Views on internet relationships?

Question

What are your views on internet relationships. Have they work out for you or not work out for you. Everyone has a story. Tell me yours.

Answer 1

I am enjoying a delightful relationship with a man I met on a medical message board a year ago. We are both married, our spouses approve.

We simply have much in common, including a twisted sense of humor. We have been able to encourage one another through some pretty tough times and nothing romantic or erotic has ever come of it.

We may never meet. I am in the Midwest, he is on the west coast but for some reason it doesn't matter. This seems to work for us. We email daily and IM almost every night. We are confidants, friends but not lovers.

I guess I have a couple of other relationships born on-line but this has been the best. I do find it unique. I guess the male/female thing may not work for everyone and certainly not all spouses would allow it but for us it has worked and he has become a friend I am not sure I could do without.

I used to think on-line relationships cheesy and cheap but this one really changed my mind. After a year I really have begun to look at them differently. They are not the same as those friends we make in person but in this case, this one works. Glad you asked.

Answer 2

As for finding a marriage or activity partner, nothing is better than waiting and accepting the right partner. For many internet relationships, hurt can be experienced when someone feels rejection by a long-term contact. It is not easy for women, since they feel they have to put out to be accepted! Many of them realize that to be available, they need to say yes. This will guarantee a lifetime of mistrust, especially if someone is only looking to satisfy their physical needs, and some women feel they will give up their right to say no, in spite of what their heart tells them. This, however will not give them the respectful husband they desperately want and need. Any children born to such a union will soon be father or motherless. Women need to realize that bearing and raising children requires 150 percent input as parents, not just 50-50. However, there are some exceptions to the rule, and I hope that if you are contemplating finding the right partner for you, make sure you are best friends first, and share the same views as to marriage. To-day, over 50 percent of marriages fail the committment needed to survive the first seven years. Be respectful of your partner, and seek counselling by clergy or a trusted mentor. Good Luck!

Answer 3

Internet relationships get mixed reviews. On one hand there was a 14 year old boy meeting some adult for gay sex. That is illegal, and it could be a "sting" for 20/20, and I certainly hope that boy reconsiders..he even answered here. On the other hand, some married couples have met online and are happily married. I suggest ADULTS meet in a public place and see if they want to go further. Children should not be meeting on the internet.

Answer 4

I met one man in a chat room for a tv show we both liked. He lived two states away, and we first talked by phone, then met. We broke up eventually - but other than the distance, it wasn't that different than normal dating. It was expensive, though, and lots of 'missing' time.

I met another man on eHarmony, and again, it did not work out. We just weren't right for each other. Again, it was expensive to meet, and lots of 'missing' time.

I know of some couples who met through the internet and had it work out great. It's not something I would undertake again, unless there seemed to be something *really* special or unique about the person. It's just too difficult for me.

Answer 5

In my opinion, internet dating is not good. Even if the person calls you, or shows you their picture, they could be lieing to you and they could really be older or younger than they say. Also, if u actually know the person, its going to be hard not seeing each other much. If you have a very strong relationship going, and you know the person (seen before, moved away), then i guess it is ok. I once dated this guy who lived about 30 minutes away from me. I knew him because he went to my school and then moved. I ended up breaking it off though because it was hard not seeing him and I need to be able to see my boyfriend, not just talk to him over the internet.

Answer 6

I met a girl on a blind date in a different city when I was split from my gf...She was hot as heck, but boring...and I was boring to her...got back with the gf!! LOL...I tried the dating sites for a very short time...I found that women wont even reject you online, they will just ignore you if you write them and that is BS in my opinion...I rejected four women in the week I used it (um, sorry but when "no kids" is one of my "needs" what do you expect!) So...I dont know, I have met a few really awesome women online but I just tell myself ahead of time that I am not going there with them...its nice to have women to chat with and not have any pressure for more...

Answer 7

truthfully.. I wouldn't recommend it but that is only because it takes alot to make sure everything is for real.. I talked with a guy for two years mostly just as friends online and it just progressed from there.. we have now been married for 6 years with two kids and another on the way.. it has worked out great for us.. we met online and I live in AZ and he lived in MI.. he came to visit two times and then I went to visit him and after a couple more visits from him he moved to AZ

Answer 8

No, it did not work for me first of all there must be a 100% trust. involved. And I find it hard to trust someone whom I don't interact physically, I mean there's no guarrantee that what he is saying is true. And for the relationship to work out, we have to be together not only on line but to be physically present.

Answer 9

I met my husband online and we are on our 7th year of marriage and we have 2 wonderful kids. I wouldn't tell anyone else to try it because I wouldn't want to be reliable. Back then I felt lucky to find someone off the Internet with all the craziness. Thanks God I am wiser now to know luck had nothing to do with it.

Answer 10

No, NO WAY BABY. Too many sick old men trying to hide their age and are out to see what they can get out of a woman, rather than an honest relationship.They are out there either after sex, a nurse or your purse. I say to you all out there be careful,.. people who fall for internet dating are desperados, because they do not scceed anywhere else and they feel no one out there wants them. PITY.