Im almost 19 years old and i want to settle down. My boyfriend and i have been going out for 3 years now and i still mady in love. we both are in college and know that we have a stable future. What should i say to him?
2006-12-07 12:01:08 · 14 answers · asked by Sarah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ohh i forgot to say my boyfriends 20, if that helps
2006-12-07 12:46:39 · update #1
ask him casually about what he sees for you and him in the future, tell him what you would like to see for the two of you , dream together.
after finishing school, getting jobs...etc.
2006-12-07 12:07:58 · answer #1 · answered by ~muffun~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was engaged at 17, he turned into an alcholic the next year and started beating me.
My sister is engaged now (she's 19) and her guy is cheating on her. I want to marry the guy I'm with right now, but I have to accept the fact that most guys in this age group are not grown enough to marry. He will change a lot through the years and so will you. If you ask him and he's not ready he may say yes just because marriage is treated like an unwanted gift that can be returned on a whim by some of the people from our age group.
He may not really understand what a commitment it is until he in it, and then he may become resentful of you "ruining his freedom"
If its really love, and he really loves you back why not wait?
Are you rushing it because you think it will make him stay or improve the relationship?
2006-12-07 20:16:50 · answer #2 · answered by Sugarshots 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say yes! You will get a lot of 'You are too young' but I married young and I do not regret it. If you are truely in love than time will not change it. I would hold off on the babies until you get out of college, but if you know a 100% that you love that man, and that you won't love another than go for it. I got married when I was 18. I knew it then and I know it even more now that I love my husband and I will not ever love a man as much as I love him.
2006-12-07 20:06:18 · answer #3 · answered by Ash 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I married when I was still studying at the University and I can assure you its hard work- I'm not saying impossible to do- oh you can do it, it's just stressful, you get home- tons of studying to do, reports, projects, ect. plus add the house work, cooking, ect and at night you have to be perfectly ready for love making.
So think it over if he loves you I know he'll wait until you both have finished your careers.
Luck 2 u both.
2006-12-07 20:08:37 · answer #4 · answered by Taz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel you on that, I have always wanted to get married young, but it wasn't meant to happen for me. Just tell your boyfriend exactly how you feel, and just let him know that you are ready to get married. Just don't pressure him into marrying you. But I'm sure it will happen at the right time for you. Good luck and God Bless.
2006-12-07 23:10:31 · answer #5 · answered by Linda J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why rush it have fun in your twenties. We all think when we are young that marriage is all fun and dandy it is a lot of work. We all think white picket fences with a dog and a cat in the yard. It really is not like that.
2006-12-08 00:48:17 · answer #6 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should bring it up and see if he ready to settle down. I think you should wait till you finish college before you get married.
2006-12-07 20:08:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel and see if he has the same ideas as you. You are able to ask him so go ahead. If he says no then you know you have no future with him.
2006-12-07 20:10:44 · answer #8 · answered by Closed Down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married when I was 19....and divorced at 22. I would suggest waiting, but that's not what you want to hear.
2006-12-07 20:06:09 · answer #9 · answered by J9 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should try to wait after college. Worring about school and keeping up a family is too much stress. I am sure he will ask you to marry him one day.
2006-12-07 20:02:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋