We have been on and off for three years. We made our mistakes and we both moved on. I love her with all my heart and I would do nothing to hurt her. This last time we broke up for about three months and she began a relationship with someone else. But i could not let her go. Some things happened and they broke up. We talked about some things and now we are back together. It is going on two months and today she told me she still had feelings for her ex but she wants to be with me and that she loves me. What am I supposed to do?
2006-12-07 11:48:12 · 9 answers · asked by beautiful 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
"She still has feelings for her ex, but she wants to be with me"
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If she is being honest with you (and you'll probably read her clues by now since you've been together for 3 years), then there really is no problem, she loves you and she is willing to work it out with you.
When we make a commitment to someone, as the years go by, we will always have feelings for whoever it is that comes along. This is not necessarily a threat to the relationship, this is just normal. But what makes it a threat is if the flame is being stoked. If we have feelings for others and just leave it to go away, then there's really no harm done. But if they are entertained... well, at some point, the fur will fly.
If she is doing nothing regarding her feelings with her ex (just letting it die), then just be with her, maybe she really wants to stay true to you. That's the only thing that counts in the end, when the years roll by, feelings may change, but if it's backed by genuine commitment, then it's a love worth living for.
2006-12-07 13:20:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you guys need some clarity. You won't leave each other alone long enough to figure out if it's just your vulnerability at being suddenly single, your need for emotionaly security or true love that's driving you back into each other's arms.
If you two truly love each other these things WOULDN'T be happening: (1) the repetitive breaking up (2) your inability to let her go when you do break up, thus complicating the healing process (3) her ambiguous feelings about you in relation to her recent ex (4) you asking strangers what we think about this relationship.
I don't think either of you know whether you love one another or not at this point. I think there's an emotional need based on familiarity and fear that keeps you two heading back into a situation both of you keep eventually leaving again. My advice is to give each other distance, mental and physical, for longer than a few months--like a romantic moratorium if you will--and see where you and she are. I'm willing to bet that if you really love each other, the stupid repetitive breaking-up-to-make up will stop.
2006-12-07 11:58:19 · answer #2 · answered by dangerouspoet 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she has feelings for her ex find out for sure and do u really want to contnue with a relationship u love her and respect u but if she loves u the way u do with all your heart then shed forget the ex if she does have feelings for her ex let her go shes playing games u either love one or the other why put your self through that your worth more then that i know its hard and love hurts your heart will feel like theres a hole but it will heal with time and have a long talk with her on the relationship and how or should it go on with the relationship or is it a wate of time before its to late willhope it works out and hope this helps a little bit
2006-12-07 12:02:34 · answer #3 · answered by dvcgurl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think that if she loves u that u shouldnt worrie about it the only dated for a few months and u guys been on and on. she is coming home to you right so dont worrie so much she loves u.
2006-12-07 12:05:42 · answer #4 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may still have feelings but if she's with you she's with you give her some time she loves u and if she didnt i doubt that she was be wit u so just give her some time and see what happens and never give up to easy
2006-12-07 11:59:24 · answer #5 · answered by CiCi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wants to be with you, you must take into consideration that actions speak louder than words!
2006-12-07 12:32:22 · answer #6 · answered by Namaste 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone girl-someone's gonna get hurt and you already know it.
2006-12-07 11:53:01 · answer #7 · answered by sexygal8321 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can you accept it or kick her to the curb.
2006-12-07 12:29:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't know what (who) she wants. You're asking for it.
2006-12-07 14:16:26 · answer #9 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋