i love my wife but we are seperated but we live in the same house as friends she says we can no longer be together but live together for the children what shuold i do i need help
2006-12-07 10:50:54 · 8 answers · asked by Ryan B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I admire your you and your wife for doing everything you can for your children. However, you need to think long term. How is the situation working out for you two? Are there arguments on a daily or regular basis?
Everything you and your wife are doing is teaching your children how to do it. If you and your wife are married, yet show no love and affection, your children may carry that into their future relationships. If they see you two fighting all the time, your children may carry that on as well.
If the relationship is over and there is no hope for reconnecting, I would get divorced and live apart. I would demand joint custody because I do not agree with one custodial parent when both are capable of good parenting.
You also have to think about yourself too. If it is too difficult to live with the woman you love, knowing you can't have her anymore . . . I would respectfully decline her proposal. You have to be happy in order to create a happy home for your children. Just check you and your wife's situation and figure out if it truly is best for the kids.
Again, I admire you. I can't imagine your situation.
Good luck! :)
2006-12-07 11:25:36 · answer #1 · answered by Sera B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seek professional counciling together. It is noble that you are together for the kids however, the emotional problems that will happen can make things uncomfortable for the kids. Map out a plan with the professional and stay with it. If it becomes too much and the children get hurt mentally, then it is time to live seperately.
2006-12-07 11:05:32 · answer #2 · answered by acedelux 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Kids know when something is up and are not stupid. To say you're 'doing it for the children' is just an excuse to hang on sometimes and easier than facing the hard truth. If you are seperated, then you should be just that. It only pains both of you seeing and living with one another and isn't giving you the space to figure out if this is what you want.
One of you needs to move out. That doesn't make you enemies, just seperated.
2006-12-07 11:01:35 · answer #3 · answered by Tough Love 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Watching their parents live an awkward life together while seeing other people IS NOT in the best interest of the children. Move out of have her move out. It's harsh but no matter how much you love her, if she doesn't love you back there is not much you can do besides move on and try to be happy elsewhere.
2006-12-07 10:57:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you've tried working it out (talking, counseling, etc.), move out. Just because your marriage is over does not mean that your LIFE has to be over. Might be a bit awkward for your "friend" ex-wife when you bring a date home in a few months.
2006-12-07 10:54:18 · answer #5 · answered by Humberto 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your whole family needs help. Your poor kids! They'd be better off if u 2 were living sepratly
2006-12-07 11:00:28 · answer #6 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to move on if you are already seperated- and no chance of getting back together
2006-12-07 11:19:55 · answer #7 · answered by gabby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's going to be hard for you to move on still living there so you need to get your own place
2006-12-07 10:54:37 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋