We are both married but are so undeniably attracted to each other and there is so much chemistry. I have never looked into someones eyes and felt such a burning and longing for him. I am afraid if I let him walk out of my life without acting on it i may be sorry for the rest of my life. I am in an ok marriage and his is kind of on the rocks!
2006-12-07 11:46:16 · 4 answers · asked by kd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When there is true chemistry between people, it is very difficult indeed to sea reason. Common sense just goes out the window because the attraction is so strong. I am living proof of this....Being with a married man never ever entered my mind before. I had the same opinion that most people have....do not get involved with a married man. I met this guy and the attraction was so strong, that I just couldnt help myself and went with my heart. I am in love with this Guy, and he is in love with me. People may scoff because of the situation he is in, but it doesnt take away what you actually know about the person you are in love with. He is still with his wife...he is there out of responsibility only...he has tried to walk out a couple of times but she threatens to kill herself if he leaves. I think he will end up leaving, but I am going through a terrible time while he is deciding what to do. It is a terrible situation for him, I understand that, but its also horrible for me too. I wish I had never gone with my heart. I wish I never got involved with him because it hurts too much because there is the distinc possibility that he will never leave his wife. If I could go back 3 years, I would never even have met him. I would have avoided him at all costs because I am suffering. You can go with your heart if you want to...I know it is such a strong attraction to ignore, but if you want to keep your marriage in tact, then I trully suggest you leave it alone. If this guys marriage is on the rocks, then maybe he will end up like me....hurting because you wont leave your husband. And if the attraction for him is as strong as mine was, then you will fall in love with him. It causes all kinds of complications, but if you are prepared to risk your marriage, then go with your feelings. If you dont want to risk your marriage then stay away...it causes too much pain in the long run.
2006-12-07 11:57:59 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Major chemistry is right, as your brain floods with chemical stimulants. The problem is, that always fades over time. Always. If that high hasn't been replaced by a more stable connection, the relationship is doomed. That's when you find out WHY his marriage was on the rocks. If you wouldn't make a life-changing decision while drunk, what makes you think it would be any better to make it under the influence of drugs? That's what these chemicals are. Better living through chemistry? Not for most people in your position.
2006-12-07 20:19:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your marriage. An "ok" marriage is worth a hundred affairs. If you can't resist the attraction, do your husband a favor and tell him you're through - then pursue the new guy.
You will be attracted to other people besides your husband; it's realistic to expect it. However, if you're thinking of acting on it whenever an opportunity comes up - you're probably better off just being single.
2006-12-07 19:59:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By all means do as the animals do if you think chemistry is so special. What you are experiencing is lust. You can live without it and you are supposed to since you are married. I feel sorry for your husband. You are willing to throw that away so easily? There will always be someone like that around you since you clearly are not mature enough to control yourself. You are letting your emotions take over and anyone being ruled by feelings without tempering them with responsible logic is sure to face disaster anyway. I'll just bet the other guy is not in a rocky marriage, as it is easy to lie to an emotional woman to indulge in his own lust with anyone he can fool. Are you his fool?
2006-12-07 19:57:50 · answer #4 · answered by PZ 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋