Before I was married I was dating this guy I loved him so much and I thought we would end up getting marryed but things changed and them I meet my husband (now) and even throw we got married and I love my husband with all my heart god knows i do but my ex recenty moved back and all the feelings I had for him are back and I dont know what I should do, I now I moved on and I have got married but I just dont know what to do
2006-12-07 14:32:48 · 16 answers · asked by Ash 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you all so much for your answers they help me allot and got me to thinking I have changed and I do Love my husband more than anything and That was the past
so Iam just going to get it go
2006-12-07 15:12:44 · update #1
Stay where you are. You've changed. . he's changed and unless you want disaster in your life and more hurt than you can imagine stay with your husband (even more reasons if you have a child).
The ex has changed and so have you. FORGET IT!!
2006-12-07 14:37:03 · answer #1 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was two years ago people change. You committed yourself in a marriage and you are thinking about what was before when you were single and free, past life. You were dating this guy and you are looking back on the good. For some reason the two of your broke up. Remember what that was and for some reason you chose to marry your husband. So think about two things please, why did you marry your husband and can you live without that for the rest of your life. Why you and the other guy broke up and do you really want to relive that. You cannot yo yo back and forth. Good luck.
2006-12-07 22:44:55 · answer #2 · answered by cheoli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act on facts, not feelings.
There is nothing you are *supposed* to be doing at this point. No "decision" is required of you. You are married, you love your husband, and you and your ex broke up for a reason.
There are perfectly good reasons to get a divorce. They include abuse, chronic unfaithfulness, unwillingness to stop drinking or drugging, dishonesty and incompatibility. Be thankful none of these is a problem in your marriage, and be grateful you have a husband you love "with all your heart."
Leave the ex alone. It's bad business, and you are courting heartache for everyone involved.
2006-12-07 22:47:37 · answer #3 · answered by sparticle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your husband. People are in a constant state of change. None of the parties involved are who they were back in the day. One of the great things about marriage is that you and your husband get to change and grow together, sharing the experience. Have the courage not to give up on this very special bond.
2006-12-07 22:55:57 · answer #4 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm currently going thru a similar problem. We both have children which makes it even harder. We recently started emailing one another. It's just friendly banter for now. We were very much in love. I say if you and your husband don't have children- go for it. Why be married to someone that deep down in your heart you know you don't truly love? Follow your heart. Life is too short to be married and unhappy.
2006-12-07 22:43:13 · answer #5 · answered by jeff b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said that you love your husband. You made a commitment when you got married and you need to stick with it. Marriage is not like buying a new outfit. When you get tired of the outfit, you throw it away. That is not the way it is with a marriage.
2006-12-07 22:40:22 · answer #6 · answered by Camera man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and think what you want most in your life.
Remember that any action that you take would effect your marriage. Take responsibility what you''ll done, if you think that making a 'spare tyre' will make you your only self happy, think of the consequences to your marriage and trust that you have build with your husband.
Do you want your husband do the same thing to you?
2006-12-07 23:06:45 · answer #7 · answered by Amycute 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you focus on the reasons that you married your husband. There was a reason you ended you other relationship, and there is a reason you are with your husband. Don't let old feelings destroy your marriage.
2006-12-07 22:51:11 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love the one you're with...because your ex is back in town, doesn't me he wants to be with you (remember, things changed between you, for a reason...he didn't marry you--okay?). You're a newly wed, enjoy your marriage, no if (s), and(s) or but(s) about it. You'll find yourself in divorce court with that attitude. ("...God knows I do but...) Don't use God's name & "but" in the same sentence; you're questionning yourself & your faith... Be faithful to God and your husband and let it go.
I'll be Praying for You, Many Blessings
2006-12-07 23:04:43 · answer #9 · answered by motherkc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life goes forward, you need to let the past go. You are married now. Besides you obviously divorced your ex for a reason.
2006-12-07 22:45:25 · answer #10 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋