Who do some (not all) welfare mothers to talk as though they're independent divas?

Question

It seems today you see alot more sluts on welfare who spend money on tattoos tanning salons cigarettes than on their children & throw around this beyonce attitude that theyre independent.

when meanwhile their house stinks, their kids clothes and face are dirty with food and they have some crackhead living on their couch.

Now I know that some people will say well wheres the father?

But women are supposed to be more mature than men so the scientists say.

So how do you account for this **** behavior of the few?

Answer 1

lol thats hilarious. I know what you mean. I myself, get help but Im currently a full time college student. Homework consumes my life! I do not talk as though Im an independent women/diva! I do know what you mean though about the ones who do and I am not, by any means offended :) you should answer my questions, Im interested in what you have to say

Answer 2

You are right there will always be a few people that abuse a terrible system but think about it if government educated people and gave everyone the same chances as someone as wise, educated and compassionate as yourself the world would be so much better to live in. So why don't your write to your government representative and make sure that you use spell and grammar check so they don't feel these tax payers money has been wasted on your (now this is laughable) education. Tell them how a person with such a broad view of the world feels about welfare and chances are some changes will be made. Perhaps you will even find a place to fund therapy for your obvious anger and self esteem issues. Goddess bless.

Answer 3

"Where are the fathers" is a valid and important question. The first question I'd ask them is "What did you see in this woman in the first place?" The truth is that the kind of men who put up with all this just to get laid are the same kind who don't stick around. I use the term "men" loosely, here...most are more akin to children.

Edit - Women are not more mature than men...some feminist has twisted what scientists have actually said to fit her agenda. Women develop social skills at an earlier age than men...men are busy developing other skills. Ask a six-year old boy and girl to throw a rock...you'll see what I mean. However, in their twenties, men catch up to women real fast, socially.

The reason some women are like this is simple...they're in denial over their situation. It's a coping mechanism women are better at than men. While a man would get depressed, a woman will just make like it doesn't exist. Problem is that once you're in denial, any chance of extracting yourself from the situation is gone. It's the same reason feminists can't see reality.

Answer 4

Some of these women are very young and in experience to the ways of life and caring for a baby. they even do not know much about love. These mothers are only striving to be independent in spite of men who barely cares for them. Some of the most sucessful people in this world came from this sort of background.

Answer 5

It's a lot easier to act like you're a diva and therefore someone important and not to be messed with, than to admit to yourself that you're a single mother on welfare with no future, bringing up the nations next generation of welfare recipients.

Answer 6

I don't happen to travel in circles where the people you describe are; is there any chance you have one person in particular in mind and are generalizing?

If not, just a couple of thoughts:

1. Some people get welfare help because some "legitimate" circumstances has devastated their life. Others end up on it because they didn't have a lot on the ball in the first place, had some kids, and needed to feed them and have a roof over their heads. Chances are if there are people like you describe this explains it. One question may be, though, why are so many little girls being failed to the point where they grow up with few prospects and little pride or ambition?

2. Have you been in more than one of these houses, or are you assuming they stink and have a crackhead on the couch? As far as kids go, kids do get food on their faces. That doesn't particularly mean anything. If its yesterday's food, that means something. If its lunch from a half hour ago, it may not mean much.

3. People who have lousy lives and are extremely stressed out often find that cigarettes can make the difference between feeling like one is losing his/her mind and feeling sort of ok. Some people figure cigarettes are less expensive than anti-depressants; and low-income people may be less likely to call the misery of their life "depression" than higher income people, who run off to the therapist when life gets depressing. Still, these people need to get through the day, and smoking does it without making someone drunk or in a drug stupor.

4. In general, I don't think just because a person has financial problems (or even has to resort to taking help from welfare) he/she ought to go around acting less independent than anyone else. Maybe some of these people are so used to be looked down on they develop a little more attitude than other people may have. Your question and your calling them "sluts" is an example.

5. Exactly how many people are you aware of who are on welfare and who have gone to a tanning salon? Just something to consider. Something else to consider is many people who live in cities and are on welfare are hispanic or some other non-white ethnicity. Any chance they're naturally darker skinned and you're assuming they went to a salon?

6. Tatoos: I got nothin'

In fairness to any people who are like what you described: Parents fail children. Young mothers bring babies into the world without fathers (or decent, mature, ones) and without financial stability. Neighborhoods and communities can fail children or pull them away from even good families. Schools fail children. The court system often fails them. Children who don't have the benefit of the kind of strong mind that solid familes and mothers offer and/or children who are extremely deprived, abused, neglected, or otherwise miserable tend to be weak when it comes to trying drugs (and later getting addicted to them). Girls who aren't raised with a healthy self-esteem, good role models, or an immunity to the bad influences of bad neighborhoods or a society that has in ways gone awry don't stand much of a chance.

The argument by people who feel they have a right to make rotten remarks about people who get welfare help is, "I work, and its my tax dollars...". What people who haven't really done any research don't realize it two things: 1) The government does an excellent job of wasting all kinds of money separate from any welfare programs, and maybe some of that waste needs to be addressed; and 2) It is often the welfare programs' policies, themselves, that keep people from being able to work or else it is the failure of public schools, courts, and other government agencies that often creates poverty and ignorance in the first place.

If you ever do any serious research into how welfare programs operate and how policies stop people from being able to work you might be able to imagine how the person who started out being dealt a bad hand and ended up having the rest of that hand taken away by one government agency or program or another just may give up and go get herself a tattoo and a tan because maybe getting those will make her feel a little better in view of the fact that she doesn't have much else in life that will.

Besides, you don't know for a fact that some people aren't given something like a gift certificate for a tanning salon for their birthday.

I don't particularly approve of someone who does what you've described, and attempting to understand how someone could get to that point means I only get to feel fortunate that it isn't me and don't get to feel superior. I can sit here and now say "I'd never be like that" but I have the benefit of an upbringing that gave me a good head and emotional stability. If I were born twenty years, raised in the last two decades, and had a mother who, herself, may have been destroyed by ignorance and poverty (that may or may not have been contributed to by the government, itself) I'd probably think and act differently

If nothing else, don't call these people "sluts" and maybe work on trying to have a little understanding of how people get "lost" when they're very young. Understanding won't offer you the chance to build up your own ego and sense of superiority, but it will make you a better person.

Answer 7

Because they are idiots and CPS should take these children away from these living situations more often. Also yes it is a damn shame that this has to happen.

Answer 8

Where did you meet anyone like that?

maybe it's false pride because deep down inside, they know they're jacked up.

Answer 9

Because they "feel" like they're independent due to having absolutely zero obligation to do anything. Logic doesn't come into it.

Answer 10

probably because THEIR MOTHER'S did it... and they don't know any better.

I have this theory that you need to learn to be humble, and they never had to learn. If they need more money, they just have more kids and the state gives them more money.