i am white and my husband is white, but recently i had a stupid fling with a black guy i know from work. its really embarrassing but i dont know who the father is. is there any way to find out before the baby is born? i dont want my husband to turn up thinking its his and it comes out mixed race!! please help
2006-12-07 10:59:57 · 34 answers · asked by Samiya 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i was sleeping with both of them around the date i fell pregnant and even slept with both of them in the same night twice, so that doesnt make things any clearer
2006-12-07 11:06:46 · update #1
You can have one of those colored 3D ultrasounds.
2006-12-07 11:03:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
i'll be honest if i was you and had done this (but i never would) I would do all I could to try and find out before the baby was born. If there is a dna test that can be done, do it, i think it will cost tho.
If the baby is your husbands, thank your lucky stars and DONT tell him, learn from this, never never cheat on him again, and give this baby the start he deserves.
If you cant be faithful then leave your husband now, and think about your baby, dont bring him up in a loveless enviroment, very damaging.
If the baby is mixed race, love it none the less than if it were white, but the ball then lies in your husbands court.
2006-12-07 11:23:14 · answer #2 · answered by joesmum 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, well..... I think that you need to tell your husband about it, so that it doesn't come as a big surprise if the baby isn't white. If you slept with them around the same time there is no way of knowing who is the father. Does the guy from work know about it? You need to let them both know. there is a dna test you can do while pregnant, but there are risk factors in doing so. Good luck with everything, and don't listen to the rude remarks. Everyone makes mistakes, just some get caught!
2006-12-07 11:17:44 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy To Be in April 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only way to know for sure it to have an amniocentesis and get some of the baby's cells from the amniotic fluid. Then you'd have to get the guy from work to take a blood test to compare the DNA. All in all, something that wouldn't be easy without your husband finding out about it. Good luck!
2006-12-07 11:02:59 · answer #4 · answered by rdnck_grl_ms_007 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As you are married, you should fess up to your husband about the affair. Wouldn't you want him to do the same? Surely your vows mean something to you...
I know it's difficult, but you need to take responsibility for your actions. Think of it as setting a good example for your kid in advance, even if the consequences may be extremely difficult or even devastating. I'm not saying "shame on you" or anything like that - just that you will be a more righteous person if you take the moral high ground.
2006-12-07 11:37:14 · answer #5 · answered by Emily O 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What???? you better call a lawyer asap. Why would you do that to your husband? That is so sad. If you are going to cheat, I think you better consider a divorce. Obviously there are problems in your marriage that need to be addressed. There is a very good chance that this child will be mixed and your husband may pack up and leave and he should. I really think you need to tell him now.
2006-12-07 12:11:57 · answer #6 · answered by ShanaJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have to wait until the baby is born before u no who the father is. so ui suggest u tell ur husband u had an affair its better coming from u now than when the baby is born.good luck
2006-12-07 22:16:54 · answer #7 · answered by tiggr1988 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DId you use protection with either one of them??? that might help you a lil more. But you can have a CVS test done. they take dna from you while prego like an amnio. If you're over 35 and ur dr. req that you get an amnio, pay a bit xtra well a lot xtra and have them test the sample with one of the guys blood/dna. it does have a risk factor so i wouldnt do it unless you have to because ur testing for downsyndrome. other than that just wait, it should be easy to tell who's the daddy.
2006-12-07 11:17:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it can, it is called a pre-natal preternity test and to have it performed a doctor will take a DNA sample from the fetus or the placenta. HOWEVER, this has a small risk to the fetus.
When you wait until after the birth, all that's required is a swab of the cells inside the cheek with carries no risk to be baby.
2006-12-07 11:05:49 · answer #9 · answered by rockergirl20032003 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is a reason why it should be embarrassing. The only way to do it is to test the kid (there is a way to do it while in the womb) against at least one of the fathers. Good Luck and I hope this has taught you a lesson.
2006-12-07 11:20:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion: TELL YOUR HUSBAND! There is no way to tell if the baby is white or black! If you don't tell your hubby and the baby comes out black, bam! You are in a world of trouble! There is no way of covering up that one! There is no other option. Tell your husband and pray his a VERY forgiving person!
2006-12-07 11:19:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋