OK here goes im married 10 yrs sep for 3 1/2 of that came back to him in aug 2006 and things arent working for me still the same issues. Now hes working out of state. And we technically are living in the same house even though hes not here because of work. I want to file divorce. How should I do this file while hes gone or wait till he comes home. He has no idea that I want a divorce as far as he knows everything is fine..But I cant handle being accused everytime i leave the house for cheating i have never cheated on him so is this his own insecurity...Someone please help me on this...my main question is do this while hes away or wait till he comeback....thats where im stumped....and should of move and leave his stuff at the house (we r just renting) or should i just stay for the kids sake and move his stuff out.....O my am i confused on this anyone has any advice plz let me know......???CONFUSED???
2006-12-07 10:43:08 · 11 answers · asked by u8pebbles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You cant throw a man out of his own house so if his name is on the lease you better go.You should also know that he can keep everything in the house and you cant do anything about it so I suggest you pack up and file for divorce now!
2006-12-07 11:32:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you should realize you are both grown adults here, stop beating around the bush. Tell him you are filling for a divorce and then HE can decide himself whether or not to come back. Unless there is a threat of physical violence, then be a big girl and tell him how you feel. I am sure he will appreciate you being honest rather than being a sneaky woman. You said you have kids with him and he WILL be in your life on one level or another until you die, might as well keep it as peacefully as you can. Good Luck, do the right thing.
2006-12-07 10:49:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how ruthless you are. Filing while he is out of town will put you at a strategic advantage. In most states, you can't just file for divorce, put his stuff out on the curb, and lock him out of the house. Nor can you take off with his kids. You have to file, and then get a temporary custody order, which is easier to do if he's not around to defend himself. Not very "nice," but . . .
On the flip side, if you file when he's out of town, it will probably make things very, very difficult between you. He'll feel like you stabbed him in the back, and the divorce will turn even nastier.
Spend the money and call a lawyer - even if it's just for an initial consultation.
2006-12-07 10:49:14 · answer #3 · answered by Humberto 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Fill while he is out of town. IF you have a safe place to go, take your children and go there. It will be hard getting back on your own two feet for awhile, but you can do it! And when he come's home from an out of town, he'll get the papers and come home to an empty house! He'll get the idea then! And if he's accussing you of cheating everytime, maybe he's the one who is really doing it and it's bugging the hell out of him! The one to do is the one to accusse. Good luck and hope this has helped you in some way!
2006-12-07 10:48:45 · answer #4 · answered by So you think you know me!? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say if you hate the guy file for divorce while he's gone, otherwise talk to him first and tell him you want a divorce. But hey, I'm not even married, so what do I know.
2006-12-07 10:49:23 · answer #5 · answered by Gustav 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if he's sending home money for the rent, I guess I'd stay, and put his things in a storage.
Once you have filed, inform him you've filed.
I've been accused of cheating, because they were! It was their guilt.
NOW all I do is accuse of any boyfriend. BUT it was bread into me for years.
Don't forget to take him for enough to care for the kids.
2006-12-07 10:49:12 · answer #6 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get professional Help/
Not Yahoo Help.
2006-12-07 10:46:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you stay and move his stuff out he'll be back and it may get ugly...if its over and you no longer want to try get out asap...why wait....PS looked at you 360 profile....nice
2006-12-07 10:51:08 · answer #8 · answered by blueman2 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i hope you have tride to work things out before you go and do any thing rash
2006-12-07 10:45:56 · answer #9 · answered by sumer h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
draw up a prenup. [ I don't know how to spell it] and when he gets back, say "Merry Christmas, you jerk!"
2006-12-07 10:47:22 · answer #10 · answered by ** i Am hiS giRL ** 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋