I'm 16 and I'm pregnant, the father is from the Philippines and I'm Native American he wants me to back with h

Question

so we can raise our child,my parents dont know that im pregnant, the father is 19,his parents know that im pregnat but iv never met them(he told them) (hes not a citizen of the U.S) what should i do?? oh also iv knone him for a while so its not like i just went out and had sex with him


plz help me!!!!

i do speak cebuano and tagalog

i have enough money to take care of the child,so does he,do you think i could get deul citizen ship for my baby????

he has a job, i get benifits from the government cuz im Native American, i also have already am sinior(i skipped a grade)

by a while i mean almost 5 years

Answer 1

TELL YOUR PARENTS DON'T BE AFRAID TO TELL THEM BE CAUSE IF YOU MOVIE WITH HIM YOU'LL BREAK YOUR PARENTS HART.

Answer 2

Well, first I think you should talk to your parents. They probably don't want you to go to the Phillippines to raise your child, but you may just as well propose the idea. Depending on what they say, you should probably decide what you think is going to be best for you and for the baby. Duel citizenship should work out, but I am not sure because you aren't married to the father. Also, your government benefits may not help if you leave the country, I am not Native American so I really wouldn't know. Also, it may be a good idea to declare emancipation from your parents. Emancipation is declaring yourself an adult so that federally you will have the rights of an 18 year old, except the right to vote. This will help you in giving your child the same federal resources that you have as a Native American. Remember...what ever you decision is, make sure that you consider that it will not only affect you, but your child.

Answer 3

If you are planning on having this child, you need to tell your parents. You can't go the whole pregnancy without telling them. It will be easier on you in the long run once they know. I am not sure how they would feel about their 16 yr old moving to Philippines, but trust me, especially at your age, the pregnancy won't be easy by any means. Raising the child won't be any easier.

You need to make sure you finish school, home school if neccessary. You will need to have a stable job to support your child (I spend about $75 a week for groceries for my 9 mo. old/ $300 a month and daycare alone is $812.00 a month). Monthly, my sons cost is at least $1,000.00.

To have a decent job, you at least need your HS diploma. To actually have the child, depending on insurance (most only cover about 80%) you will need to pay about $1,500 out of pocket for a vaginal delivery. If you have to have a c-section this cost can triple. Think about this. Will you be able to do this without your parents help? Don't think "oh, its just a baby, I can do it". It is hard work!

And don't think I don't know what I am talking about. That I have no idea what you are going through. I was pregnant at 16 and made a decision that I thought was best for my future (I am not saying that it is right for you). But, I am now much older and a mother. I now know, for sure, I made the right decision. Having a baby is hard work and very expensive. Please think this through.

Answer 4

Stay here til the child is born, you'll have better medical care and your child will be a US Citizen. Also you need to figure out who's going to support you and your child. Will your parents be willing to support you? Is the father able to support you? I definitely suggest you tell your parents you're pregnant, you need their support right now.

Good luck.

Answer 5

You two put yourselfs in a tough situation, you should talk to your parents the worse is yet to come, but its your life and your decision so don't feel bad having a child is a beautiful thing, Im not the one to say you are not ready I don't judge people ,but I would say cosidering his age your different family backgrounds, it sounds like you do want to go with them, if your parents get upset will they avoid you and try to put you out if so and you are a citizen try to get emancipated then you can do whatever you want.

Answer 6

Well luckily for you once you are 16 your parents can't have him arrested for statutory rape. However you need to stop and think very hard on what you want to do. Talk to your parents, and let them know what you want and how you plan to do it. Like where will you live, how will you make a living, who will help take care of the baby(trust me you will need help!) Will you finish school? All of these are things to think about. And please keep in mind that having a baby changes your life and everything becomes about raising that child to be a civilized human. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 7

I think you should stay here and deal with this with your family If he wants to join you here, that's cool, but you're bound to your family by blood and not to this guy by marriage or anything. He might be wonderful, but you gotta think about the worst case scenario. If things fell apart with him or his family, you'd be in a pickle over there. Here, even if things got bad, you'd have the familiarity of home, and at least would speak the language!

You're entering the unknown by becoming a new (and very young) mom. Don't complicate things by having to learn a new culture as well.
Anyway, don't you want your child to have the same citizenship as you? If you had it there, you'd never be able to bring the child back here to live legally!

Answer 8

What can i say???
When you had sex with the boy, you didnt think what could happen..you are not responsible at all. How can you be responsible with a baby?? If you married him and go to philippines, how will u both live?? Has the father some job?
or are you thinking to live with their parents and that way they have to raise 3 kids? That's not fair !!!!
On the contrary....if you stay in USA, your parents can help you...................they are ur parents and i think they wont kick ur a**, in spite of you deserve it.
Thanks God you know him only for a while, on the contrary i dunno what could happen if in a while u got pregnant.
Have you thought that you wont have youth as another teens have?
Anyways..........talk with ur parents, and after that, you can decide what to do.

Good luck

Answer 9

I would sit down with your parent and be very straight forward with them. I would not move away form you family. They are going to be your emotional support. Your parents will love you know matter what happens. Just tell them the truth. The sooner you tell them the sooner you can actually be happy that your having a baby. congrads! everything happens for a reason.

Answer 10

Look first of all you need to tell you parents that you are pregnant. Also if you are planning to live with him you will need to get your parents permission to get married to him. Then you will be able to fix his papers once you are married. I don't know though, because you are so young. Your best bet is to tell your parents the whole truth. He should also be careful too though because technically he raped you because you are not of consenting age. Just tell your parents that you are pregnant.

Answer 11

you cant hide the fact that you are pregnant from your parents (you tummy's gonna give it away eventually) i would advise adoption bc a child is soo much work and both of you dont know haw hard it is and you cant just say i dont feel like it because you have created life and now you need to do what is best for that life even if its not whats best for you