How do you tell someone that you've been molested?....and it may have been rape but I am not sure because I was druged...
I'm 18, where should I go? It happened a year ago so the "evidence" is gone.
I'm so scared. I'm having such a hard time dealing with this. I think I'd feel much more comfortable telling my best friend rather my mother, I'm sure that's normal. I know my friend could handle it better too since her own sister was also molested and I'm not all close to my mother. I don't know what to do....how can I work up the courage to speak up and tell someone??
I feel like it's really dissrupting my life. I freak out whenever a guy gets close to me but I don't mean to. ...feel like I'm living in fear...
2006-12-07 13:44:51 · 15 answers · asked by la la la 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I am so sorry. I was date raped twice.
I guess it kind of depends on who did it but I think since you are of age--18--I would go to a professional first because you will really need that person to help you deal with whatever happens after you tell the person that you think you need to and if you don't go to a professional first, you might not ever. Also, the professional could tell that person with you so it would be easier to try and heal.
PLEASE do this. It will effect your whole life if you don't. Especially any kind of relationship you may ever want to have (husband).
2006-12-07 13:51:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go get help and stop waiting. You need to be tested for any possibility of disease. Go have a pap test and aids test. You need to get some emotional help as well. I don't know if you have insurance. You should be covered under your parents plan if you are a full time student. You can use that ins. and talk to a therapist as well as go see a doc. You might be able to press charges as well. You need to protect others/children. There a signs sometimes that you might be able to re-call if something happened to you. Also, remember the only way to make sure you have control over the situation is to try to not put your self in one. Go out in groups that don't drink/do drugs and some of this can be avoided. Let your friends know in advance to NOT let you go away with any one alone. Don't except drinks from people. Remember there are alot of nice guys out there. Don't classifiy them all in the same group. Stay with in your own age group. If a older guy want to date you it's most likely cause he wants the upper hand in the relationship with you and will also propably use try to use you. He can't handel a real woman. You will be a woman some day and you will see what I mean. I've been there. I've always looked older for my age, not to mention I attracted a lot of MEN before I new why , Like age 12. It was awlful. I was so flattered and thought they really liked me. No, they just wanted me if you know what I mean. Telling your mom is besides the point unless you think she will point you in the right direction. She might surprise you.
Maybe try the link below. Try some kung fu classes and be positive. Always protect yourself. Don't be the victim. Take back your rights and don't be afraid Good luck.
2006-12-07 14:14:36 · answer #2 · answered by babylorelei 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sweety i was a virgin and at the age of 14 i was raped by an 18 year old guy who i thought was my best friend...i was also drugged by the date rape drug but by luck nothing happened....If you trust your best friend then go to her....you may want to seek counseling to...your are having panic attacks when a guy gets close to you...go out with your friends...don;t stay in the house...please remember this is not your fault! If a guy ask you out make it a group thing until u feel comfortable..if you need someone to talk to that's been there and done that(by the way I'm 40...please e-mail me at mlmathews66@yahoo.com.
2006-12-07 14:20:10 · answer #3 · answered by melissa m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how your friend reacts or it was that molested/raped you, just keep in mind the friend might tell your mum.
I don't know if that would be something you want or not. Maybe she could help you tell her, maybe you'd prefer her to tell your mum for you but I just wanted to point that out that it's a possibility.
Good for you speaking up. There are rape helplines you could try phoning one of them for support and advice.
Otherwise go straight to the authorities. They have special officers trained to give you emotional support whilst you make your complaint against your attacker, which I hope you will do. This will help in coming to terms with what happened.
2006-12-07 13:59:25 · answer #4 · answered by Fluffy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u MUSt get psych help immediately...maybe u can find a way to tlk anonymously like there are crisis hotlines available...this is a serious issue and the monster who did this to u is prolli out there endangering the safety of other women such as urself. tlk to ur friend if that helps. these things must be discussed. and never get so drugged that u let someone do that to u! u are ur best defense...uu are a woman and u are strong....no man has the power to exert that kinda force on u without ur will
2006-12-07 14:51:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find urself a really close friend and tell him or her all about it. when u have enough confidence back, tell a family member, or a close family friend. when the time is right, ull feel confident enough to go to the police about it. it helps for the statement process if u write everything down about what happens as it comes to u.
i know what ur going thru, been there 3 times b4 and yeah. with time things do get better. try going to a counsellor with ur close friend.
email me if u wana talk
2006-12-07 14:55:55 · answer #6 · answered by *lil miss* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey sweetie i know exactly watcha goin through as a matter of fact i feel kinda sad for u bcuz its not ez i know how it is i was actually molested and i was raped i didn tell my parents either i was scared i guess bout the rape i did cuz i has 2 it was hard but if u get along wit ur mom then tlk 2 her but if u dont u should definitely tlk 2 ur friend bout it ur gon feel a lot better trust me im in there good luck u'll b fine
2006-12-07 15:38:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No matter how close you are to your mom, you should talk to her. This may even bring the two of you closer. I was in a situation very simular. It was worse, I think because I was engaged and I felt horrible because all of my family and friends think I am so strong, yet I couldnt move or make him stop. It was really hard to tell my fiance. After it all he was pretty understanding. We are married now. Talking to my mom helped alot. Time will heal all.
2006-12-07 13:52:55 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs Baker 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell your husband. tell him it has have been given to end .. and which you will the Police. tell the police. placed it on checklist. end .. having something to do with this guy. Get a restraining order against him. do not enable him take any photos ... gosh .. what's your husband thinking? Do all issues to place a end to it. in the experience that your husband does not grant help to .. then you incredibly could discover out why.
2016-10-17 23:21:35 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, go to your friend and confide in her..Then talk to a counselor or psychiatrist or something of the sort..You'll be okay sweetie.
2006-12-07 13:51:26 · answer #10 · answered by Kiara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋