My husbands exwife and i do not get along.She hates me because i married her husband (no he did not leave her for me).I can't stand her because she uses her son as bait to control my husband.Plus she has made it very clear she wants me to have nothing to do with thier 8yr old son.Heres the problem my husband and i always have our own b-day/x-mas/graduation party for his son with our family and his ex has her own party with her family for thier son.She always invites my husband only never me to the parties even when she knows we already had one for his son.My husband always says i can go too but how would u feel going to a party where u know u are not welcome.i went once and she and her family spent the whole time glaring at me not fun.My husband hates her as much as i do but he always goes for his son's sake.I feel as long as we have our own party for his son there is no reason for him to go to the one she is having. Its the ex that always invites him too not his son.
2006-12-07 10:02:58 · 9 answers · asked by janevincent1974 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You know you can throw awesome parties yourself. and The ex can or not be invited by your own terms.
If it is the child then just let the child go to the parties with the ex, the husband needs to cut all ties with her, except let the visistations, and parties only be at the interest of the child.
Your husband needs to respect you, by not going to any of the parties with the ex!!!!
That life is over and he needs to move on and live with is life with his wife now.
HIs family and you can go to the parties and etc with the child,and so can the ex.
But your husband does not need to partipipate with the ex, and her family. ONly the child!!!!!
2006-12-09 08:24:31 · answer #1 · answered by ourjacobdavid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you are going to have to deal with this psychotic heifer for the next 10 years. Number one, do not let her know how much it bothers you. And no, I would not go to the party either. And you should give your husband some slack, he is doing it for his son, and I commend him for this..The child is the important factor here. And I am sure he only spends a minimal amount of time over there just to make a appearance. And it is probably important to his son that he does this. Find something to do with some girlfriends when he has to be in attendance, and make the best of it. I am sure it is really horribly difficult. She is obviously a very miserable individual. The most you can do is pray she finds someone quick to occupy her time and dig her venomous claws into. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-07 10:09:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the ex is still playing the husband. She probably thinks it will make her look good if she asks him to go. Does she seem to care a lot about appearances?? The son seems smart enough to know that it's not a good situation.
I don't think the dad needs to be going but I would ask the son how he feels about his dad being there first. He may really like him there but I have a feeling he doesn't. I wouldn't be tagging along though...like you said you have your own parties for him anyway.
Good luck...manipulating exwives suck!! I deal with one too!!
2006-12-07 10:09:41 · answer #3 · answered by The Steele's 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you, you are in a bad position. I only had one experience like that, but wanted to give my support, and input. Only you and your husband can really solve this problem, but two things to think about. You can either go like you did before, act like it doesn't bother you,(you DO have every right to accompany YOUR husband & STEPSON,). OR you can insist that YOUR husband tell his ex he will have his own party, and DECLINE her invitation, (he should do this out of respect for you anyway)! You know how to talk to him mabe he needs to hear how DISTRESSED you are.
I had to go to my stepsons wedding otherwise my husband dealt like I said in this. My ex(and his current "friends") comes to our grandchildrens birthday parties and of course our childrens weddings ect. I don't like, he don't like, but we ignore each other, and if MY husband is made that unconfortable in a similar to your situation, you bet I would back him.
2006-12-07 10:22:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Inheriting a baby from divorce is somewhat tricky. that's tricky no longer in straightforward terms for the father and mom yet for the baby additionally. I even have an 11 year previous son who lives with me and my ex-spouse lives someplace else. I even have been in circumstances the place I even have had to fly to %. up my son and stay at my ex-spouse's homestead for the night previously we capture a flight homestead. i know how awkward it relatively is to be in somebody else's homestead, even although we are civil human beings. You and your husband at the instant are not obligated to bypass to a secondary occasion given with the help of the ex-spouse. that's something you and your husband might desire to stand. Your life alongside with your husband is between you and him. The time his son spends along with his mom is his different kinfolk. in case you have a occasion for him, super. If his mom has a occasion for him, stable for her. As your stepson gets older he will understand extra the separation of families and study to settle for it. in basic terms love him the way you opt for your individual little ones and each thing would be high quality.
2016-10-14 05:44:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh god, in really in for a good one!!! I have the same exact problem except that his ex has destroyed our relationship, don't lower yourself to her level. I made the mistake of believing in him, completely. If your man finds it necessary to go the party then next one that comes say OK I'll go and see what he says. make it all the way up to the drive way with him, and accidentally drop that cranberry juice you had in your hands and go home. That way you made your presents known that you were going but by the graces of god you had to go home and change.
2006-12-07 10:11:15 · answer #6 · answered by javijavi3ra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she still has feelings for him. no matter what she wil always have feelings for him and i know this is annoying that she is doing this but try to be the better person and talk to your hasband and her and see if that helps at all
2006-12-07 10:07:22 · answer #7 · answered by liz s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should go and when she asks you why you were their you can say we did stuff for your son so i should be invited to yours!!
2006-12-07 10:07:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Iam in a blended family.........so wats the problemo? kluck kluck patty watty buk buk juk luk tukkkkkk jkhaskfjhrkjtbszdfv!!!!!
I dont care about ur problems!!!!!
Got to a christian church!!!
2006-12-07 10:07:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋