Friends making fun of me (FYI: I'm in my late 20s)?

Question

I have known these girls forever. One of them is quite close to me..I'm the first person she calls when she's upset and has problems with her boyfriend. When I hang out with each of them alone, it's fine. But when they are together, and we're in a trio, they pick on little things that I do...like a simple hand gesture, they will make fun of what I did and make it seem like it looked so hilarious. They will keep laughing in a very exaggerated manner for a very long time. I think this is so immature and I know they're exaggerating on purpose. I don't understand why they do this, but it happens every time we hang out in a trio. When we go out quite a few men tend to look at me, so I thought it might be jealousy...but I think they are attractive too, especially one out of the 2 (and she seems to have a very high self esteem too). I just don't know how to stop this, it's really getting on my nerves. It's immature, childish, and I just want it to stop. Any suggestions on what's going on here

Answer 1

That's really weird behaviour. There may BE a jealousy issue. You're single, they are not. They may be unhappy. They also may just be mean people when they are together. I know people like this. Nice when they are alone, but when with a group, they try to act "cool" by demeaning others. Very High School, in my opinion. Next time they do this, leave. The restaurant, the table, the theatre. Make sure you drive yourself there, and then just leave. Don't say anything. Don't explain yourself in that moment, because they will only laugh and ridicule you some more. Wait until you have your friend alone and ask her what the deal is with that and tell her you don't appreciate it. If it happens again when they are together, you may have to reevaluate this friendship.

Answer 2

happy: It's the old 2 against 1 syndrome. When you have 3 people in a group, usually 1 of the group tend to exalt the 1 he or she feels is better 1 of the remaining 2 of the group. Therefore, you have the 2 picking on the 1. The instigator (probably the 1 you think is good looking and has the better self-esteem of the 3 of you), has the 1 she likes better than you, picking on YOU. It's not jealousy but competition for the other one who teases you. The instigator wants the other person to like her [instigator] over you and sides with her. You are on the receiving end . The instigator could care less if you hate her, as long as she [the instigator], has her friend on her side. You are in a tough spot since you have two adversaries to battle with. You probably, would NOT get them to stop making sport out of you, as they will only band together all the more, to go at you ! You won't separate them (unless they have a falling out) nor will you be able to change either one of the 2. You will have to either, learn to live with it OR find new friends . Talking will prove futile ! Good luck to you "happynerd" !!!

Answer 3

I think it is jealousy, too. However, that is no reason to ridicule you and purposely make you feel like an outsider. That behavior is so juvenile. I would talk to them about it. Speak with each one individually and if it continues, address them together when it happens. If they laugh it off, deny it, or accuse you of exaggerating or making up the whole thing, I would certainly distance myself from these friends of yours. It is hard to end a friendship that has lasted for so long, but in that case, I think it would be necessary. Or if that is too drastic for you, just spend time with them on a one on one basis and not as a group.

Answer 4

My suggestion is if these are your friends that means you can be open honest and direct with them. One on one I would tell them how they are making you feel and how wronged you feel. Express to them you find this not funny as well childish and ask point blank why they feel they must do this. Then if it continues I would strongly suggest asking yourself what type of friends you have and who you call friend. A true friend would not hurt your feelings. So after speaking with them, if it continued that would be a clear sign I would think for you to remove yourself. Take pride in you respect you and do not allow people around you to make fun of you.

Answer 5

I think you hit the nail on the head when you suggested they might be jealous. Just because your one friend is pretty doesn't mean she thinks she's pretty...and most people who appear to have overly high self esteems are really insecure little pissants.
Yeah, I hate friends like that. You are better than them and they know it, so they think it's their job to bring you down. Don't you let them break you girl!

Answer 6

These young ladies are jealous,it seems like you have out grown them.There still in kids land while you on the other hand are moving on to woman hood.They make fun of you because they can't or don't want to see their own short comings.Don't play their games,and be that young lady who stands up for herself when they laugh at you.Let them know that you don't appreciate what they are doing.Especially when they are suppose to be your friends.

Answer 7

They sound immature. You would do better to limit your exposure to one at a time. They seem to encourage each other to behave badly, unfortunately they choose to target you when they do it. It is not necessarily out of meaness though. They are merely immature and their immature behavior is validated by each other's behavior.

Answer 8

WELL start with watch TLC's what not to where then just start to be urself if u ignore then they might stop beside that is really immature

Answer 9

ooohhh poor girl! those are not your friends, meet some other people and stop getting beat up by people who don't care about your feelings! kick em' to the curb sister!!!

Answer 10

You need to find some new friends!!