so of course they want to talk to there man everyday. When I was in a relationship I used to think about my boyfriend all the time.. that's how it goes. Another thing is that you can't be selfish and say that u still want her in your life. U might not want the relationship and she probably does and there is no point in torturing her on a daily basis because u still want her there. If you break up with her let her know the situation, let her down easy and please don't run that I just want to be friends because its crap to me.
2006-12-07 14:45:04 · answer #6 · answered by songbirdz03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok now this is a very critical situation and what ever you do you HAVE - I repeat you HAVE to do it with care you need to brake up with her because you're are leading her on and you have this girl thinking you guys are in love -if you talk to her almost every day! what your feelings are is a best friend relationship and you need to tell her you've have already waited way too long if you've had sex with her that's terrible you have to be extremely careful -you need to humble yourself to her say how stupid you were to wait so long and dont dwell on you wanting to breakup so instead dwell on how important she is in your life and how badly you want to continue your relationship as best friends and then about the phone calls tell her " I really do like talking to you -and to keep it very special and always exciting I would like it better if we called and talked to each other once every three days( you can pick how often you want her to call)" but it's important to say " we" when your talking it keeps it from hurting her because it makes it seem like its something both of you need to work on not just her - even if that's not the case
2006-12-07 15:12:06 · answer #7 · answered by linda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have doubts move on. Better now than later after you have said 'I do' or have brought a child into the world.
2006-12-07 15:01:12 · answer #8 · answered by honiebyrd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need to move on.
2006-12-07 14:35:38 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋