My husband and I have been married 3 years and have a beautiful baby together. Problem is, I am not happy...I am 24 years old. I do not enjoy sex, I have no desire to have it with him, he works alot...does that have something to do with it? I am not sure.
2006-12-07 13:51:16 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should do your best to work it out for the sake of the child. Talk to him, go to counseling...
If every attempt has been made to resolve the problems and there seems to be no solution, then leave.
2006-12-07 13:55:10 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three years and a Baby, Sounds like you kind of resent his working alot or maybe he isn't giving you the attention you are needing.Why is he working so long and so hard? Have you tried different things like alone time just the 2 of you. Try all you can before giving up .talk to him get him to help you spruce things up and then decide that you have done absolutely everything you could on your behalf otherwise you will never be happy with yourself and you can always say I did try and I did everything I could , Baby is first but if you are not happy then.... your baby wont be happy .Honey You cant say I didn't like sex that's why I left him ? can you?
2006-12-07 22:08:14 · answer #2 · answered by wewamom2503 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I am glad that I'm not the only one. I am 25, unhappily married, with a 19 month old little girl. I battle with the same question constantly. I want to be on my own, but then I think about money issues and raising a child on my own. I stay because of the money and because I want to know where my child is at all times and be assured that she is being taken care of. Your situation may be different from mine, I have no family, he and his family is all I have to help with day care, etc.
My suggesting to you is if you still love him and it is just the happiness in your way, sit down and talk to him. Communication is the key to a successful marriage. You may still have a chance to save your marriage--your family.
If you don't want to be with him, then use your head before you just split. Start a "stash" of money. When you pay bills, grocery shop, etc, stash a little in a safe place where he would never find it and that will help. It will take you a while to save up, but eventually you will have enough to help you with a lawyer, your own place, etc. It's hard to make it on your own.
Good luck with whatever you decide. When you do make that decision be 100% sure.....
2006-12-07 22:29:13 · answer #3 · answered by ~Shelly~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first question that I will ask you is that why do get married with your husband in the first place? I believe it is not that you are unhappy but it is more to the fact that you feel that life after marriage lacks the spice. Does your husband know about it? Have a talk with him and try to resolve the problem.
2006-12-08 05:52:31 · answer #4 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not up to your husband to MAKE you happy, happines comes from within oneself. Yuo are probably going through what is "loosely" termed as the baby blues...an offshoot of Post partum. Sometimes women with young children go through bouts of not wanting sex. You should appreciate your husband working a lot though as it is probably keeping your family fed. Or would you rather be in a homeless shelter getting your meals in a soup kitchen. Maybe you should learn to appreciate the things you DO have in life rather than what you don't have. That will give you a better outlook on life and will make you at least a bit happier.
2006-12-07 22:36:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow three years and a baby. I remember those days. The thing you need to think about is are you overwhelmed with all the things going on with you and your changes that you and your body are going though. You should try and talk it out with your husband. Is something lacking. The attention maybe that used to be all yours and now is shared with a baby. your husband maybe over working because of his new responsibilities. Any way if you can't talk now maybe some time and counseling might be in order. Good luck in love and life.
2006-12-07 22:10:44 · answer #6 · answered by Dyna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First bit of advice, I say to everyone PRAY!!!!!!!!!!
Okay, You all got married young and obstacles are going to come up and it's up to you to work them out. And of course I feel as if his job is a big part in it. I to have a relationship with someone working alot, but it's not risking the marriage. Maybe he's trying to put you three in a better place. MEN, work hard to provide for their family!!
Think about it like this, you could've ended up with someone at home with you everyday all day and none of the bills are paid, no food, no roof over your head, etc.
Count your blessings and work it out!!!!!!
PLEASE!!!!!!
2006-12-07 21:59:24 · answer #7 · answered by TT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get over it..start being the wife and mother you should be regardless of how you feel. Start eating healthy and exercise and start doing your best to be a good wife despite anything he does to you. Some people aren't happy to go to work but they do it because they should. Right now, you need to be a good wife because you married him and made a vow. Life isn't a fairy tale all the time. Joy comes through doing the will of God and keeping His commandments.
2006-12-07 21:56:39 · answer #8 · answered by sandstorm222 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read Gary Chapman's book entitled "Five Love Languages." It's a simple, but powerful read describing how you and your husband may need your "love tanks" refilled. There are four other love languages besides sexual intercourse. You two probably need to work on several to rekindle your desires. Give it a try, you've got nothing to lose except your marriage.
2006-12-07 22:12:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one should be unhappy for the rest of their life or stay in a marriage for the sake of a child but try to make things work first, go to a therapist and see if it can work after you do that if you are still unhappy then leave and make a happier life for you and your child.
2006-12-07 22:15:27 · answer #10 · answered by scout1567 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋