We know this other couple through the kids. In fact I became friends with his wife first doing volunteer work. and thats all we are - friends. At a birthday party I overheard my wife whispering in his ear "you are the sexiest man here". A few weeks later we bumped into them at another party and they were both flirting with each other.
What do I do?
2006-12-07 11:02:05 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
His wife is available!
2006-12-07 11:08:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm not going to tell you to divorce like most the other answers, I think that's one of the biggest problems with relationships . . . people give up too quickly.
Keep this in mind- Infidelity is just a SYMPTOM of a larger problem. Find out what the 'problem' is in the relationship and try to fix it. Also, she may not even realize that she making you feel uncomfortable. Miscommunication is usually a great reason for problems in relationships. I would talk to her, tell her what you heard. However, unless you know for sure it has happened, don't accuse her. Don't even bring up the word "affair". That word will only put her on the deffensive. Instead, talk about "you" more than her. Tell her what you heard and it bothered you because it made you wonder if she was happy. Tell her you want to try to put the spark back into the relatioship. . . then you both have to work everyday to do it :)
Corny, I know . . But Dr. Phils "Relationship Rescue" is a great way to learn what both parties can do to keep their relationship healthy.
Good luck!
2006-12-07 11:10:18 · answer #2 · answered by Sera B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the girl up there. Just sit and watch and when she does really have an affair, dump her. As a wife, this kind of attitude is innaceptable. It is ok to talk with them as respect but not to flirt. It is possible that if you talk with her, she might try to be more vigilent and do this secretly. Find someone else. I don't think she's a good mom role model.
2006-12-07 11:15:48 · answer #3 · answered by LadyXSakura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you don't know *for sure* that there is an affair in the first place. There's plenty of smoke, but you haven't seen the fire - yet. But really, that is beside the point. Even if she hasn't cheated, she probably will.
You really need to confront her about the whispering incident. If she has any respect at all for you - and for herself - she will tell you what's going on.
Failing that, you should hire a private investigator.
2006-12-07 11:07:09 · answer #4 · answered by Humberto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your wife. If you show her the attention and respect she deserves, she will not stray. If you haven't done this, then you had better start, first with an open apology for all the things wronged her and then on to the daily, weekly, monthly, yearly things. Marriage is a two way street, it has to be worked on from both sides and kept in good repair at all times.
2006-12-07 11:09:13 · answer #5 · answered by roncarolhillsstupid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont believe everybody in a relationship having an affair. if it extremely is the case the wrongdoer needs to seek counseling. Or a minimum of both of you need to have a sit down and communicate the WHY of the affair. Affairs are nasty and also you need to be in touch on your protection as well because the protection on your then unborn baby. He may have delivered abode all kinds of STD's. also if both of you've been to settlement HIV who will preserve your toddlers? search for suggestion from out of your husband. good luck
2016-11-24 21:57:41 · answer #6 · answered by stockbridge 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her. Find out how far the situation with the other man has gone. Tell her how you feel, and what you need from her to repair your trust.
If so far it is only flirting, you can go to mairrage counseling. Also, perhaps you need to rediscover the activities that you two may be missing. Dancing, vacations, hotel rooms.....if you want to make it work use all of your available resources.
If she has cheated on you, would you want to work it out? If so, again mairage counseling would be a good place to start.
However, be prepared that she may not want to work this mairrage out.
2006-12-07 11:13:52 · answer #7 · answered by absintheveil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront them about it! Tell everyone involved how you feel! If your wife is truly having an affair, I would say divorce her, that would definitly stop her from having it atleast with you. I'm sure it's not what you want to hear but sometimes the truth really does hurt. Really though, confront your wife and tell her you did over hear her comment and just ask her about it!
2006-12-07 11:13:27 · answer #8 · answered by kerrberr95 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unlike the others, I wouldn't tell her what I know just yet.....set back and see where this is going.....we women are crafty, and if we know someone is on to us then we just get better at covering our tracks.
If she is that bold, I hate to tell you, that she proably already has cheated...... you haven't found out and know she's cocky..... like a criminal, until they get caught.
If the marriage is worth saving, then your best bet is to talk to her and see where her head and heart really is! If you know that you have been the best husband that you can be then there is nothing else that you can do but if not then you need to step up your game. Like the old saying goes, if your not taking care of home then someone else will.
Good Luck!
2006-12-07 11:28:12 · answer #9 · answered by Renee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can never stop a person from doing anything as tempting as an affair. if you confront or shout at her, she will leave you and go to that man crying. the best thing to do is sit back and watch. and after she cheats on you, kick her to the curb. the other guy will never want her as a wife, he will only use her.so, after her affair, you leave her and let her find out that what a wonderful man she has lost.
2006-12-07 11:08:54 · answer #10 · answered by atahsina 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you have kids, hire a PI just in case things go from bad to worst. If you find that she is up to no good, at least you will have some evidence and therefore you may be able to keep your kids away from the other man, if it ends in divorce.
SORRY!
I hope things work out.
2006-12-07 11:09:43 · answer #11 · answered by Webmaster Tim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋