Ok long story, me and my husband have been married for 6 years now and he hasn't been bothering with is ex untill this year around april. He invited her to the bar with him and his friends from work which is after mid to like 2 am. I didnt know about it till his email was up and I read that she was there. This ex hates me. She thinks that I f'd up her chances of being with my husband and thinks its quite funny that he is on her side for some reason. They were almost married and lived together for 2 years! Anyway, the one night he was suppose to go to the bar and she called and said that she was gonna be there. I didn't accept it and was mad, and he thought it was stupid, so to make me worry (i'm 8months prego) He took my car keys and turned off his phone and got home at 4am cause he drove around with his ex till 4 am, bar closed at 2, so I didn't know what to think! What should I do!
2006-12-07 13:02:31 · 17 answers · asked by rachael m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is horrible. Obviously he has no respect for you. It amazes me how many people have total lack of respect for there marriage and spouses. Your husband is one of them. How could you lay down nightly with a man that would take your car keys, essentially go out on a date with his ex-girlfriend, turn off his cell phone, while you sit home pregnant with his child. I am sorry your dealing with all this at such a fragile time. He obviously doesn't care much about the well being of his child either since stressing you out is not a good idea for the baby! I say divorce his *** hun, you can do so much better then this pos!!
2006-12-07 13:10:27 · answer #1 · answered by Issym 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is a real jerk. Sorry, but that was really really rude, disrespectful, shady, and mean. Even if nothing happened, he was wrong. I know you have a baby with him, but I'm telling you that I would not put up with it. I would definitely kick his *** out. I would not consider spending my life with someone who would do something like that.
And I agree with the person who said 'what if you had an emergency' when he took the keys and turned off his phone. I guess if you had been taken to the hospital, he wouldn't have known until he brought his sorry *** home at 4 a.m. after (most likely) cheating on you. What a loser.
2006-12-07 13:15:44 · answer #2 · answered by danika1066 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're just looking for confirmation, right? If you hung out with an ex like that wouldn't you be sleeping with him. Probably so or you wouldn't waste the time. I'll confirm it for you, no matter what he says he's cheating, accept that fact. Now you have an opportunity to make a choice; stay or go. If you stay then you should shut up and live with (or join in). If not move on and deal with that. You can't stay and confront him and punish him and keep him. Never works.
2006-12-07 13:14:05 · answer #3 · answered by Lab 7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how it feels. At this kind of situation, you should move away and get divorced, this might end up with violence with him playing you both in the middle. Going with a women to the bar when his wife is preg??? He's such a jerk! This might be a sexy situation between him and his ex and by the things that happened, he's pretty controlling and can't understand much of you. Get away before it really starts hurting. Once men starts, 99% never quits.
Tip: don't confront him in person, do it when he can't reach you, sometimes, they get out of control and who's gonna get hurt is you and your baby.
2006-12-07 13:11:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know exactly what to think. you just don't want to face it. you are married that gives you a lot of rights. he thinks he can run around and make an *** out of you.
i'm thinking he left the email out deliberately for you to see and he is waving the x in your face. tell him if it happens again you will be seeing a lawyer before the car cools off the next time he is out with her again!!! let him know that the car he is driving her around in is community property and you can have all of the assets sold off and the money split between you. not to mention the "maintenance" you will be able to collect from him not to mention the child support. bet he wont be able to wine and dine the x on what he has left over. bet his little game will end rather quickly!
2006-12-07 13:29:51 · answer #5 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Although I am not pregnant, my husband was talking to his ex behind my back as well (she lives in another state). Well I am filing for divorce, there were other problems but I did light into his a**, now he is kissing my a**, in your situtation you have someone else to consider, get out of this situation and divorce him, move with family.
2006-12-07 14:11:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should start divorce proceedings. He is disrespecting you and your marriage. It is a big no no to be going out with his ex girlfriend and leaving you at home pregant and by yourself. He is not worth having in your life. Just because you are about to have his child does not mean you have to put up with his crap.
2006-12-07 16:38:18 · answer #7 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave tonight! You do not have to accept being treated that way especially while you are carrying his child. What is he gonna do when the baby is born and she calls, lock both of you in the closet?
2006-12-07 13:20:30 · answer #8 · answered by tim b 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him to leave you the hell alone, and go be with her. He is not a good husband to do this at anytime but especially while your pregnant. Loose him the stress can effect your pregnancy. It's not good for go or the baby.
2006-12-07 14:56:00 · answer #9 · answered by mystical 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is going on cause that was not necessary to do all that suppose you had an emergency or something you couldn't get in touch with him and you couldn't drive yourself either he clearly wasn't thinking straight ask him if he still wants to be with her
2006-12-07 13:11:27 · answer #10 · answered by mrsdg01 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋