My husband an I have decided to go our seperate ways.. but because of finacial reasons we need to live together in the same house for 6 months.. so we thought it would be better not to say anything to anyone .. We both have decided we are both going to live our own lives.. Yes we have kids.. And I really dont know what to do about my wedding ring..??? I dont want to wear it anymore as I think it will give my husband the wrong idea.. and I wouldnt feel comfortable talken with a potential date whilst wearing it .. I just dont want any questions ?? Any ideas..
Ohh yes I know you might say just move out .. sometimes life isnt that simple..
2006-12-07 10:08:13 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My kids are 4 and 10 months .. and my 4 year old has been through a lot one day we had a good day out by ourselves and she said "mum this is the best day ever..there was no fighting.. .. I dont think you can really prepare them .. it is goign to be difficult if we can provide access to both of us fairly I dont think it will be as hard.
2006-12-07 10:17:36 · update #1
Hopefully it wont be difficult we both realised it wasnt working it was a mutual thing .. he knows I tired .. he tried and he knows he couldnt give me what I needed .. he just wants me to be happy
2006-12-07 10:19:24 · update #2
I have tried to work it out... Ive spoken to counsellors and read books Ive told him what i needed and he just wasnt able to do it.. we have been up and down now for quite some time (years really).. trying and retrying .. giving each other another go.. this decission wasnt made lightly .. it has taken months.. it just feels liek its the right time.
2006-12-07 10:22:29 · update #3
Marriage... When two people proclaim there love and commitment .. and then the other person does the same thing.. your not standing up there by yourself ... it takes two.. and it was very one sided.
2006-12-07 10:25:50 · update #4
If you don't want to wear it anymore, don't. It's really nobody elses business. If someone asks, you can say it being repaired.
2006-12-07 10:10:25 · answer #1 · answered by a heart so big 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well a wedding ring symoblises the love and committment between a couple. If that's not there anymore then I would definately be taking it off. Explain to him your reasons for not wearing it so he doesn't take it personally.
It must be awkward to still be living in the same house together. After deciding to end the relationship.
Good luck
2006-12-07 10:12:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I stayed with my ex husband because we had children and it wouldve been harder to just move out. I had to go and live with family because my best friend was moving in......... with my ex husband. Kinda twisted huh??? Dont lie to anyone. Be honest. Take the ring off. But to not make things complicated please wait to be outta the house and into your new settled life before starting again in the dating scene. That way you are totally free and u dont have that uncomfortable feeling. Who cares what people say. If you arent happy and they wonder why u still live there just be honest. What could they possibly do to you??? Judge you??? Oh well..... People can be mean sometimes but go out and start making arrangments to be out on your own while still living in your married home. I know it is tough but just think.......... You get to pick out everything on your own and you dont have to ask him.
2006-12-07 10:17:19 · answer #3 · answered by texaslady78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do what makes you comfortable. However, eventually people will know that your not together and if you are dating then it seems as though you've moved on and maybe shouldn't wear it anymore. Good luck, and just do what you need to do to be happy, it doen't make any difference what other people think of your living situation. Do what's best for you and your children.
2006-12-07 10:12:49 · answer #4 · answered by lisa h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going your seperate ways, I dont think there is any reason to keep wearing the ring. Even though you are still living under the same roof, you both made that agreement to "live your own lives". Dont let your ring keep you from doing that. Good luck to you...
2006-12-07 10:15:20 · answer #5 · answered by Koozie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you are content with your decision to separate.
What you need is a little confidence. Take the ring off. Give yourself some credit. If anybody is looking, just to complement you, having the ring off will help. You may be clinging to it
as a last remembrance of what was. But time to be selfish.
Take it off.
2006-12-07 12:27:52 · answer #6 · answered by rjm96 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a strong proponent of working it out, especially when there is children involved
though if you must separate, in terms of the ring, where it when appropriate, and take it off later.
again, you are still married now, so there shouldnt be any problem wearing it, and you ESPECIALLY shouldnt be dating right now. You have children, and a husband in one house, and can send your kids a very mixed message.
whoever thought divorce was easier than working it out surely started a very bad trend...
2006-12-07 10:12:48 · answer #7 · answered by xrionx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rings are a symbol of the marriage, if you don't want to wear them don't. It is as simple as that. however, in the next six months the two of you may fall in love again. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-07 10:13:51 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you guys are separated and you no longer have any emotional and intimate commitments to each other than girl take off the ring. Embrace your new independence and get rid off old hang ups.
2006-12-07 10:21:05 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it off, the sooner you get rid of that unsightly tan line, the better for dating. If people ask, tell them the truth. If they are close enough to you to notice the ring, they will most likely notice other changes in you and your life anyway.
2006-12-07 10:16:32 · answer #10 · answered by JimmyJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband or ex that you are going to wear for the sake of less drama. That way he knows where you stand. If you are going on a date so soon, just put it in your purse right before.
2006-12-07 10:15:34 · answer #11 · answered by serena3116 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋