Is depression really bad when you are pregnant?

Question

because first was when my parents found out i was pregnant my dad ended up in the hospital because he is diabetic and his sugar went up he was close to die if my brother would have taken him to the hospital 10min later my dad would have been death and thank he is not!.Second, was when i moved out of state and had to leave my boyfriend. 3rd, is right now my boyfriend is putting me down by telling me i am ugly,fat,stupid,etc. oh yeah i am nly 17( i know i know i am to young and what the h*ll didn't i use protection i bet that is what u guys are thinking) and my boyfriend is 19. How do know if my baby will be ok?

Answer 1

Your boyfriend is showing you exactly who he is. Any man who would be abusive to a woman, especially a pregnant one, is a an idiot! You need to get away from him asap! Do you really think this fool is fit father material? Take yourself and your innocent unborn child and be someplace safe..NOW!

Answer 2

The baby feels the effects of stress as your blood pressure rises and your body has other physical reactions to the increases in hormone production related to stress. And sometimes an anxious mother can produce an anxious baby.

We all go through varying degrees of stress when we're pregnant. An ill parent is no easy thing to deal with when you're health is 100%, much less when you're being taxed by the little person growing inside you. And there's not much you can do about that.

However, since the boyfriend is so disrespectful, that is something you can solve. No one deserves to be talked to the way he is talking to you. No one. Make the first adult decision you've ever made and do something for you and your baby... get rid of him now so you can get on with your life. You'll both be better for it, and all that negative energy isn't good for you right now. This is supposed to be something happy, and he's ruining it for you. Tell him he's ugly and stupid, and kick him to the curb. FAST.

Answer 3

Your doctor will monitor you and your baby's health at your doctors appointments.

Depression can be worse during pregnancy because of the hormones, and your body is less able to cope with stress.

You need to avoid stressful situations as much as possible when you're pregnant. if your boyfriend is treating you like crap, you need to sit down with him and get him to either stop mistreating you, or get him OUT of your life before he ruins your health and risks the baby's.

If you're far enough along that you can feel your baby kick regularly, you can tell if he's fine by laying down and drinking water, or something sweet, and feeling for him to kick atleast 10 times in two hours. That means he's not under stress and is okay.

Answer 4

Depression during pregnancy does not affect the baby directly. But it might have effects on you e.g. you might end up not eating properly or smoking. So these things can have effects on the growing baby. Try your best to stay out of depression. If you can't control it yourself then ask your doctor. You doctor can refer you to a psychotherapist who might really really help you at this time. Many community centres also have group session where parents and parents -to- be meet and discuss their issues. They are great too.

Answer 5

Its normal for depression to set in during pregnancy. There is help out there so don't give up, and don't wait for it to get worse.
If it gets too bad its not good for you or the baby. Look on-line or in
the phone book there are free counselors, someone to talk to about
everything . and just think it might help and its not like things would be any worse than they are now. When you are pregnant
your hormones are out of "wak". its OK and things will get better.

Answer 6

Depression affects different people in different ways. Some do not experience it at all, some experience mild depression, others experience more severe forms of it. There are situations that put you at higher risk for depression. To name a just a few: a previous history of depression, chronic illness, current and / or ongoing problems with family and/or other significant people in your life. You will find that the health care professionals involved (MD, RN, LPN, Social Worker) will be closely monitoring you for this both before and after you deliver. Just be honest and open when they question you.

In case you are wondering, Clinical Depression is more than just feeling sad. Everyone has a bad day every now and then. Clinical depression is something very different, and you can't just "snap out of it". It is a clinical disorder with a defined criteria that a person must meet in order to be diagnosed. This is the criteria outlined in the DSM-IV manual by the American Psychiatric association that must be met before depression is diagnosed:

1) depressed mood
2) anhedonia (inability to enjoy things you normally enjoy)

PLUS at least five of the following:

- Feelings of overwhelming sadness and/or fear, or the seeming inability to feel emotion (emptiness) .

- A decrease in the amount of interest or pleasure in all, or almost all, daily activities.

- Changing appetite and marked weight gain or loss.

- Disturbed sleep patterns, such as insomnia, loss of REM sleep, or excessive sleep (Hypersomnia).

- Psychomotor agitation or retardation nearly every day.

- Fatigue, mental or physical, also loss of energy.

- Intense feelings of guilt, helplessness, hopelessness, worthlessness, isolation/loneliness and/or anxiety.

- Trouble concentrating, keeping focus or making decisions or a generalized slowing and obtunding of cognition, including memory.

- Recurrent thoughts of death (not just fear of dying), desire to just "lay down and die" or "stop breathing", recurrent suicidal ideation without a specific plan, or a suicide attempt or a specific plan for committing suicide.

- Feeling and/or fear of being abandoned by those close to one.



The signs and symptoms must persist for longer than a 2 week period, occur most of the day, nearly everyday and represent a change from the way you normally feel and function in order to be qualified as clinical depression.

With postpartal depression, you would also note an indifference to the newborn or even have feelings of resentment towards him or her.

If you feel you need help, get it. Research suggests that a combination of both talk therapy and medications have better results than either interventions alone. However, you may need the medication first in order to be able to concentrate and focus. If mild, you may not need medication at all.

Hope this info helps. :-) Best wishes.

p.s. edited to add, depression is VERY DIFFERENT from the occassional sadness everyone experiences once in a while. True clinical depression is not something you can tell yourself to not feel. It is not a matter of will, it is a matter of chemical imbalance(s) and your body's physiological response to those imbalances. Telling a person with true clinical depression, as defined by the above criteria, to "just don't be depressed" is like telling a diabetic to "just don't be a diabetic" or someone with Hypertension to "stop having high blood pressure" or someone with cancer to "stop having cancer". Even with all of the advances in awareness and education about the disorder, most people are still ignorant to the fact that it is a true medical problem and not just an occasional mood. Anyone who tells someone with depression to 'snap out of it', 'just don't think about it', or ' you wouldn't be so depressed if you didn't think you were all the time' obviously does not know what they are talking about. If you feel that you are depressed and it is interfering with your normal routine, GET HELP and from someone who knows/specialize in mental health issues.

Answer 7

You might talk to your doctor....about will the baby be alright...try to take care of yourself and concentrate on your baby....right now that is the most important thing you need to be concerned about. Things have a way of working out. Also try to worry about what your boyfriend is saying ...I know you probably worry, but yes, this could affect your baby...take care of yourself and your baby first...

Answer 8

Of course your baby will be okay. Trust me. And you don't have to be depressed if you don't want to. You're depressed because you think you're depressed. Just tell yourself, From this moment on I'm not depressed, and then stop being depressed.

Answer 9

Think about yourself and your baby. You need to stay healthy in order to have a healthy baby. Be honest with your doctor and tell him/her what's going on. You need someone you can talk to.

Answer 10

go to doctor and check if your baby is ok. just pray ask for the Lord Jesus Christ that you need his help. take care. here my email address if you need a great friend. [e-mail]