Slumber/All Night Party for Teen Aged Boys a Bad Idea?

Question

Do you think an all night birthday party is a good idea? Starting at 6 pm,the kids go to the skate board park, and then go home with the birthday boy, to stay all night, until 10 am. The seven boys range in age from 12-15. They are going to camp out in the living room. They will be able to watch movies, and play x box games. I doubt any of these kids will sleep. I think I need to hire a security guard.(prevention of fights? theft?loud partying? wrestling?destruction of house? screaming, running)
Here is the invitation list(fake names)
Sam-kicked out of school several times, restless, loud, trouble maker,possbily druggie parents, age almost 15
Larry-back ground history unknown, but comes from bad area of town, age 14
Tommy-kicked out of school several times, from bad area of town; age 13
Tony- background history unknown..KNOW NOTHING about him
Travis- ok, but unsure, age 12 or 13
Chris-ok but can get loud, age 13
Jake- kicked out of school several times, loud,restless,age 13

Answer 1

why are your kids hanging around this croud? the most any of these kids will amount to is a life in prison. NO! NEVER HAVE THESE KIDS IN YOUR HOUSE!

Answer 2

First of all, I'd make sure all of the guys get along well enough to spend all that time together. And, no, I don't think anything's wrong with guys having slumber parties anymore than girls. I would suggest that you lay down some firm, but fair rules for the house. Will you be going to work the next day? If so, (if you're married) you and your husband can take turns staying up listening out for anything wrong. If not that, maybe you could have a friend or relative casually stay over and do the same (either with you or for you). If you'll be there the day after, I'd suggest you stockpile your room with sugar, caffeine, or whatever keeps you up (just in case something goes wrong).

The main thing is to be a good hostess, but firm on the rules. And if you (or someone else) is going to be on guard duty, don't make it obvious. If you do,(like hiring a security guard) the guests will be more likely to act up than if you were to do something like it inside the house.(not to mention embarrass sing your kid,even if it is a precaution).

Answer 3

If it's okay with the other boys parents it should be alright. Be sure and keep an eye on them so they don't leave the house, otherwise the most they'll probably do is annoy you with a bunch of noise until 4 in the morning. My husband has told me some stories of when he was that age and went to slumber parties with his friends. It involved porn, magazines, and dares. I won't go into detailes as it isn't appropriate for this site, just keep an eye on them and they'll just be boys.
-However-
I would not let my children hang out with trouble makers, ones that were kicked out of school. These kids are usually from poor backrounds and sometimes use drugs and alcohol. Not the best influence on your children.

Answer 4

Well, Personally, I would think it is an AWFUL idea to have these kids in your house! If they got kicked out of school a couple of times, what would stop them from doing destruction to your home? Even, with a security guard. Also, your son shouldn't be friends with these guys! They may put him under pressure to steal, and be like them. And if I were you, I'd be VERYYY mad if my kid got kicked out of school!!!! Don't you agree with me?
If you SERIOUSLY need THESE kids over, take them to the skateboard park, then let them go to the movies, and drop them off. Oh, and you watch the movie too. You don't have to sit with them, but keep an eye on them from your seat, and make sure they are acting appropriatly.

So that's just my idea. Hope I helped!

Answer 5

They seem too young to be too much trouble. There will be mischief, oh yes there will. They are close 1 or two more years and an all night party may involve alchohol and maybe even some mescalin but you've got 12 olds it doesn't seem that's the case. If it's your house you can check thier breath halfway through the night. Remove any priceless artifacts from the living room. and i don't see a problem with a little wrestling.

The kids from the bad side of town, i really think alot of them are more respectful and aware of the dangers of drugs than do the mniddle class kids who have the money to spend on them.

Kids with druggie parents often reject what thier parents do and see the negative consequences first hand.

Answer 6

Teenage boys should not be allowed to gather in numbers, for more than an hour or two. Teenage boys become bored when limited to one room in the house. That's when the destruction can began. They might laugh, get loud, wrestle, make dares, cuss, throw food, fight, yell, for the entire night. Adult supervision must be required the entire time of the party. If there is no supervision and the adults go to sleep, the teens will do worse things than laugh, get loud, wrestle, make dares, cuss, throw food, fight, yell, for the entire night.

Answer 7

Sounds like your son needs to get some new friends. The ones that already have a criminal history I would not want in my house all night, especially after you and your parter go to bed. The bad ones could try to talk the others into doing something that they would not usually do. Just invite the ones that you know are not a bad influance.

Answer 8

If you are the parent of one of these guys, or the parent of the birthday boy, you would be legally responsiblel for anything they did while under your supervision, esp at your house. So, if you are uncomfortable about whether or not you could deal with whatever they throw your way, then yes, it probably is a bad idea to have them all over. But, I'm not a parent and I don't know the boys, so there is always the possiblity that they would be just fine. But the point is whether or not you'd be comfortable being responsible for them.

Answer 9

If you or an older man kind of supervises, it will be better. You may have to sacrifice a night of sleep. You should make sure that all these kids parents okay their kids coming to your house. I know that some of these kids parents are questionable, but if you make contact with them beforehand at least you'll know who to call if you find the boys with weed/porn/booze at 3am.

Provide food but no sugar, and a whole night's full of movies that aren't overly violent. Maybe even think of something creative for them to do, like silkscreen t-shirts or design their own stickers (skater boys love that stuff) that you can get printed up later. Run these ideas by your son and see if he likes them or has some of his own.

Don't let kids come over whose parents haven't been contacted.

Talk to the kids as they come to your house so you can assess if they've been drinking or whatever.

Talk to your son about your reservations. let him know that you trust him, but that you want the party to go smoothly. Ask him if all the boys get along, if anyone's a bully, and basically what the group dynamic is. Find out if any of the kids smoke, and let your son know that once inside, they boys cannot leave or go outside during the night.

If you follow some preventative measures beforehand, you'll probably be successful. I know teen boys can be horrible, but even the worst ones are still kids on the inside and should be given a (calculated and well thought out) chance to prove themselves.


Also, keep in mind that alot of kids act up in school and get kicked out because of the dynamic there. Either they get picked on alot by their peers, or their teachers treat them worse than the "jock boys" whose parents have money because they expect them to be bad. It has been proven multiple times in sociological studies that people tend to treat poor kids as worse kids. The stress of school might be what makes them get in trouble - not because they are truly rotten.

Answer 10

screaming? no
running? maybe (depends on size of living room)
theft? probably not with your son there
fights? probably not
loud partying? no music, some yells.

No way should you do this in your house. Maybe get a tent and an extension cord (for the tv, dvd player, xbox)

If you don't have a tent then maybe just talk to your kid and say that you will punish him alot (spank him infront of his friends, ban skateboarding etc.) if they get too out of hand. If your son isn't responsible then DO NOT have a sleepover

Answer 11

it doesn't seem like a good idea. . . . UNLESS you are there with them all night, you lock up the liquor (if you have it), make sure there is no smoking (of any kind), watch out for drugs, and make sure there are no sexual hijinks (boys that age do strange things at times). Without a chaperone, you and your house will not be happy campers the next morning.