My husband and I met a very nice couple who are also swingers. My husband is very attracted to the other woman and I want him to have the experience with her but I'm not really turned on by the other guy. She is also turned on by my husband but she will not go there with him unless I am with her husband. Should I have sex with the other man so as to make sure my husband has a good time or not? I'm willing to do it to make him happy if that's what it takes.
2006-12-07 11:42:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Okay, either some of you are just plain rude or you can't read english. I asked this question of SWINGERS ONLY!
2006-12-07 11:57:21 · update #1
I guess if I thought my wife really wanted to I would but the real question for me would be why is the other guy holding this stipulation over his wife's and your head. He sounds a bit controling to me. If he's keeping score than that's not what I call swinging.
2006-12-07 11:54:09 · answer #1 · answered by open_phunguy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, but only if you watch. You may even want to participate. Been there. Done that. The best way to handle this is to have a foursome or just watch while he does her (or she does him!). Maybe you and her husband should watch those two together and get turned on and do each other, even if you are not turned on by him. What is it that does not turn you on about him? Is he fat? Is he hairy? Does he have a cut penis? Cut penises always turn me off. They just don't have as much as the natural man, i.e. chew on foreskin type of thing. If I ever had to be with a cut man again, I think I'd turn gay!
2006-12-07 12:23:40 · answer #2 · answered by Virginia V 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
well i think you are a very considerate wife and yer husband is lucky to have you...that said... i think you should let yer husband know how you feel and if still would ask this of you..then go ahead and do it if wouldnt hurt your self respect or anything like that...but then if the situation is ever reversed... yer hubby should be willing to bite the bullet for you too... good luck with that... i know i had the same situation and my gf was a good sport and made it fun for me... and its only sex
2006-12-07 12:23:41 · answer #3 · answered by NONAME 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My hubby and I are swingers as well.
My biggest concern is that if you let it happens once, your hubby and the other woman will want to do it more. So, you take one for the team, now what do you do? You are not getting anything out of it and eventually resentment will be present.
Bottom line, if it is not good for ALL parties concerned, don't do it.
2006-12-07 11:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by sawftandtender 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I have been there. We usually swing seperatly now. I find who I want for a sex buddy and he finds who he wants. It works out great. We are very open with each other.
2006-12-07 11:46:06 · answer #5 · answered by sexyladyinak 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You are a very sick individual and you make a mockery out of marriage. What you do is adultry plain and simple.
2006-12-07 11:45:01 · answer #6 · answered by Sally B 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Thats hysterical to me ! I think you should NOT sleep with anyone else BUT your husband !
2006-12-07 11:46:07 · answer #7 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
YUK, YUK, YUK. What a sick world we are living in with poeple like you poluting sociaty.
2006-12-07 15:20:48 · answer #8 · answered by BFCP 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Only if you are ok with it.
2006-12-07 11:45:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why the hell get married?
2006-12-07 11:47:20 · answer #10 · answered by Tough Love 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋