How do I tell my husband I want a divorce?

Question

Ok we've been married for 2 1/2 years, we have a total of 4 kids (his 2 my 1 and our 1). We never get along. I feel like he is controlling and just plain mean. Self centered and I feel like he only cares about himself and his playstation. We have separated before and I came back b/c he "changed" but not for long. I just dont want to be here anymore. Please dont say have a heart to heart with him b/c he doesnt talk to me. He is ignoring me again tonight not saying a word. I just want this to be over. I know it wont be easy but I have to leave for my own sanity and the mental health of my kids. the other night we fought in front of them and they were so upset. The kids were just crying and he was screaming at me look what youre doing! how do I do this??? help me please

Answer 1

Make a porn with 6 black midgets and show it to him then tell everybody how small his dic is. He'll be out of there faster than shi t goes through a goose bich

Answer 2

Well first of all you two need to sit down and have a very good calm conversation. You should tell him what is going wrong but if he just pisses off and smacks up the whole thing just tell him that you want a divorce. But if he calmly accepts what you said and takes it every seriosly than you should give him another chance. It would be best if you didn't have a divorce with him, after all yo do have kids and it would have a strong impact on them if you just had a divorce. You should really give him chances if you already did than I'm sure things will work out. If having divorce is the best solution than do it. Not talking to each other and messing around is not the best thing to do when you are having a problem like this. Hope things work out.

Answer 3

i am very sorry for u and my mom is in the same situation, so i know how the kids feel, but if u really want to leave, i guess just tell him, but if u want to try and make it work for the kids (like my mom) then mabey write a list of all the things u like about him,and why u married him, and if u can't think of any, then u probably should get out, mabey just say, this isn't working, and im just not happy and hope he understands. all i can say is good luck and whatever you do, be sure it's what u want and that u and the kids will be happy in the end! good luck again <3

Answer 4

The first thing I must say is PRAY!!!!!!
before you make any rational decisions pray about it first!!!!!! Try and see if you all can get some counseling. maybe, you two didn't really know each other before the marriage. The first few years are always rocky, you just gotta' weather the storm and stay prayed up.

Before you leave, ask yourself if it's worth it, do I really love him, What is best for the kids, Can counseling change the situation, Is this something that we can put behind us?

You must ask yourself now and now five years down the line after it's over!!!!

Answer 5

Call the police and/or look up a women's abuse center. The abuse center will have a 'safe house' where he can't get to you. You can get help with having him served with divorce papers and you may need to get a restraining order to keep him away (it may not keep him away, but the police will enforce it when you call). As for him threatening suicide, he is just a control freak and since the threat has worked before he will continue to use it. If he were to kill himself, which I seriously doubt, it would NOT be your fault. Get your divorce, move to California and start a new life,

Answer 6

well u never get along so say "honey I need to talk to u, we never get along, I feel ur controling and mean,self centered, and all u do is play that damn playstation. so this is what I have decided and its not up for discustion, heres ya stuff I want u to leave. I know u dont understand this but I have had enough of being unhappy and its not healthy for either of us or the kids. so Its time for u to go ur own way and me mine. i love u but I am done with u, when u get set up we will talk about the kids comin to visit with u,and u can see them when ever u want but this is how it has to be"

Answer 7

Get yourself set with some place to go then sit him down or just tell him if he's in front of the TV, that you are leaving, for good this time and let your next contact with him be through a lawyer. Then walk out the door.

Answer 8

Hi, if i were u. 1st, move in wit ur parents take the kids u want to take and send him mail about it. But,if he knows where ur parents live u should move in with a friend of urs he has never met. Oh and if u send him mail. By the mail box, do not write the address of ur friend on it. Then, once the devorce is final stay away from him!! Far AWAY!!!

Answer 9

If you have tried to talk to him before and he didn't seem to get the picture, get your children and leave. But be sure of what you are doing. Once you leave, he will probably want to know why and try to get you back. If your feelings for him are gone, stick to your guns. It's bad enough to be lonely by yourself, but it is worse to lonely with someone. Leave, then send him a message or call him. Good luck to you.

Answer 10

Go talk to an attorney and find out your rights, and what you'll need to do to get the process started...then, when you know where you stand legally, tell him it's not working anymore and it's time for you two to part ways...

Do make sure the kids know it had nothing to do with them. and they will still be loved and cared for, no matter what.

Good luck!

Answer 11

Do you have a friend or family close where you can stay until you file for divorce? The first thing is to get away from each other.Then file. Get a job, good day care. Good Luck!