I am 19 and my boyfriend is 22. We have been together for a little over a year and have a great relationship, we also live together.
He has a general manager job position which has been working him to the bone especially now that the holidays are here.
Anyways I have a very big sex drive and always in the "love making" mood. Most of the time I am the one that comes onto him, or more of the aggresive one. He always tells me he is tired and just wants to sleep. I can easily get him hard but he still complains hes tired.We have sex about twice a week. I would rather it be ATLEAST once a day.... Its very fustrating to me because whenever he is ready to do it, I am always down, but I constantly have to wait untill he is ready.... What about me?? What about MY needs?? I dont feel like this is fare to me having to feel sexually fustrated at night. I do have a toy but its him I really want. What can I do to make the situation better for the both of us. Do you think im being selfish
2006-12-07 12:09:31 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm guessing you come at him at night when he gets home from a long, tired some day full of people on his face because they mad at something. How about try to let him sleep and catch him in the morning when he has rested. It is a guarantee that a guy will wake up with a hard on, so why not put it to use.
He gets the rest he wants and you get the sex you want. compromise girl.. catch him in the morning. If he still doesn't want to have sex then there are other underline issues and you should consider finding them out or giving him the boot.
2006-12-07 12:24:29 · answer #1 · answered by Cyrinos 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well....yes...I think you are being a little selfish....he may not have the same sex drive that you have...if you really love him then give him a break...find ways to pleasure yourself and maybe if he sees you he will get excited and join in...don't make him feel bad about being tired or not having the same drive you have or you may find that it becomes once a week or once every other week...what then...enjoy what you have together and try to focus on what is good with all of your relationship not just how many times a week you want to have sex....you will hit a place where both of you are happy at some point...in the mean time...take matters into your own hands and don't put so much pressure on him to perform when he doesn't want to....good luck
2006-12-07 12:24:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is interesting. Most guys I've known are like a Las Vegas 24-7 buffet. Anytime is fine. If they're sick - that's OK, tired - no problem, or just broke a limb - they can work around it, especially at 22.
Your "AT LEAST once a day" seems a bit excessive to me- but most men would be absolutely thrilled.
Don't have an answer for you, but I do think it's odd - no matter how tired he is.
2006-12-07 12:37:33 · answer #3 · answered by I have ideas... 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Nope I feel for ya I have a high sex drive too and have been dumped afew times over it since men couldn't keep up with me.Just ask your man for some more sex if he can't oblige I say leave because a relationship is mutual everyone should get their needs met!
2006-12-07 12:16:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he seems to not have a big sex drive obviously, or hes seeing someone else, or you got fat or ugly or sumthin...but if he had an increased sex drive, you would be fine. if it were me, id slam ya all day, amidst working, basketball, exercising, and other stuff. he definitely has a problem....or he could really be tired, and THAT SUCKS. lol ......talk to him about it and see what he says, dont argue, just be sincere.
2006-12-07 12:17:31 · answer #5 · answered by Tray Augustus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being selfish..
At 22, he should be up for at least once per day with a
19 yr. old girl in a one year relationship...
Perhaps you need to tell your b/f that your needs are not
being met....What does he suggest you do ?
Look for another b/f ??
2006-12-07 12:15:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he needs to get his priorities straight
it doesn't have to be BETWEEN you OR his work
but he should'nt neglect you
That said you don't wanna do it with him if he's not into it
He sounds like a friend (nice guy, you guys talk) but not a boyfriend. if your sex life is bad know there's no way you can last for yearrs of marraige. MAKE HIM MAKE ADJUSTMANTS OR DUMP HIM!
2006-12-07 12:15:33 · answer #7 · answered by thank you come again 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You bet you are being selfish. It sounds to me as if sex is the focal point of your relationship with this guy, that's not love. IF you loved him you would understand his being tired...but you're just a spoiled brat, your whining proves it.
2006-12-07 15:23:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your boyfriends interest in having sex with you is directly proportional to your looks and attractiveness vs his. At your age if you're not getting it at least once or twice a day then either get more attractive(lose weight, nosejob, facial surgery,etc) or move on to a boyfriend that is more easily interested.
2006-12-07 12:44:58 · answer #9 · answered by swingfromhips 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you should talk to him. Just, sit down and talk to him. Maybe he'll get interested in the talk and maybe want to have se x. Or, if you give him a massage and relaxe him, then maybe he'll want to have se x more often.
OR...
Break up with him.
Which I don't think you want to do. Lol.
Hope this helps!
-Katie Rose.
2006-12-07 12:16:21 · answer #10 · answered by KatieRose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋