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Question

My physc has opened my mind, he told me to expect whatever come my way and hwne he said thsi i did it adn I didnt care if I was gay, straight, or Bi and then I felt soo attracted to Women and I masturbated to well a Women. But then I kept asking myself what I was and I confused myself again? am I crazy or something. I know soon I will define myself but jeeze how can opinion change within a day or even a few hours. I thinks its my hormones but not sure. What do yo uall think?

CMon cant more ppl asnwer, I want some help!!!

Tryin this is gettin really hard though b/c I feel more comfortabel when I feel liek I need a girl only and I get really horny. But then, idk what to feel althoguh i dont get horny when thinking of guys and I can see myself having sex with a girl. My physc said from what hes expereinced with gay people that i am not one of them. I told myself what the worse thing, being gay?? and i felt much better and I slept well nto thinking bout it adn It made me feel women as my main source of happiness but then i question and confuse myself. I guess i am only 16 turning 17 adn soon the asnwer will come but for now things will just keep switchin form one thing to another!

My parents are not very religious except for father who still in supportive of me. THey didnt rush me into therapy to try and fix me or w/e, it was free. They figure im not gay from what I tell them but they just want me to be happy so they can be happy. O yea and my spelling really is'nt that bad, I just type way too fast and screw up, sry!

Answer 1

Sounds like your parents need to get their money back from the school district (clearly they haven't taught you how to write, and you're either a horrible typist or dyslexic, judging by the number of transposed letters). =P But seriously...

Going by your name, I'm assuming your a guy.

As for sorting through your sexuality, by the sounds of it your straight, like me. You clearly state in your details that your not turned on by guys, that you want to be with girls, and that girls turn you on... all this is saying "Straight" NOT "Gay".

It's normal to think about the same sex to evaluate your sexuality, but just because you think about guys doesn't mean your bisexual or gay, its how you respond to those thoughts that determine your sexual tendencies. If you NEVER get turned on thinking about the SAME sex, then your straight. If you NEVER get turned on thinking about the OPPOSITE sex, then you're gay.

These extremes are artificial concepts, realistically no one is 100% straight or 100% gay, at most its 99.99%, there's always the occational thought (0.01% of the time) about reversing their sexuality and being briefly arroused.

If you get turned on by the same sex 0.01-30% of the time, you fall somewhere into the "straight" range of sexuality. If you get turned on by the same sex 31-70% of the time you fall somewhere into the "bisexual" range of sexuality. If you get turned on by the same sex 71-99.99% of the time then you fall somewhere in the "Gay" range of sexuality.

There's a more detailed scale I go by, but I used a VERY GENERAL version of the scale so you wouldn't get more confused. I think most would agree with this very general scale, but have their own personal "detailed" scales of sexuality that would disagree with mine.

I think your obsession with your sexuallity is because the people around you are forcing you to define your sexuality NOW and to THEIR preference, instead letting you sort through things on your own and accept you for who you are. My guess, your parents are religious (or had a religious upbringing) they discovered something you said, did, or had that made you seem gay, so they threw you into therapy hoping you'll "turn out" straight. It's because of the external pressures of other people's opinions that you become so easily confused. They're paranoia has infected you to the point that some how thinking about the same sex is "gay" even when you don't get aroused.

Like I said, based on all the stuff you mentioned, you're pretty much straight. Best advise I can give you is don't define yourself by your sexuality, especially this early. Even though some may know their sexuality at an early age, it takes several relationships over many years for them to fully define exactly what their degree of sexuallity is. It is nearly impossible for you to be sure of your sexuality without first spending a lot more time developing and experiencing relationships with other people.

Answer 2

If your shrink has opened your mind to the idea of being a different sexual orientation, your reactions are completely normal. Just give it some time, and everything will sort itself out. Don't worry about how you're feeling. You're lucky that you've had someone open your mind to the idea- so many of us wish that we'd had someone do that so we'd have figured it out sooner! Good luck in the whole process, and whatever you decide, just remember, that's you and you're great just the way you are.

Answer 3

properly, i individually think of that girls could now and back ask boys out, in simple terms reason i'm a guy and dont have the heart to ask them out myself. yet i think of why many of the adult men are nervous approximately asking is approximately what unusual rumours would be around as quickly as he asks. now and back it facilitates if the girl asks, that is going to provide the boy slightly vanity.

Answer 4

just be you. like you said it didn't matter if you were gay, bi, or straight. just fall in love with the person that you like. you don't have to define who you are or label what you are. you are what you are.