im 18 and Ive been with my girlfriend for almost 6 months now and dont feel like i love her yet??? is it because we spend too much time together???? we have had a handfull of arguements and broken up 3 times and gotten back together but i feel as though if this was the girl im marrying that i would of loved her the first month we were together...???? i believe two people can fall in love in the first week but dont really know???? HELP!!!!! shes a good girlfriend but we have our differences, should we just really end it next time we get into a big arguement or be patient????we both have a lot in common but just dont feel happy 100% of the time, sometimes she really annoys me!!!by the way i dont have a problem getting girls i just want to be with ONE surprisingly!! what should i do???
2006-12-07 10:37:27 · 9 answers · asked by playboy10888 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The only thing is , if we do break up, i know i will miss her for awhile , but at the same time i know that TIME will change that. I know im young but i feel as though i've had my fun, kinda. i still look at other women, is that wrong??? she can barely go a day without talking to me when i have to work, what will happen when we go to different colleges??? maybe we should just end it now before we both waste anymore time.But i still want her in my life!!!!!!!!
2006-12-07 11:02:02 · update #1
you need to listen to yourself. you have answered your own question. if you don't have the feeling now then you wont later unless you put distance between you. if it is only to date other people but you need some distance. if it is meant to be then when you both grow up some then you will find your back to each other.
2006-12-07 10:56:38 · answer #1 · answered by kathy froggylady40 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try spending 30 days apart, no contact whatsoever, if at the end of the 30 days, you feel no different, nor have you felt a loss during this, then call it over. If you can't last that long, figure out why, and don't let sex be an influencer, I mean that your only 18, and have a long road ahead, and lot's of places on that road, that may be better or have more to offer. If you can't go the 30 days because you miss her, that means she is important. Or here's a better one be truthful, if death was going to take one of you, who would you let him take. And for what reason ? if you said you,why ? if you said her, why?. This is our lesson for the day.
2006-12-07 18:44:16 · answer #2 · answered by thugtwin1@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you really don't want to be with her but you do...I personally feel that it shouldn't take a long time to fall in love with someone. I also think that at 18, you are too young to be thinking about marriage...and especially to someone that you don't even love.
I don't know why you have arguments but if they get so bad that you have broken up over them, then maybe you are not with the right person. Everyone has differences in a relationship, but you need to work them out and not feel like the person is getting on your nerves all the time.
I think you need to reevaluate your relationship and get out if you really don't see it going anywhere. I think you are still young and you need to live life. Lastly, Follow your heart.
2006-12-07 18:44:35 · answer #3 · answered by sexyprincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeap,you should move on,you are clear that you don't love her.
Why stick to this never ending relationship.
There are 3 phase in a relationship
Ist phase=madly in love,that why you want to marry at the beginning.
2ndphase=cooling down,that when the passion go down and you start to see her in a different light and angle,that how you able to see some of her not so delightful character.
3rdphase=hang on or let go.hang on means love exist and let go is relieve for both.
2006-12-07 19:02:35 · answer #4 · answered by Janet Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if it's been over 6 months, you would know if you were "in love" by now. Although you're much too young to be even thinking about marriage, you should still be looking around, but concentrating on your studies. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-07 18:43:32 · answer #5 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it is arther find another one or just for get it or . if you dont just say that it is over u r going to miss her but find the one u love i m am not tryig to be mean you want to kides to dont u so dont wast your life.
2006-12-07 18:52:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 months???? Still not inlove???? Move on before you ended waisting anymore of both your times, before it ends up being years of nothing but waist!
2006-12-07 18:44:07 · answer #7 · answered by So you think you know me!? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are spending to much time togetter may be you'se should give it a break.
2006-12-07 18:40:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It maybe lust and not love.
2006-12-07 18:47:23 · answer #9 · answered by j m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋